So I'm 19 and yeah comparatively I don't have a ton of experience so I'm just wondering. I've been told I have an extremely high libido and its true I could have sex several times a day everyday and be like the cat that got the cream(satisfied.) The question is whether or not I mentally want it my body is always ready. My ex and i used to have sex for hours on end. We'd have the initial time to take of the edge then slow it down and a lot of times I'd take a nap wake up and no matter how tired or raw I was just a touch and my body was perfectly happy to comply. Its not that I don't enjoy sex and I certainly wasn't raped but I'd always heard that women have lower libidos and have to be "in the mood," to be aroused. Whether I'm in the mood or not, whether my mind is in it or not my body always responds. Is this normal? It can be kind of confusing for both me and whoever I happen to be having sex with. I don't know where to stop and he can't tell from my bodies reactions and it gets exhausting after a while.
Whether it's normal or not you sound like most every guys dream girl to me... So long as you're not damaging your body or having sex till the point you start tearing your insides up then everything is fine. The only thing IMHO that would be bad is if you ended up settling down with someone who had no libido considering you have so much you're willing to offer. Sex IMHO is the best natural high there is in this world
It may be ok to have sex every once in a while if you feel neutral about it just to please your partner. For the most part though, it should be a mutual thing, imo. Being physically ready doesn't mean you have to have sex if you don't want to. So your bf can probably save up that sexual energy and wait for a time when you want it too.
At your age range it's totally normal, but among women and certain cultures it's still a very taboo fact or experience or piece of information to share because the concept of wanting sex and being aroused is still strongly associated with the slut label for women. But yeah being physically ready but not mentally, and still deriving orgasms from it is completely normal, and even has happened among those who have been raped, which is part of the mental trauma survivors experience. (Orgasm means you wanted it therefore it's not rape or I lost power over my own body type of mental self-shame) It's very common, sex is physical and certainly some are more sensitive than others regardless of mental state.
Personally, I think when it comes to sex everything can be normal or abnormal because it depends on the person's perspective of normality and abnormality. So, if you think it's abnormal, then it will be abnormal. If you think it's normal, then it's normal. I have the same issue as you and I don't find it abnormal, so it's not abnormal for me. But, sometimes I think my genitalia is abnormal. I don't have any reasoning behind it, I just think I have deformed and defective sex organs. So, the more I think like that the more it will become that will become abnormal. I do believe there is some things about sex that is clearly right and clearly wrong, clearly normal and clearly abnormal, but I think most of the things regarding to sex is base on our perspective.
I can agree to that to a degree. But to challenge you, what is your view on the topic if I were to insist you approach the topic from the objective perspective? Being that science says things can go wrong with genitals, either because of a genetic disorder, disease (virus or bacteria), physical injury, or chemical castration, that DO stop those body parts from functioning the way the majority of the species' respective organs function? In that sense I've just disproven your claim that this issue is purely subjective about what one thinks about themselves is normal or abnormal. If anything I think there's a spectrum, and to define normal or abnormal on an issue and functionality sense, statistics should be applied to calculate and define that.
Depends on the sexual "abnormality". Take me for example (Which I really need to stop using myself as an example), like I said I think my sexual organs are deformed and defective. But, through pap smears and just my own reading, nothing physically is out of the norm. So, I'm a regular female woman.... apparently. But, the more I think my genitalia is abnormal, the more my thoughts and feelings will become psychosomatic. Now, say... I found out that I have ambiguous genitalia, that can be easily calculated and can be easily considered abnormal. So, like I said... it depends on the situation, whether it's objective or subjective. But, I like to believe in most cases it's all just thoughts and feelings one has regarding sex than it being something abnormal with the person. And even if there is, I like to believe there is a way to work around it to make it more bearable or to terminate the abnormality altogether.
I guess, lol. I thought I made that clear in my original comment, like the one that is directed to the OP. Lol! But, yea... sure, I agree with you. I don't why I find that so funny. No seriously, I agree.
Enjoy it while it lasts. You seem to be having a good time. When I was 19 I could screw many times in a day as did the men and women I knew back then. What is the problem ? You are a normal young woman.
