Boyfriend Seems To Be Losing Interest

I'm going to try to make this as short as possible, especially since my boyfriend is in the same room as I am. I am currently 18, turning 19 this summer, and he just turned 19. We've been in a relationship for almost 7 months. The first few months were way better than this, but if I'm being honest, after a couple of months, he wasn't as affectionate. BUT, it wasn't as bad as it's been for a little over a month now. There's less kissing, less hugging/cuddling, less sex... He seems to only want to pay attention when I'm angry or sad, even. He is constantly negative; thinking things are his fault, that he pissed me off (which, half the time he does, but doesn't seem to apologize and/or try to make things better).

I can't get his full attention 90% of the time. He plays games and is in his own little world. I miss cuddling with him, kissing him lots (he used to initiate kisses A LOT), and us being happy together, for the most part. I'd be lucky if he kisses me 3 time's per day, if we're together and have nothing to do that day! This is ridiculous, considering we haven't even been together for a year. My mom's always telling me that the "Honey Mood Period" in relationships, is getting shorter & shorter, all the time. I'm an affectionate person and I take things to heart, way more than I should sometimes, if I might add. It's just that kissing & cuddling, is important to me. It makes me feel good to know he still wants me close and cares. Especially since he's not good with words, per-say.

Another thing that has been driving me crazy, is the fact that there's been less & less sex. At first, I thought it was only because of lack of privacy over at his house, since he lives with his grandparents, his twin brother, and his other brother, along with his dad and his dad's girlfriend (they're moving out soon). My boyfriend is going to be helping pay for things around the house soon... But anyways! When we got to my house, my boyfriend immediately hooked up his PS3, and started playing it. We have had sex once and he's been here for almost 2 day's. Last night, a couple hours after he got off, I tried to give him a blowjob, and he could barely keep a chubby, and was soft 90% of the time. I went at it for an hour, too. My lips were so numb and I was exhausted. My whole body hurts today, from last night. It made me feel like a failure.

Lately, he's pushed my hands away and/or turned over on his side, when I try to initiate things. I'm constantly trying to act disinterested in sex, to get him to want to, and even THAT doesn't work HALF THE TIME.

I'm sorry; I just feel unwanted a lot.

(And YES, I know I'm not f***ing 30-something years old, k?)

 

how is that supposed to help?

 

Because I've tried initiating so much, and he only seems to want to have sex when I act like I don't want to. That's how.

 

Fuck, I wish my life were that easy. Hook up a PS3 and turn down a blowjob. Some people. :sombrero:

 

Is it just me, or is three kisses a day a lot? I've never kissed a girlfriend three times in one day. She's lucky if she gets one kiss. Maybe even one kiss a week.

I think you're too affectionate. A guy can't just keep kissing a girl over and over. A guy doesn't have that kind of attention span, and especially not a gamer. You honestly expect this guy to remember to kiss you how many times a day? So he already knows you're pissed at him for not being affectionate in an unreasonable way, and then you expect him to want to cuddle with you?

It sounds to me like he really cares for you. He pays attention when you're upset. But he probably just doesn't have the attention span to be as affectionate towards you as you'd like. You're making a chore out of it.

 

I lost interest in this thread

 

But really, sounds like he's in a romantic relationship with his PS3. So just take a hammer to it and smash it.

 

I am the type of guy that needs his space. It makes me feel bad, because sometimes I think it makes my girlfriend feel unwanted, but for the most part guys just don't want the constant closeness that women do.

But if it seems like he is losing interest, he probably is.

 

and there you have it.....you are playing head games.....he will be dumping you asap....



you should already be shopping for a new dude

 

Talk to him about this. my husband is a gamer too, but he is also a very attentive affectionate guy. play games with him. kiss while the game screens load. alot of men in that age range are prone to what i like to call post sex depression, where they cum and the hormones make them moody or even downright sad after. try to be understanding of his feelings too. he may feel ashamed also that he can't get rock hard at the drop of a hat, which is normal. very few men can.
Goodluck!

 

Break up with him. You're 18, which is way too young to settle down, especially with a guy who doesn't make you feel special.

 

Posted June 04 2016 - 05:01 AM

June 04, 2016

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OFFLINE Jun 05 2016 01:05 AM

I guess the answer to the question wasn't that which one wanted to hear?

 

One hopes the rules have been changed, - or that different games have been discovered?

 

Yeh, ditto

Gawd, who told you to do that?

 

Oh, necro thread

Wolf angel, why on earth did you revive it after you were the last to post, you bookmark this one about an 18yr old sex starved girl or something?

 

Because = It was the only way I could change from my former ID to current name (all posts before a certain date - had defaulted to my other/initial name)
- Similarly to any Video posts that had the web address but not the video - one has to input an entry to rectify it

 

Try lingerie. Lingerie and visual stimulation can do wonders in a declining sexual environment. Basically, once you see the same person over and over again no matter what positions, it's still the same person, so you really have to spice it up.

New sexy bedroom clothes and role play is a good solution. And don't treat him like your bf, pretend you're someone else, do crazy outrageous things not of the norm. Take back the bedroom as something new.

 

I agree with Irminsul, some sexy lingerie really helps when my bf seems a little bored. Have to say the best thing about it is that, even though I'm buying it for him it actually makes me feel amazing as well, win win

 

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