Bribing Yourself?

Yeah I bribe myself.
Shopping bribing doesn't work tho.
I take ages to decide.And I only buy when it makes sense.
( Like yesterday, I finally found a jacket I was looking for...)

I'd never bribe myself with food either.Only sex and rest/leisure.

Sort of "If I get this problem sorted tonight, I'm gonna call so and so for another date".
( which might potentially mean another problem of explaining why I didn't call her before...)

 

I've done pretty much FA, all day so this afternoon I told myself that I was being lazy and that if I dont stop procrastinating and go out and ride my bike for at least 20 minutes, my ass deserved to get big and I'd have to tell my sister to hide the malteser's I got today. Then I told myself I shouldn't speak to myself like that and I made a sammich.

 

its called personal responsibility.

i know its a novel concept this day and age but our parents and grandparents never had any problem with it..

to me its just a part of being a adult. bribes to get things done is something you do with a 12 year old. even in that instance i see it as a bad habit to get into.

folks shouldnt do things simply because there is a reward when its done,they should do them because they need to be done.because its their responsibility.

 

next time you wanna bribe yourself to get something done,have the conversation with yourself out loud and perhaps you will see just how ludicrous it actually is..

 

I suppose I do the things I don't like before the things that I do like.

Kinda like bribing.

If you do it the other way around you're thinkin' bout the bad thing while doin' the good thing...

If you know what I mean.

 

I only do this about my drinking....it helps me make it day to day. If I can go a week without a drink I will buy myself a mocha frapuccino. ha! Though I used to reward myself for studying...if I made an A on the test I would buy a book I had been wanting or a magazine.

 

The only thing is that the olden days were simple.
You either shot it, dug it, pulled it or bashed it with a hammer.
Then died from Rickets at 27.

These days, success is less easy to define.
There's shortcuts, long routes,flashes of inspiration necessary.
We're much more in control of our own lives, so taking an outsiders view *can* be healthy.

PS reading this thread, now I know how much time I can expect from a girl for the price of a cup of coffee..!

 

No, I just do what needs to be done.

 

this answer.

 

I'm the same.

I personally don't have any time for those who lack responsibility and drive, it bores me because I'm constantly dragging them along with me. Get your shit done, it's not that hard.

 

No it would be simple, ie: 'you're doing awesome, you can chill and have a bowl after you finish this last wholesale order. I know you worked all day too, but you do good things'.
I do a lot of positive self-talk, it helps me self-soothe.
I know you;ve had problems with heroin and alcohol, so you understand what a lack of self-soothing can create, as do I.

 

hah, I had one hot DJ friend and one guy who had a vineyard and lots of money get away with that...but it was mutual. I didn;t want a relationship with a 58 year-old or a DJ who was gone most of the time.

 

no actually i dont.. i chose to live the way i did just as i chose to stop both.

once again,its called personal responsibility and it has everything to do with self control,or choosing to not have any..

 

I agree that in most cases it's about choosing to have it, or not. However, I work with a lot of mentally ill people and in that case, I don't think it's their fault, depending on their ability level.
As for me, I have a lot of personal responsibility. But, those nights when I am sewing at 2 in the morning after counseling for 8 hours, with the crisis pager in my jamies...I like to treat myself to some late night taco bell goodness, or a starbucks trip the next mroning when I am exhausted from not gettign enough sleep.

 

hey if you have to treat yourself like a child and play little games with yourself to force yourself to do what needs to be done i guess thats what you must do..

all i am saying is that i see that as a sign of weakness and i have no need to play such foolish games to achieve what it is i have too..

 

That's okay that you think that. You completley have a right to your opinion and I heard it.

 

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