Hi. I’m new here, and wanted to introduce myself. I’m too sexually minded for my own good, but am looking to find out who else relates with me, and how they handle their desires and cravings My wife has a lot of hang-ups, and she won’t explore outside the norm, so I’m left to explore hidden pleasures on my own. HELP!! I’ve struggled for years, and I keep hoping she’ll come around, but I’m afraid she won’t change. Who else like this is out there? Male or female, what’s your take?
I was at the same situation when I got marry 40 years ago. My wife has had highly sexual desire but at normal behavor. She likes everything in its natural way and she believes if you involve in any unusual sexual behaviors you would not leave them any more. On the other hand I have a lot of sex desires inclouding masturbation addiction since I was a teen. So, I have tried to involved her to enjoy together but she did not agree. Beside the normal sex activites with her masturbation was the only extra sexual activities which I liked to do mutual. Short story, I had to hide masturbating and do it personaly for 40 years. It is not needed to say I and my wife have had a highly sex activities even now. I think try to talk to her and involve her gradually otherwise you should keep everything privately. Of course hiding you sexual desire should not effect nagatively your marriage relasionship.
Sorry, I will offer you an answer you won't like. I believe she will not change, but I hope I am wrong. I suggest a deep conversation, or writing her a letter if it's awkward for either one of you. Explain what you are missing and express you want her to be the one to experience with. No hint of "or else", no comparing with past experiences. Those will destroy things.
I wish I could give a magic formular but I can't I just try my best and I do warn people about how I am
