Hi people! I just got signed up here and this is my first post, So i really need some advices on my situation with my parnter, which we live together, he is 35 i m 32, a year almost ago he asked me to be with him in an open relationship, he also told me many that I have been his target for all these time and that he has always been thinking about me. Now, we are both very sexual he is bisexual and I am bi-curioous for now.... he had many experiences, from threesomes to bondage, sex in public, with older women, teenagers etc he hs slept with many beatifull women and almost all these years i ve known him he is in a relationship,and lives with the person. He was cheated though and has many paranoias with this issue, the same goes for me. Our sexual life till now wasnt that much, as time goes sex is becoming less and less, and he has stop foreplaying me for some time now, even if I ask it nicely or playfully he doesn't really respond, i have to get pushy and argue to do it, i have asked him to do different fntasies i have and he doesn't, i told him things I d like him to do to me and he doesn't respond, lately he gets soft while we are doing it and is like I cant get him up, note that this goes in circles since the beggining, i like getting him bjs, for me is like we don't have sex if I don't get him one! I never let him without a bj... Also another issue is that he is a very difficult man to get on! They only thing thta really works is performance which is something I m having difficulty to do...only if I show him my little lady he gets hard right away and some rare times this might not work, he doesn't get erected by my words, or by a sensual massage or lick/kissing on the nipples and behind the ear, He've talked about it some times nd he said several things like, he likes porn so he actually masturbates 4-5 times a day!, he thinks I m cheating on him and sometimes thinks of old staff...he is stress because he feels he is not good enough and cause this is becoming a burden for him, he has a very decent 23cm tool and he said he is not able to always keep him up, he said also that lately I ve lost lots of weight, (i m petite size) and that my ttits have gone too small...but not as a reason for getting soft, just commenting.... In general he admited that he missed to play with big boobs but he loves me and finds me very attractive and that there is nothing wrong with me... I really dont know how to deal with this, i really love him but this sotury hurts me very much, i feel very insecure about it, this story is making me blocking sexually and I dislike my body and my tits, also i want to have sexual pleausre, i have so many rhings i want to try! Any opinions would be appreciated, i d really like to hear some other sides of the coins.
Difficult but i ll try... My parnter doesnt look very interest sexually about me, the reasons he said are he likes porn so he actually masturbates 4-5 times a day he thinks I m cheating on him and sometimes thinks of old staff during sex he is stress because he feels he is not good enough he has a very decent 23cm tool and he said he is not able to always keep him up he said also that lately I ve lost lots of weight, (i m petite size) and that my ttits have gone too small...but not as a reason for getting soft, just commenting.... how can i deal with it?
It sounds to me that is isn't willing to do much to keep your relationship going. I kept wondering why you keep trying to do it... There are many ways to work around the fact that he can't get hard, but he does need to meet you at least half way.
Why do you pretend you arent going to get bored of the same guy all the time? Likely he thinks you are cheating cos you are too flirty with every half decent guy you see He's bored of coming home to the same cooch all the time, as if you havent considered that, not only have you considered that, it is your primary fear
Well we acrually broke up yesterday, cause he think I m cheating and I can't sy anything more bout it, And vanilla Gorilla, I don't flirt with guys around neither I m cheating, it is not my type to cheat, Yes! Weirdly enough some people take seriously relationships. Annwynbri: I think at the end he is not really into me or he is missing Not having anyone to be obligated to, or have to deal with relationship issues and of course the challenge of cheating and this paranoia of his, as I understood today, also he likes women a lot! And all of them!
I'm sorry it ended for you, but from what you said, it doesn't sound like it was going very well anyway. Hopefully, you can take away some good memories of your time together and maybe some lessons learned. Please don't look at it like a failure. Every relationship has its good sides and bad.
I know, i m happy it doesn't drown me, yet at least... I haven't moved totally from the house yet. I know it is not a right relationship for me but you know feelings...and for the forst time in my life I don't feel I failed But, things will show as soon as I move in the new flat I suppose.. Thank you for your kind words!
Feelings matter, you can't deny them. I've learned no matter how hard you try, it's best to just grieve the loss of the relationship. I think you will do okay. It's going to be rough at first, any kind of change usually is. But it sounds like you have a good attitude about it.
Hi S-Cherry. I too am sorry it's ended for you but it really sounds like he didn't fully appreciate you anyway. My advice is don't try too hard to find a new love; it will happen when it happens and if it's for real then you will soon realise it and what's just happened will be ancient history! I'm someone who never found true love when I really searched for it but when true love finally crept up on me, I married her! And we've had 18 happy years together, 13 of them married. Keep smiling X.
You'll know when you've found someone you're actually supposed to be with. Here's a hint: Most of that stuff on your list will NOT be there. A lot of what you listed sounds exactly like the things guys say when they're no really interested in a girl, but they're playing along for the hell of it. No relationship that involves a lot of that "I'm insecure because I think you might be cheating on me even though I have no real reason to think so" bullshit is going to work. As soon as that shows up, run the other direction. It's usually a sign of a very, very insecure person who will do nothing to improve your life. Wanting to be with someone is not love. Enjoying someone's company is not love. Wanting to fuck someone is not love. Don't be too quick to throw that word around. Don't be in a hurry to "Be in love" because you will get used, abused, and find yourself stuck in a good many meaningless relationships. Let love happen. Don't look for it. NEVER force it.
