Buying a Sex Toy

Ok. Like a lot of people I have been meaning to try a sex toy for some time. I say "I", I mean "we". What has stopped me?
I'm certainly not a prude. Nor do I have any overt problems in the bedroom.
Nor am I afraid or intimidated. I'm fully aware of the smallness of my own equipment and have learned to accept nothing can be done there.

I would, however, like my girlfriend to get "more" out of sex. I try to use tongue and fingers, but they both cramp around the 30 min mark and I think its time to bring in a toy.
But which one?

A good old fashioned dildo? A small vibrator to be used in combination with penetration? A penis ring? So much to choose from and so little money to spend.
Perhaps someone would share some experiences. What worked and what didn't? Why? What does a dildo do that a vibrator doesn't? And will a dildo simply make the penis redundant? What is easy to use, does not cramp any style and goes naturally with sex?

I thought about one of those vibrating finger things for pleasuring her, but would a cock ring kill two birds with one stone?
Is there perhaps some "set" or "gift pack" out there (amazon, etc) that can give a test of the selection available?

Hope to hear from you all.
I.R.

 

Suggestion:

Ask her. Sometimes producing a sex toy unexpectedly doesn't produce the reaction you were anticipating.

If you're a couple, it should be a couple thing.

 

I remember the reaction I got when I went to use the first sextoy I bought to use on my wife. She didn't know I had it when I went under the bed sheets & pulled her underwear down. As soon as I went to insert it into her vagina, she asked what the hell are you using ! I told her it was sextoy & I wanted her to let me try it out on her.
She said she preferred the real thing (penis) & not something artificial.
So I had to settle for her choice instead. You win some brownie points & loose some.
I did buy some duo balls at a later date & she had her opinions on them as well.
I also bought a hip g spot vibrator to give her a bit more 'turned on' options.
Now I use it as a prostate massager instead. Just as well it's unisex lol

 

Have you tried fisting her?

 

just ask her.

you could get one of those penis extender contraptions, if you're really that insecure.

 

I like to think of myself as a sex toy.

 

It sure would not hurt to ask her what she might be interested in! A small vibrator that can be used well you are having sex or giving oral would be a good start.

As for your mouth getting sore after about 30 min of giving her oral just keep at it. Just like any muscles the more you use it the less it will cramp up. Do it often enough for a long time and the pain will go away. I am sure she will not complain that you are doing it to much.

 

Are we allowed to post links? I have a lot of good suggestions


Meh. Either way, a vibrating cock ring is a good place to start if both of you are new to toys. It works on both of you without the intimidation of something too freaky looking.

 

Well, this thread is a few months old. The OP has since acquired some toys. Just sayin'.....

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?p=7704146#post7704146

 

Yes, but only got the width of four of my fingers in her vagina & that was enough for her.

 

I'd like to test your product!!!

 

About Quiet Storm
Biography
I'm not here to flirt, cam, or talk sex with anyone.

 

You really had to go into someone's profile for some sort of ammunition?

Gay.

 

Ammunition? There's no fight here.

Gay???? You hatin'?

 

Peep my profile, bro. ;-)

 

I did. That's why I had to ask.

 

Oh. =p
I hate on everyone, though.
The gay community is probably one of my pet hates even though I'm fruity myself.

 

Ach .... how miserable.

 

No it's a good thing. It keeps my wits about me.
The world is too dangerous of a place to be so... giving and accepting. That'll get you into trouble one day. It's easier for me to hate everyone and offer zero trust! That way I don't get hurt.

 

I'm not giving and accepting. And trust needs to be earned.

But I decided a while back that it would be a waste of energy to hate everyone.