Greetings! My name is Oisin (pronounced Oh-sheen), and I'm new here. I am looking for like-minded individuals who might help me along a path I'm walking in my life right now. You see, a friend of mine died a year ago and a mutual friend --- an old school chum --- confided in my over a few stouts that he'd had feelings for our mate but never told him. We found out at the funeral that the deceased never married and his friends were obviously gay-friendly. My chum's heart is broken because of what might have been and now it is too late. That got me thinking about my own secret love affair, a buddy from school who has divorced. We quit being friends about thirty years ago when he was engaging in some risky behavior I didn't want to be part of. We never had sex, but it was obvious that emotionally, we were in love. When we went to college, we got really close and I think it scared him since he acts straight. He spurned me and I left, broken hearted, to return home to finish my studies. I have reached out to him via social media and we've reconciled that old spat. He admits he was a poor friend, too. But his job takes him all over the world and we've never been able to meet in the flesh to catch up. It makes me realize, when I take off the 'rose colored glasses' that he was kind of like that when we were young...never having time for me, always on the run. So, I'm a bit worried that I might be letting the good memories overcast the bad realities of a relationship with him. (I'll call him Jim). Jim may not be any better material for a long-term love than he was before. Any way, I am hoping some on this forum may have some experience reuniting with old loves and could help me find my way. Hope this is not too much "introduction".
Sure, why not?...but talk to Jim and tell him you want to meet up.....or maybe you are just living a fantasy for so long.....Good luck to you.
If I was in that situation, I would be honest with him. If he doesn't give me what I want and need, then I'll move on to someone who does give me what I want and need. But, obviously you are not me, so it depends on whatever you feel comfortable doing. So, whatever you decide to do is going to be right for you.
From my experience love can grow pver the years. I am married since now 43 years and me and my wife have the feeling our love has grown especially in the last decade. Sometimes I think I love my wife much more than previously. I am addicted to her in love-
Thread is a year old, OP long gone But binotout says it all, wants a long term relationship with a man, but has to hide everything from who exactly? That parts all just too much work in the end. OP can make himself sound like the more relationship orientated one, but just as likely this Jim didnt want anything to do with him, cos A) He's not gay B) Not actually going to be the relationship orientated one. Just wants a guy thats going to be around to suck him off when he feels the urge....and that will be the sum total of a 'relationship'
