Came out as bi, not received well

In my youth, I came out as bi to my girlfriend at the time, who freaked out worried that I was going to turn gay.

We got past it dated for a while longer before she moved away and then we were friends who shared our sex stories until I started getting serious with my wife and she truly freaked out.

I may still have scars from her freaking out that I would turn gay.

 

As a former Relationship Counsellor and studied psychology ,one reason is that she may feel inadequate ,that her loved one has had to turn to other ways to be sexually satisfied . Its not vastly different than being 2 timed .Some may go further and regard it as cheating .
Another likely factor and also linked to my previous statement is jealousy .

 

Well of course jealousy, man or woman it’s still cheating, you can’t be married to a woman and expect her to except that you sleep with men.

 

I think we are in agreement

 

What man, at the height of banging passion, doesn't like the the woman shoving a finger or two, pulling the trigger, and making it so much better?

 

What's required here, I think, is open mindness.

My wife knew about me when we had a menage with my good friend. She watched. Later on she did it to me with her dildo up my backside. She didn't quite understand, but she was encouraging that I explore that part of me. Too bad I can't find a man like that.

 

I can dream, can't I?

Just someone who makes coffee in the morning?

 

OK, silliness aside.

I truly think honesty is required. How open minded is the wife? How old are the children? Can the children handle the split?

So many complex troubles that I think should be handled one at a time. I don't have all the answers, I only have an ear. This forum is filled with wisdom and wit. Seek it. Do the opposite of what's advised, it's your choice. Just know that idiots like me are here for you.

 

Im sorry...... Anyone who doesnt understand isnt worth your time..

You are better for being able to love both sex's

Love to you my friend

 

If your wife has seen you enjoying a dildo in your ass, then it's probably safe to assume she suspects you're at least bi-curious.
My wife and I have bought butt plugs and a strap on dildo to use on me, but she knows I'm bisexual and love having my ass played with

 

Does your wife know you lean more towards being gay, and if so, how does she feel about that?
My wife often makes comments saying she thinks I'm "more gay than straight", but I'm definitely not. I'm just a bisexual guy who happens to be a bottom with men