Bpd?

That is hilarious - we are now supposed to be pleasant to our therapists?

 

Psychologist, not therapist (ie: they have actual training).

There is a shortage of them, therefore he gets his pick of patients.

 

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I am pretty sure my mother has it and had it worse when I was a kid. She fits the criteria to a T

 

no you need a psychiatrist- therapy, meds and behavioral mod together will knockj through shit fast. I'm in very intesive thearpy right now and my moemeory finally came back today-good and bad. I really hate some people right now because I am remembering what they did to me, hoe they treated me where before I forgot because of my post trauamatic stress disorder. I see mine on Monday morning so that will be good.

 

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For Bipolar disorder? Lithium, normally, I believe.

For Borderline Personality Disorder? I doubt drugs would be the best way to treat it.

 

btw- psychiatrists hate treating bderline personality disorder it is uncurable as it's your inhernet personality not triggered by and event or sometimes not even a chemical in balance.
i would say work cognitivley to overcome it. That's what my mom needs to do to get over her narcisim and insentsitivity towards others but extrmemly sensitive to how others treat you that is often associatted with it. she is so in her own little world it drives me insane and it is making me crazy i need to move out but it will get worse. she is so set in herself and her little obsession wiht the dogs and the neighbors and her deputy director at work that i just cant stand it

 

BPD is often triggered by EVENTS (not event, but plural) from your childhood.

 

Not exactly the full story.

"Researchers believe that BPD results from a combination of individual genetic vulnerability, and environmental stress, neglect or abuse as young children, and maturational events that trigger the onset of the disorder during adolescence or adulthood."

 

I have BPD. I tried a spot of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) to see if I could understand the way that I think and function and I must admit it did help a little, but it's just something I have to live with and get on with. Afterall, everybody out there has one form of mental health or another.

 

So what if you have two people with BPD who have a close relationship. Can they ever get along? Or will it always be a disaster. I don't mean a romantic relationship, more like an in law relationship. And what if one of them knows what the problem is and is in therapy/on meds, but the other has no clue and won't even think about it or discuss the possibility of it because they don't believe in these types of disorders.

Thanks.

 

I think it can work, as long as one of the people is aware of the problem as is willing to do extra work to make the relationship doable.

My MIL is a wonderful woman.... she just happens to be a little crazy, but who isn't. Usually we get along wonderfully, as I tend to bite my tongue when she starts in on things she shouldn't. We've only ever had one fight... I was having a bad time of it, and was out a family picnic.. I don't like families, they bug me, but weather through such things because they mean a lot of my husband (and if I go to the family thing for him, he will go do something I want with me.. its a trade system we have worked out). Anyway, we had a huge blow up infront of the entire family, and she can't seem to forgive me for it, deep down at least... on the surface its fine, but inside i know she still resents me for it.

We had simular childhoods.... both with major themes of abandonment. I wouldn't be surprised if she has BPD, but have never tried to get her into treatment. We used to talk about our childhoods, but don't anymore. The fight we had was about her son and I moving to Canada... so it probably triggered some abandonment issues in her.

But back to what you were saying... I think if you are willing to pull the majority of the relationship load, and respect her wishes not to talk about the "imagined disorders" the relationship can work. Mine did... until it didn't.

 

i just found out i was diagnosed with bpd

 

My counselor thinks my roommate/best friend may be borderline... of course she cannot make an accurate diagnosis as she is not her patient and what not, but I do believe that she might be right with her "armchair diagnosis"

So, right now, I'm reading "Stop Walking On Eggshells" for my benefit.

It's very difficult for me to deal with her day in and day out because of whatever problem it is that she has, whether its borderline or not.

With that said, do any of you, who DONT have borderline have any good strategies to dealing with a loved one that HAS borderline?

I will take anything I can get right now.

 

As hard as it might be, do your best not to take what she does personally. After you finish reading SWOE (Stop Walking on Eggshells), read it again, particularly the sections on PUVAS and DEARMAN.... those techniques work if you can pull them off, but it's very hard to do, especially in the heat of the moment. Um, don't tell her you think she's bpd... that tends to be disastrous. Learn everything you can about validation, and lookup "DBT parenting techniques" online, they probably have some good "real life" situations you could use in relating to her. Good site for more info on all things bpd: www.bpdresources.com Sorry, I got better advice but had surgery coupla days ago and all fucked up on meds right now

 

Thanks fulmah, and haha, dont worry I didnt plan on telling her I think she has bpd... Im trying to keep this book as far out of her reach as I can.

 

I have Borderline Personalty Disorder.