Boyfriend says toys = cheating

Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who's so terminally insecure and whose male ego is so delicately eggshell-fragile that his jealousy over Bob¹ devolves into infantile self-pity bordering upon an existential crisis?
Is dealing with such psychodrama really what you have in mind when you think of the love relationship you deserve, both now and in the future?

1. Bob; "Battery Operated Boyfriend".

 

Guys like this will find the next thing to control you over - if you agree to stop using toys, he will find a new problem. Secure men don’t act like this so I would move on if I were you. This is what dating is about - seeing if you’re compatible.

 

Bingo.....I used to be insecure with toys then I found out they always turned me on. I was insecure with the person. You see, honesty for me is the biggest turn on. I loved it when my fiance asked me to tell her when I get myself off and likewise. I also love testing answers and in the past most, if not all X's would say what they thought you wanted to hear. Oh your the biggest etc....try opening up about stories. Past, likes, dislikes etc. Share share share

 

Truth of the matter is some guys are frightened of them . Some I have seen on another forum claim a Rabbit will replace them . Absolute Tosh . For most women a Rabbit for example is a masturbation aid . I dont see many women complain if a guy uses a stroker for example . No difference in my book .

As you get older foreplay then becomes more important and what a good way to enjoy this pleasurable pastime by introducing toys . There are toys for couples but sometimes you just need to think outside the box a little and other toys can be used as well

Going back to the Rabbit example , I was was blindfolded and restrained to the bed using one of these



And then my partner used the Rabbit on me and lets say it was different

This is fun and isn't cheating . Its cementing the relationship in the bedroom by having fun . Sex does not have to be serious as it sometimes can take the pleasure out of it . My message is be experimental and have fun .

 

I've had friends that experimented and they found new heights in toys or rabbit, more girth, more length and a multitude of combinations. Prob for some were they found ways to finally make her orgasm or new orgasms hense g spot, cervical, clitoral, but here is where issues came. A few decided they didn't need her man (esp if they couldn't get there) so instead of sharing it and letting him finish , which can be crazy fun, she would sneak and he was out. To me, that's just cold. So yes there are stories but there are also people who are just self centered. If a couple loves each other and can open up and be vulnerable with trust and honesty it can bring a whole new loving dimension to your relationship and actually grow and create a stronger bond while eliminating alot of stress from performance anxiety. Maybe surprise or pick out something together for him like stroker or for both of you like an extension. Never know, might open up some creative juices for fantasies or role playing. We was playing with a pool noodle with a condom on it just rubbing it on her for foreplay. Size with her petiteness looked crazy hot. One night, we were tipsy and both really worked up and she suggested to put lube on it and I quickly started reading herbhole with it when WOW, out of the blue she gained courage (she WAS and llil timid) she said Push it in baby. Mmmm so hot and cute that she thought it had a chance! Lol. WS I wrong, she worked up to a PLEASE push it in, in a begging voice. Omg .I said honey it won't. Here's the amazing part. She insisted, push harder, please. So I did.. ..being foam it compressed mixed with her juices and lube x force= oh my GodG o fuck yeah, wtf. ... Multiple upon multiple screaming orgasms. Esp later in the game when we finally hit the bottom bringing yet another (wonderful) first. Cervical orgasm. So, sorry so long, this was actually the short version. Case in point, all started with little fun and always ends with I WANT YOU NOw and she always feels amazingly tight , and we both orgasm together exhausted. : )❤
PS a faux huge toy if you will (foam) made for some amazing pics and videos, which are basically mine she's still lil too embarrassed to watch em because of her " transformation" to a , let's see, how can I put it. Much more open, eager and very very vocal. Dang, turned myself on. .. .. playtime with lil lady lol

 

Here a great question for guys against toys:. Say he goes impotent. Would he rather, since his manliness broke, for her to share and use a toy or not share and sneak? Better yet or share she's getting it else where or sneak? Making toys sound like hero machines now huh,? Lol.
Thoughts anyone?

 

Next time your together try and use the toys as a couple. Hopefully he wont feel so insecure about them afterwards. Toys are toys they arent the real thing so theres no way its cheating. He might actually enjoy seeing you get yourself off.

 

This guy sounds a right control freak 5 and if I were you I would be getting shot of him as quick as possible.
If he is hung up on the fact that you use sex toys when he is not around, then I dread what other intimate stuff he will object to over time.

Him saying that he will supposedly ‘deal with it’ does not settle the situation at all because there will always be an underlying grudge against you and what you do in private.
What next will he complain and whinge about I ask myself?

You are better just dumping this bloke and until a nice Man comes along without this sort of hang up comes along.
Get your sex toys out, go to Porn Hub for some erotic stuff and have fun with yourself.

After all.
It doesn’t look like you will have much fun with this guy around trying to tell you how to run your life!

 

Wow ! So weak. Male ego issues, eh

 

Its not cheating but I read someplace that vibrators can ruin the ability to have orgasms from natural sex.


I did not read all five pages, maybe someone already said that.

 

It's a part of the acception stages. It's normal to feel shocked, intimidated, or angry in the beginning. Eventually, it will be seen as a tool along the tool belt, not the end all be all

 

Sex toys are definitely not cheating. They are a great way to expand your sex life and the pleasures of sex. I love when a woman that I’m with brings out toys it means she’s experimental and loves sex and pleasure the more pleasure the better the sex I think

 

Boyfriend says toys = cheating = He's Jealous of a Toy
Boyfriend says toys = cheating = He's Unable to Satisfy Her
Boyfriend says toys = cheating = He's Unable to Perform

 

sounds about right

 

Really now, Sex toys are cheating wow, what planet is he from? I guess that he needs to get better educated Ya think?

 

I agree 100 %
Maybe he neds to get off his high horse and enjoy the fact of his woman likes using toys.
So long as shes not disregarding him for her pocket rocket. Thats when it would become an issue

 

Bob .. lol i love this. Genius

 

Well, i guess that you need to get with the if you really think that sexual toys are a cheater way, Sex toys are a way of life for more people then you know. They can be a adventure in your life as long as they do not take the place of having the real thing, try it and experience it, you may just love it

 

Oh i dooo

 

Well good for you enjoy her