Can't orgasm with boyfriend

So I've been with this guy for about a year and he's the only one that I've been with sexually and well... I've never had an orgasm with him. At first it wasn't too huge of a problem. As much as I wanted to be able to, I still just enjoyed being close and intimate with him.

Now... it does take a while for me to get myself off also, a half hour at the VERY least, but usually more around an hour, though just because of my sex drive I usuallly would about 3 times a week. A few times I would stop masturbating between the times when we were able to see each other (we're both pretty busy so we don't actually see each other a ton) and would go about 3 weeks without having an orgasm and still wouldn't be able to with him.

Not for the lack of his trying, though. We'd always do a lot of foreplay and occasionally he'd finger me a little bit afterwards. It always feels amazing and as I said I'm happy just being close to him like that.

But this last time... it became a little bit of a problem. He pleasured me for almost an hour before we actually had sex and then afterwards he continued to finger me until I told him to just not worry about me and he told me that he wanted me to enjoy myself also. I just told him that I do enjoy myself when I'm with him but he gave me a doubtful look. We actually ended up having sex again and pretty much the same pattern followed. He pleasured me until I told him to forget about it, honestly by that point I was just angry at myself. Either way he said something along the lines of that he doesn't mind doing it and that he owes it to me. I just told him that I was fine, though he didn't seem too happy about it.

I really don't want to be like a lot of women and fake an orgasm just to make him happy. I'd feel like I was lying and it wouldn't actually help anything. I'm not sure why this is happening, though.

I guess it's just the anxiety about how long I might take so I end up unintentionally sabotaging myself and being distracted, but I'm really not sure how to fix it or how to bring this up to him so he doesn't feel bad in the meantime while I'm figuring it out.

Any suggestions?

 

you mentioned it took you at least 30 minutes for you to give yourself an orgasm and at least you can do that, some woman can't or wont even try.

I like to please a woman and if I can't make her cum then it gets hard on my mind. I know some women are easily distracted that makes it hard. I had one that if the TV was on it would make her loose focus, even the sound of the fish tank but WE tried till she did.

Do you guide him? I know a lot of woman won't cum with intercourse but have you tried playing with yourself when he is having sex with you? It's never an insult to me if she jumps in and helps.

if he is going down on you and is just a little off do you move him over or hope that he finds that spot? We can't read minds.

Try setting up some candles and surprising him one night, warm bath or shower together and try to relax, the more you don't cum the more it will get frustrating for him and you.

 

how old are you?? if youre under 20 its normal usually girls get their first real orgasms starting at the age of 19-20.
maybe u try something to variate your sex. ask him to bang with a dildo if ure using one for your masturbation.. its way more fun when you tell your partner what to do and how and when then doing it to yourself getting your hand tired in the middle.. and try a bigger cock even or a dildo thats bigger than his.. try different things youre only in the beggining of your sex life and everyone is a pervert in bed and those that arent just dont know about it.
also it can be that one of you is less emotional than the other or you just dont play enough before the penetration.. when he gets into you you should be wanting to eat him alive and his cock get as horney as possible before the first penetration and u will have that orgasm for sure even with a finger. mayeb youre just not very attracted to him you know everything of that could be the reason for your orgasm absence. try watching porn before you fuck ffs and do what they do in the movie. it is a good turn on for both girl and a guy. you might discovert your pervert side and things you never thought of doing from just watching porn movies.,,

 

op-...get a new boyfriend...

 

I am going with, the new boyfriend thing too.
Watching porn is a bad idea I think, porn has turned into nothing but themeless crap about anal and bondage and unless you are already into that then it's not a good idea.
Get into some toys and explain to him what helps, especially when he gets near sending you there, or if it's him then you might need a guy with more action and knowledge about what gets women off. Sounds like you have tried lots and can't get there and that's not good, also try not masturbating, it can desensitize you to his actions when together.