Boy/girl sleepovers

People can identify sexual attraction at a young age, before any actual contact. I personally cannot remember a time in my life when I wasn't aware of an attraction to women. I grew into my attraction to men.

Yes, there is that whole "give an inch/take a mile" thing. But you know, if you give them half an inch, they'll still take that mile. If you don't give them anything at all, they STILL may very well take that mile, and be less prepared for it intelectually and emotionally, and feel they don't have anyone to talk to about it because "mom will kill me".

I think you're doing very well with your daughter. Just be honest.

In my own life, my mom and dad were quite honest and open with me about sex, made sure I had proper education and knew to take precautions, etc. But they were, and I knew they were (or at least my mom was, and most of this dialog took place between me and her), less sexually experienced than even some of my young friends. I didn't want to be so "old fashioned" and to be honest I did a LOT of experimenting and fooling around with many people as a teen. But since I was educated and prepared I came out of those years relatively unscathed, and if at any point I'd had a huge crisis, pregnancy or something like that, I knew I had parents who would be good to me. Yes, I do regret some of it. But what is life without regret? And in any case, if it weren't for that time I may never have become the person I did, made the choices I did that led me to meeting my true love!

And now I have that experience, along with the words and experience of my own mom who took an entirely different path, to share with any future daughter or son. You aren't raising a teenager, you're raising a person. In order for her to become a productive member of humanity she needs to make these choices for herself. This is her "try-out" period (the beginning of it, it's sure to go on for years!). The best thing anyone can do at this point is give the facts, give the advice, step back and be sure to let her know that you're there if anything goes wrong!

 

umm just a random question, or really just a wondering... What if the boys she wanted to have a sleep over with, were all gay? Or what if she had a super super gay male friend, and wanted him to sleep over?
Then would you allow it??? What would be your views on that?

Just curious....