Boyfriend viewing escort sites

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by basedprncss, Jul 29, 2013.

  1. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    Isn't that a little depressing?

    If he can do it, then what's the problem?

    Plus, I think it's a little weird that you sit him right next to you in order to type in a url. On the one hand, you might have wanted to avoid snooping and have it all out in the open.

    On the other hand, it puts him in a very submissive position. Especially in light of his pleading following it.


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    Well, I should also share my experience since it is very similar to his. I've lived with someone who snooped and found info about my wanting to cheat. It never happened, but it was the beginning of the end of my last relationship.

    The very first thing I did when I broke up with her was go to a hooker. It was like a ton of bricks lifted off my shoulders.

    Nowadays, I do visit escort sites both to find hookers and for masturbatory material. What excites me about it are a bevy of things:

    - anonymity

    - the casual aspect

    - and the kinkiness of the sex acts themselves.

    Good luck.
     
  2. desert-rat

    desert-rat Senior Member

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    Its called role playing . Just about ever one on the net is using it for some thing kinky at some point . To quote some one " the net was born for porn " I would be willing to bet there is a nun in a convent some where watching some porn . Its just the way we humans are . Lieing about it is a different matter tho.
     
  3. Cherea

    Cherea Senior Member

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    I can understand the appeal of role playing if it comes about naturally. But in this case, it's obvious dude wants variety and kinky sex.

    I could be wrong, but it doesn't sound to me like role playing will cut the mustard. It's up to them to figure out what to do with that knowledge.
     
  4. desert-rat

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    Roll playing might work for them , it might not . Its his lieing about visiting a escort site that I dont under stand . If my g.f. asks me I would show her what I have on a 500 gig and 1 t bite usb drives .
    p.s. Its a mix of porn and other files .
     
  5. falconer

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    Life's too short and too long to put up and deal with bullshit respectively.
     
  6. basedprncss

    basedprncss Member

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    i meant if he wanted to fuck around and get it out of his system, he can, just not while in a relationship with me. i dont want to be around for that. as for entering escorts in the url in front of him, i didnt trust that it was just some fantasy thing especially since he kept lying about having searched it up at all until he admitted to it.
     
  7. scratcho

    scratcho Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Maybe ask him what he would like to do to an escort--then do it for/to him. Maybe your limit is too limiting for him??
     
  8. basedprncss

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    he tells me i give him everything he needs. like in the forum he said he wanted an escort for deep throating and someone with nice feet. i dt him all the time and let him play with my feet. it's the fact that he's paying someone to do it that turns him on
     
  9. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

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    OP, I don't know how open you are, but if you've never role played before, I highly recommend it. You never know, you might like it!

    Also, if your man knows your open to playing, he'll be much more likely to tell you his fantasies rather than hide/lie about them.
     
  10. scratcho

    scratcho Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    Doesn't sound real good for the future , then. The lying becomes the issue, to me , if you do what he wants and he still fools around with fantasies. Oh yeah---charge him then. So much for each sexual act. That'll wipe his excuse right out.
     
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    post an Escort ad and see if he recognizes you..
     
  12. desert-rat

    desert-rat Senior Member

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    I guess there is a difference betweene him and me , I could never get off paying a woman for sex .
     
  13. basedprncss

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    we roleplay a lot or pretend we're in diff scenarios, or like i'm being fucked for the first time, etc. we're sort of in a d/s relationship, me being the submissive one. we dirty talk a lot and tbh i dont think i can get off without dirty talking/being roughed up. like i could try pretending to be an escort... letting him do whatever he wants to me, not that i already dont, except i'd get some $ out of it lol.

    but liek another poster said... it's probably more about him having variety. i'm pretty much open for anythign and always encourage him to do whatever he wants
     
  14. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

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    Lol yeah, get some money out of it :p. It could be a want for variety. I hope you two can work it out!
     
  15. basedprncss

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    my boyfriend came home and i think im just gonna crash at a friends place tonight. im still hurt by all of it and its hard to pretend like its easy to forgive and renew my trust. i asked him why he still looks at local escort sites, as he mentioned a few days ago, and he said he was "on the fence" about whether he wanted to cheat or not. and i feel like i dont deserve that... someone to be on the fence while they're with me... especially when ive given him enough opportunities to be honest about whether he can commit to this or not. and now hes begging me to stay (though i havent really made a decision to break up). he says if i leave then i'd just be "throwing it all" away. the thing im most frustrated about is that it took for me to find something that i wasnt supposed to, for him to "realize that it's not a game". in his words. for him to realize that it's really me that he wants. i dont know what to think...
     
  16. scratcho

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    Typical "wants his cake and eat it too", guy. Get someone honest. JMO.
     
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    dump em..
     
  18. Vanilla Gorilla

    Vanilla Gorilla Go Ape

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    .......And there it is
     
  19. ariekanibalie

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    Not good, not cool, but in the end it's only you who can decide whether you want to deal with this or not. Mind you, the fact he's said he's 'on the fence' to you would seem to make sticking with him exceedingly difficult. But it would also seem clear that he's got some serious psychological issues that don't even pertain to you directly. You don't have to take this kind of behavior from anyone, but if he were to acknowledge he has problems that he would be willing to work on, it's not impossible.
     
  20. Quiet Storm

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    You weren't 'snooping' around on his computer for one thing. Secondly, he is in the wrong.
    He was sneaking behind your back and lied to you. And now the relationship is going to suffer trust issues.
    Let's face it, fantasy or not, if he keeps entertaining these thoughts and looking at these ads, he's going to act on it, if he already hasn't.

    I'd cut him lose and save myself some horrible grief.
     

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