Hello. My partner and I have been having regular butt sex for about 6 months now. As long as I had a good bowel movement a half hour before hand there was never any problem. More recently, and for the past few months, no matter what I do there has always been a lot of poop by the entrance, making the whole thing gross and a bit impractical. I just want things to go back to how they were, does anyone know what I can do about this, ideally avoiding invasive enemas.
Pangolins, here is something I posted awhile back on this issue and how my wife & I deal with it: I have posted about our way of dealing with the cleanliness issue on the Women's Health Anal Sex forum at About.com This forum has been going on for years and has over 2,000 posts! My post starts at #2250. I'll clip & paste it here: She lies on her right side with her left leg drawn up. I gently massage her anus with my lubed thumb (we use Alberto VO5 hair dressing). I massage her while telling her how sexy and beautiful she is but she does not want me to insert any fingers at this point. Then I gently push my dick in, stopping when she commands, allowing her to be in control of my movements. I push in slowly until I am about 3/4 inserted and then I hold still allowing her to relax. At this point she asks me to pull out slowly and check for “intruders”. I lube up my index and middle fingers and go up inside her, checking for any fecal matter. (It is easier to feel it with the fingers than with the dick.) If something is there she goes to the bathroom and then we start again with a bit of massage but this time the insertion is much easier. By making a little game out of finding the feces early on we avoid any embarrassing incidents later on. This also draws out the love making and I am very much in favor of making it last longer!!
There are a few things you could do. Keep some disposable exam gloves and some anal lube by the toilet. Use the gloves and lube to examine your rectum with your finger to see how things are. If you're grossed out by poop on the glove, you can quickly turn it inside-out as you take it off and flush it down the toilet. If it's a thin, light-weight glove it won't stop up the toilet. If you repeat this a few times, especially if you can put two fingers in your rectum, you can "dig" the poop out. I've actually done this with a gf who was constipated. A lot depends on whether the poop is soft or has formed into stools. Soft poop is obviously more messy. There are a few different kinds of enemas, and I'm not sure why you dislike them as "invasive." All you really need is about a cup of plain water to wash out the rectum without leave water inside you that may get on the sheets later. I prefer the small bulb syringe available in most pharmacies. Fill the lavatory with warm water, squeeze the bulb and let it draw as much water as it will. Then remove it from the water, hold the tip straight up, and squeeze to get the air out. Put the tip back in the water, let go and it will fill up the rest of the way. The point is not to squeeze air into your rectum. Use a little lube on the tip, gently insert the tip in your anus and gently squeeze in a little water. Then expel the water into the toilet in a normal bowel movement. You can repeat as necessary. When the water coming out of you is fairly clean, you're ready to go. Also I highly recommend using baby wipes to clean your bottom when you're done. They're gentle and make you feel really clean and fresh. If you still have insecurities about passing air or water while having anal sex, put a towel on the bed and stay on your back.
Wow, with all this work and the scary visual of poop and having to Dig it while about to have sex I sure am glad I love what my V does for me. Don't mind me but the more I read the more I get turned off by the thought of it. And seriously I came here to see what's the hype about with an open mind,,, Now here is my advice on it anyway. If you have leaky butt issues you likely need to eat nore fiber or do a gut clean. Not those hyped up kits they sell for thirty bucks, lemons in water will help as well as fibers of veggies or good breads for ease of choices. Usually peeps who have this show up have a lining going on in the intestines that runs as soft shit as it wants and it travels with farts and other fluid movements. Drink more water and eat clean for a while, should clear up and if not you may have bowl issues that need medical attention.
Sally, I cyberlove you, gal, but you'd have to have a penis to understand the hype. The tightness around the shaft and the warmth and softness of the rectum around the head is indescribable. Plus, to me there's nothing more beautiful and sensual than the soft smoothness of a woman's butt as I feel my testicles against her labia. I understand that 90% of women have attitudes about anal sex that are typically 1) WTF is this all about, 2) this is so gross and disgusting, and 3) get out of me, this really hurts! But 90% of love is giving someone you care about something they really want. Life is like that in all ways, not just with sex.
I get that some guys like it, the only thing that irritates me in some cases is that it seems some guys expect it and come here to complain their wife or girl friend doesn't, that gets me all over them. If the woman doesn't it's likely due to the grossness of the whole idea or because they gave it a shot once and didn't like it but once offered and then refused it ruins their relationship. Now if I had a penis,,, I can't see me being the kind to want it where the body puts out it's waste. Maybe if I was a guy but poop is a very dirty product of the body and it carries all of the unwanted bits (buggy stuff) that if not removed would make us very sick in a short time so let's say my guy stuck it in my ass then wanted to stick it in my puss,,, well it's my own butt but still, no freakin way would that ever happen. The sex organs IMO should never meet the waste organs. They have totally different purposes and should be used as such they were meant for. While reading what peeps go through to do this butt sex thing it makes me wonder why, why such a big deal? And the enema thing, really? You are not even supposed to practice that unless needed, cleaning as such messes with the natural flora of the anus and intestines. Yes eating good foods to clean the body is a good idea but to do extras so you can insert stuff might be an over kill method the body doesn't care for while it has it's own natural way of doing so. Do you do butt sex often? Does this enema thing happen every time then? If I had to do enemas for sex I would make my guy do them too, he would likely take an insertion of something as well. It's just too easy to say you want to do it but does your woman really like it or do some of them do it for other reasons? My butt is clean so there is nothing I would want to do to it besides showers and baths as normal and my bet is butt sex requires more, like the guy above said, flushing, enemas and scooping poop out. Just,,, ikkk, now I can't have sex tonight, dammit.
just eat fiber rich diet and avoid junk food that turns in to hard stool. Keep good habit of going to toilet early in the morning. Drink lot of water. Will empty your stomach completely.
I guess you should remember to use the toilet at least 40 minutes before, shower and maybe a bulb cleaning (it is really easy and stress free) it should solve all the problems. Remember only that after using bulb you need some time for everything to flush from you. We have anal sex often and we never had any hygiene problems. Changing diet a bit also might help.
My mom and dad did similar for a colonoscopy recently butt they had to use this stuff called Peg, to make sure it was all out, talk about a long meeting with Mister Porcelain, the big white ass telephone. Dad said he nearly had a conversation with Beulah while on there it was so bad.
Anal sex is not for everyone, and not everyone like it. I would never imagine having anal sex with my Fiancee if she did not want it. I can suggest it sometimes, but only because I know she likes it and has orgasms in this way to, and we started because she mentioned it. Still it is always her decision, and I would never press her. We have great sex life without anal sex as well. It is just one of the many things we do. What I wrote is from our experience. I assumed they both like it. In every sex there is a risk of infections, etc. When someone decides on something he/she should know it. However there is no need to demonize anything. We have regular anal sex for very long time, and never had any problems. We just are always sure to be careful and remember about hygiene. As for enema I am against it. However bulb cleaning is something else. It just puts small amount of water very shallowly to wash out the waste.
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quick small dildo in the shower, keep lubing and cleaning it if there's any mess, reinsert. you end up clean and lubed to go after
