Broken... Gf of 7 months left and rebounded w/ ex

So long story short my gf of 7 months who I was madly in love with just left me. Without going into too many details, basically she left because my life took a downward spiral due to business ventures that went bad. It affected our lifestyle and although she tried to stick it through, with the holidays coming around she just couldn't deal anymore.

It totally took me by surprised and crushed me. She was truly the love of my life. Someone I thought was my best female friend, and now we don't even talk anymore. And to make it even worse not even a week after she breaks it off with me, she rebounds to her ex bf.

I know what I have to do. I know she's rebounding hard and overcompensating with the ex to try and replace the void of me, and I know she will be begging to get back together with me once she comes to. Obviously I have some things I need to fix with myself before I even consider getting in another relationship with her (or anyone for that matter).... but I guess I'd just like to hear from others who have been through similar experiences and how it all worked out. Did your ex come back? If so how did things end up? Did you give it another go or did you just continue on with your life?

 

How old are you?

 

35

 

How long was she with the ex before?

 

When the bond of trust is broken - though repairs can be made they will never be the same again
Love (and indeed respect) is a two way thing and whilst emotional attachment can remain - Once bitten,...
It takes some degree of optimism that a flame cam be re-ignited, there is always the knowledge that another breeze make well re-extinguish - I have found

 

I don't know. She told me about all her exes and ironically that particular one (her most recent) is the one she talked the least about. I was never jealous or concerned about the nature of their relationship so I never probed her about him... looking back now that may have been a mistake.

From what I recall she made it seem as though it wasn't anything serious or long term they had.

 

The fact that she has returned from whence she came from should tell you something - she has returned to someone she left ... for you!
(The grass not being greener comes to mind)
It seems to me that she is not in the right frame of mind to settle down - and 'still not found what she is looking for'
What seems the way forward is to concentrate on the 'you'.
Get yourself straight and when you are yourself (mentally) sorted - then you can consider future emotional relationships - bearing in mind those who were there (and/or not) just when you needed them most

 

There's an old Polish proverb that says .. A dog will always return to its vomit.

 

mmmmkay

Sounds like she dumped you cos you had no money for a period of time due to these failed "business ventures"

 

Old polish proverbs are in english?

 

yes, yes they are..

 

That's one way of simplifying it. You can certainly say it was a big factor.

 

It was a big factor

 

try to remember she is only the love of your life so far....there are lots more waiting out there...you are still young....don't waste any more time on this one and just move on.......being whiny heartbroken guy is not attractive to anyone

good luck

 

I'd go no contact with her and don't give in. She sounds like a user, and needs a guy to use and when there's nothing really to use, she goes on to the next guy who's in line. She didn't love you, and while you may have some things to ''fix'' about yourself as you say, do them for you. Not to get her back or to attract other women. Improve yourself for you.

But, definitely stay no contact...she likely will return. People like her usually do. :/

 

Exactly my thoughts.
But although he will not see it now, I think that he will be better off without her.

 

I agree with the wise Gorilla. LOL.

 

He'll see it, someday. Going NC is really hard to do, especially if you were in love. But, it's the best thing, it helps you keep a clear mind, and heal. Hope you stay true to yourself, OP.