Came out as bi, not received well

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  1. BiRob

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    I finally came out as bi, but have received negative responses. My wife wasn't too surprised but supportive...
     
    BiRob, Oct 28, 2020
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  3. Paulievcvc

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    Your wife is all that counts.
     
    Paulievcvc, Oct 29, 2020
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  5. soulpoker

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    Good for your wife. Sorry about the others.
     
    soulpoker, Oct 30, 2020
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    Congrats...All that matters is what your wife thinks. Enjoy your freedom now!
     
    LowHangers, Nov 2, 2020
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    I really want to suck a cock
     
    Johnson0909, Oct 1, 2021
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  11. AstroShark

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    Screw them haters!
    Keep being you sir!
     
    AstroShark, Oct 1, 2021
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    You will find out who your true friends are now. Hang in there!
     
    arizonacook, Oct 4, 2021
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    Who are you getting negative response from?
     
    maturemale3346, Oct 11, 2021
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    Your wife is what counts most. Do you have children, and if so do they now know?
     
    UnusualUsual, Oct 20, 2021
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    If it was me and my wife would be ok with it, I’d come out to her and only her. As far as other friends and family, none of their business.
     
    Biodome1980, Nov 7, 2021
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    I came out to my wife and no one else. On the surface she says that she suspected that I was different than other men she knew but deep down I believe that she is questioning her own femininity.. I've told her that my sexual orientation has nothing to do with her that I knew that I was at least bi leaning towards gay from before puberty
     
    Justme22863, Dec 18, 2021
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    I think all men & women are at least a little bit bi. Many will never act on it or even admit it, but I suspect most people even if only very occasionally will at least fantasize about it.
     
    Very Fast Car, Dec 23, 2021
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    I agree. …. Kinda like the ‘bell curve’ …. There’s at least a little bit of each of us in all of us. …
    Now we just have to be able to admit that to each other, and enjoy.
     
    EZGoing, Dec 24, 2021
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    I'm a little bit bi... I still occasionally sleep with my wife
     
    Justme22863, Dec 24, 2021
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  29. SantaCruzRob

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    Still don't see the point of telling other people that I'm bi. Seems to cause a lot of stress and lost friendships.
     
    SantaCruzRob, Apr 26, 2022
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    I agree. In fact, unless someone is interested or hitting on me, I see no reason to tell anyone anything about my orientations.
     
    Duncan, Apr 26, 2022
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    I've kind of been thinking about this lately. I resent coming out is a thing. We can say in casual conversation I like blondes, I like tall, and so on. Saying I like the same sex should be on the same level. It isn't. But society is getting there, at least US and western Europe. Unfortunately queer awareness gets you hurt or arrested or worse in Russia, Africa, Arab countries.
     
    soulpoker, Apr 26, 2022
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    interesting...
     
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    It must be a personal choice. Nobody needs to disclose their sexual orientation unless it impacts them in a negative way to keep it a secret. Also, secrets kept have a way of being exposed. One person may not think anything about it; another person may be impacted deeply by it. I needed to come out for myself. I knew it would hurt my wife and possibly alienate me from my children... but the fact that I had not been honest up front weighed heavily on me. It reminded me of being a very light skinned black person in a room full of white people who were making jokes or negative comments about Blacks. I felt like a fake and a liar. I found peace I didn't have before even though it was rough going
     
    thepapasmurph, Apr 29, 2022
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    My wife does not know that I am bi but she has seen me with my dildo in my ass.
     
    emptypockets, Aug 15, 2022
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