Can you find one thing you like about someone you 'hate'

Human nature. We see our ugliness in others. People accuse you of what thier guilty of. Love that Esher pic Top notch

 

i think that is really true sometimes....!


i have a bad habit of forgiving people too easily, not cutting ties when i really should... it can be a bad thing to be too easily forgiving...
i guess!!!! hahaha

 

I'm the same way, but if I really hate someone, then there will be no forgiveness.

 

Me too =[

 

The only people Ive ever hated have been those that I've seen inflict real pain on someone weaker than them. Even then, I usually find something I like about that person. I may hate their inner core but like some of their superficial qualities, or vice versa see through to their inner core and like it but hate the qualities they choose to show people.

 

Sometimes cutting ties is necessary in order to forgive someone.

 

There are only two people I hate,one set me up to be beaten to an inch of my life, the other tried to kill me.

There is nothing I can ever like about them.

 

One thing to hate someone..but it's another to be vengeful. I hate my Brother..but i wouldn't wish anything on him....i just could live without seeing his fat face as long as i live lol. He is probably the most abusive person i know ...a bully and a womanizer. My dog doesn't even like him lol...

 

yeah, i feel some things are unforgivable too.. as deep and happy as my heart is a lot, it feels like an impossibility to forgive some things...

maybe so!!
i have only known cutting ties as a divisive thing, that tears people apart... and forgiveness i feel like is best when it is about embracing somebody...

 

That statement is usually true, people are such hypocrites it's amazing we aren't all dead yet.

 

the hated, much like the loved, are impressionable. you have to admire the person who you hate, because they are able to clearly effect you in a way most others cannot.

so to be hated or loved, is to be remembered.

 

I would question that. The person who causes me great harm and pain may well earn my hatred but I doubt I'll feel much admiration. Remember them, yes, but on the same level one might remember the snake that bit them. At least that would be true for me, as for others???

 

generally if i actually hate a person it's for something severe enough that it cannot be overcome

as far as hating because of traits that one might possess - who says one cannot hate themself?

 

I "hated" my boss for years. (Hate is really such a strong word tho - but it's also common usage so I'll use it).

But I have many times said to friends that I thank him for being such an ass - because that is what, years ago, started me on the path of living modestly so that I could retire early from the rat race - which I have now done. If he was not such a total ass I might still be working and living less modestly (and hence unable to have retired early).

My having lived in such a way that I could retire early is almost completely due to his total-asshole'ishnish over years. For that I thank him.

 

why do you remember the bite of a snake, rather than say, the ant?

 

the greater harm done

 

sounds to me like the snake has landed the greater of impressions. isn't that a commendable thing? subconsciously, you have recognised its strength.

 

Not if it's a bad impression.

If you walk up to me and say, "Hello, nice to meet you," and I reply with, "Fuck off asshole," you'll likely remember that for awhile. It's hardly commendable, more of a bad impression.

 

hmm, i only just learned to hate again, it had been a while :mickey:

i'd have to go with topnotchstoner and say that i can see things i can respect in someone i hate ....... but i can't like it

Hate is a strong emotion, if ya try to water it down with a bit of "like" it can't be hate no more

 

I agree here...although I can't say I particularly "hate" anyone, there is one person I can't and never will get along with...and I can't find many things I like about her because her and I are so different in so many ways. I respect things about her but our differences really make it difficult to like anything.

I think my reasoning is because I hold grudges and I hold a very big, deep, dark grudge against her and I probably always will