Hi, I'm just posting for some advice. I'm in a lovely relationship with my boyfriend. I'm just wondering how best to help him (and I guess me too). He has a very low sex drive. I fear because of some dysfunction in that area. We don't live together and so there is limited time for anything to happen spontaneously. He very rarely wants to arrange sleepovers as I am always hopeful we will have sex and I guess he might be scared if things don't work. We've been together over 3 years and think we've been together maybe 12 times in 3 years. I want to help, but I feel part of the problem as I'm rather keen to have sleepovers. We are the best of friends and he shows me such love and caring everyday. Does anyone have any suggestions how I can make things better.
Respectfully, I really mean it. You should sit down with him, knees to knees and address your concerns. Reality check here... He may not be a match for your sex drive and that’s not your fault and you should “not”conform to his. He might be kind, nice and respectful, but you would be left unfulfilled and that’s not good. Get to the bottom of this. You didn’t mention how older he is? Is he physically fit? Does he control his weight and eat right? Alcohol, drugs work stress won’t help either. Is he watching too much porn? I know these are tough questions
