Are you totally free to enjoy your bi encounters or is it a quickie and go. One of the best part about it is relaxing and lavishing in all of the pleasure that your bi experiences can offer. Its even better when you can share these feelings with your spouse.
With my regular FB, it's mostly a quick make-out, suck and fuck. There's the unfortunate time constraint of my lunchtime when we meet. But, I've connected with a couple other men where we spent a few hours together. Just few and far between.
My man and I prolong our time together when either or both of our wives are present. We also enjoy those quickies from time to time too. Just having a guy (past 11 years now for me) that enjoys giving and received blow jobs as much as I do is so great.
during my first experiences with other men I would talk to them about taking time and all but once they came it was like get the fuck out dude....so I started using more filters in deciding who I would get together with....ended up with some long term relationships as an oral bottom that were really satisfying because we'd talk after the sex was over and then maybe start again. The quickie just wasn't my thing even as instinctually driven as sex for a male can be...
I agree, it was fine for a while when I first discovered how much I do enjoy sucking cock and how quick I can get him off. As time went on I too was wanting to prolong the experiences not with just oral sex but with some intelligent conversation. I remember one guy in particular I was involved with a couple times a week for almost a year. We would spend about an hour in bed taking turns sucking each others cocks, slowly, sensually, building each other up for the most intense orgasm. We'd then proceed naked to his back porch and just talk for about an hour before returning to his bedroom for another hour of sensual oral sex.
It’s been a long time.But I for me personally almost all my same sex hook ups were super long,multiple orgasm type encounters.I started at a young age (teenage years) took a long break after my early 20’s and a couple years in my late 30’s.The biggest advantage of my encounters from my perspective was how much I personally enjoyed the sex without all the bullshit that comes with sex with a woman.I had my share of quickies with men but they were the minority
First, I define "bisexual" simply as people who have any type of sexual activity with both men and women. With that unambiguous definition in mind, I have observed that many bisexual men are actually homophobic, and that can be a major reason why they tend to blow-and-go. However, most gay men and many bisexual men have ditched their homophobia. They discovered that the Earth will not spin off its axis if they linger with the man they just got off with. Male-male sex is better when you drop your fears and lavish in the intimacy, just as it is with women. I was lucky to discover this in my first encounter with a bi man, and it was reinforced in my friendships with other non-homophobic bi and gay men.
I only meet men online and I am very open that if they are a the "wham bam" type I'm not interested. I can only host and will always have porn on the TV. I like to sit and watch porn and fondle and stroke a man's cock and balls and lean over and suck his cock far a bit then watch some more gradually spending more and more time sucking until one of us just needs to cum then I'm all in. My regular suck buddy has the same likes, so things work out nicely. You want to enjoy my mouth around your cock you are going to have to let my enjoy myself.
I totally agree, my bisexual friend--on both your main statements. I think our society has really done a number on all of its citizenry, brainwashing us into believing that two people of the same-sex having sex together is unnatural and even evil. I believe almost every boy or man who develops desire for other guys has struggled with this internally, let alone externally with others' opinions, reinforcing the internal struggle. So there are a LOT of (dare we say MOST) bisexual, and even most homosexual, men who never get over this, and express this through the quick and go. Then it just becomes so familiar to them, that they think that's all they want. I caught myself in that category myself, because for the first 21 years of my getting naked with other men, it was all about the anonymous oral quickies in different sex venues for me, and always struggling with trying to understand my sexuality. Then something dramatically changed for me. I rimmed and fucked my first guy, and that really opened up the gay part of me that was for the most part quite repressed. The experience of that level of intimacy with another guy brought that gay side of me fourth, allowed me to really see it, and not only accept it, but love it. I became proud of my bisexuality. Then, with a mind of hindsight, I was able to see that it was homophobia that was making me do that kind of behaviour for 21 years. So I stopped all anonymous encounters and I've just been getting together with other guys in each other's homes for the last 8 years. Most have unfortunately still been quickies, because that's where these guys were at. But I definitely wanted, and fortunately was able to enjoy a tiny few, longer get-togethers, each of us enjoying the beautiful intimacy that we could share. But there still aren't enough guys that are there, I find, at least not in my part of the world. I am still looking for that FWB, at least, with whom I can enjoy a friendship and lots of loving sex together, slowly exploring giving pleasure to each other, and having wonderful connection, through sex and through conversation and friendship. Ultimately, I fantasize about having a boyfriend, but so far I haven't had romantic feelings for another guy. I actually think that's part of some lingering homophobia in me as well. There is one guy that I actually really liked a lot, and began dating, as in going out for dinners together, eating together at home, snuggling up on the sofa to watch TV, having long conversations about everything possible, and having lots of wonderful sex. That's what I really wanted, and I found it with him. Unfortunately I wasn't in love with him, though I liked him a lot, but he was looking for a male partner, having recently come out as gay and divorcing his wife. I so wished I had those kinds of feelings for him that he was looking for in another man. He was perfect in every other way. But, alas, we drifted apart, and he eventually moved to the other side of Canada to find the love that he was looking for, because in our area gay men are just looking for quick casual sex. Gosh, I really miss him. But I truly hope he has found the love that he so deserves.
Not only do I lavish, I revel in the pleasure and intimacy. Be it the hot hard exchange of vying for dominance, the warm friendly give and take of two lovers on the same plane, or the overwhelming pleasure when giving over to one powerful enough to uncork my submissive side. The more engaged me and my playmate are the better it is. There's little to compare to the kind of physical and emotional enjoyment I have when my mind goes along for the ride. It's about being in the moment, having all the sensations wash over and through me. I love the build up and ensuing explosion of our climax. After, we lay wrapped together, sweaty, sated, sure there's more to come.
I always share my feelings with my wife of my bi experiences...........it always leads to us making love!
