I've often thought that if my wife and I had the opportunity to have a threesome or wife swap , would we and what boundaries would we have. She knows I would like a threesome with another woman and I would like her to try Bi stuff in that scenario. It's just been dirty talk while we are in the midst of it. I've told her I would like to see her suck her tits meaning the other woman or we would suck her tits and that we could both suck my wife's tits . My wife could go down on her and she would go down on my wife. But my wife hasn't said what my part is or if she would let me go down on the other woman or what boundaries she would set. It's probably not going to happen but I'm just more and more inclined to think about it and wonder what scenario might eventuate and what boundaries we would have. What if we let another man in our bed how far does she go? or am I expected to interact with home or allowed to try Bi stuff. Would it just be 2 guys on her? What are people's boundaries, are they often broken or do these things work out ok. Might just be a fantasy but if there's an opening I want to take advantage. I don't care if I can't do Bi stuff with a guy with my wife watching and I think that would be the last thing she would agree to of all the possibilities. But if she wanted to arrange it and participate I would be happy to go along. So if she wanted to fuck another guy or have him in a Threesome I'm not sure what my boundaries would be or why I would set them. I think for some it might be kissing because it's maybe considered emotional. I probably thought I would not want another guys dick in her mouth even if I was ok with them fucking. Maybe I would not let her take anal from him because I want to reserve some things from him. In a scenario where we had a guy in for a threesome I maybe more likely to think about going with the flow. I think I would be ok with her sucking cock and fucking him. I think it could be hot to DP a woman and if she's up for it then we should do these things together so I could probably say DP and spit roast are in. Not saying I want to make my wife a whore but if we had a chance to spice things up and try things then it's all about the experience and having some hot sex if opportunity presents. Not sure if I would send her out to hot wife, maybe I would be happy to wife swap in a safe environment. Then the next thing is condoms or not? I guess it depends on how well I know the others or would it be another boundary that is set. No condom no fucking another. Honestly I hate them but my wife got onto some latex free ones and wanted to use them sometimes. Tells me it's so she doesn't need to shower after sex and I can clean up easier.. That's after years of not using them as a married couple. Does anyone have anything to add or want to talk about their experiences?
Fantasies are great but they're only your fantasies until you share them with whoever you want to realize them with, in your case, your wife. I'm not a fan of setting boundaries. What works for me is sharing. I'll mention something to my wife and see how she responds. If she's not repulsed I might do something to catalyze a situation and see how she watches or helps it evolve. And I mention this because we all go through phases, even if they last a day or two. Sometimes she's ready to have our favorite black friend join us, sometimes not. I find it unpredictable so I always test the waters. Rather than setting boundaries, we're more into agreements. Like, if I can't help myself I'll probably let him cum in me bareback. That might not be an agreement for a new guy that we don't know well enough to trust. When you set a boundary it's like a rule that you can't break and might take out some of the pleasure. Agreeing is less intrusive and makes it easier to go with the flow. Maybe you'd both get so impassioned that you'd break a rule so rather than setting the rule, see how you're feeling in the moment. First thing, see if she likes the idea of a 3-way and feel her out for MMF or FFM. If she leans towards MMF you can explore if it's about her having 2 men please her or if she wants to see you in a submissive role while another man enjoys her. Biggest thing is to have an understanding of what the other wants from the experience. If it works out the next rounds will be easier and more open. I've enjoyed FFM and MMF and for me, by far, MMF is the way to go.
I guess agreement fits the situation better. You are agreeing to sleep with a 3 person together and leave together. I guess other than boundaries it's an agreement that we are happy to do this or agree that we are not going to see other people alone or whatever. I suppose some have boundaries and some agreements. I would agree to many things but there are probably a lot she would not agree too. I think even with a female in the mix she be less agreeable. I'm more inclined to go with if no-one was pressured just let it happen because it probably can't be scripted.
When my first wife and I opened up our marriage, it took us months to define and set some boundaries. Or, really, we had set a bunch of them only to find out that by doing so, it took away the freedom of having sex with someone the way you wanted to. Those first boundaries were so tight we both said that we might as well not be open at all given all the restrictions and limits we kept coming up with. But we also saw that we couldn't have zero boundaries because we still had a responsibility to (a) our marriage, (b) our children and (c) each other. The main rule we called Rule Number One was... take care of home first. That meant no going out and fucking someone else without taking care of duties/responsibilities at home first and, yes that included us fucking each other, too. We had a rule about me knocking someone up - own up to it and the responsibility; we weren't worried about her getting pregnant and the rule really said to not bring anything home that you didn't want to be responsible for. I think we had like five or six rules that established the boundaries under which we could live and love and, shit yeah, get laid. One-on-one with other people and we'd team up to seduce and have sex with other couples and given that we were both bisexual, that opened the door to a lot of sexual opportunities. Another rule had to do with full disclosure or, if you fucked someone, you came home and told how it all went down, what happened, and no lying about anything. Another was if one of us wanted to do things differently, we had to sit down and talk about it and unless we both agreed to it, whatever we talked about wasn't gonna happen. Otherwise, the only limits we had were any we had going on in our respective minds.
