First off, I’m a woman. There seems to be a lot of bi men here so I just wanted to clarify that in case it makes a difference. This is really embarrassing for me. I grew up super conservative and religious and this kind of thing wasn’t talked about or accepted. So I don’t really know what I’m talking about. Please be gentle with me. I’ve been happily married for 15 years. I am very attracted to men...but also women. If I had to pick between a picture of a naked man or a naked woman to masturbate to, I’d pick the woman. If I’m looking at porn it is usually lesbian or threesomes (but not always, I’m into A LOT of different things). I fantasize about performing oral sex on a woman and sucking on breasts. The only experience I have is from when I was a teenager and then shortly after I got married. When I was a teen, I had a friend staying the night. It was late and we were talking about sex (I was a virgin but she was very promiscuous). She was telling me that her and our other female friend had experimented together. I “joked” that I was jealous because her and I were closer friends than this other girl. We laughed about it...but I was very turned on and actually a little jealous. We were sleeping the the same bed together that night. I was laying there trying to go to sleep and thought she was already asleep. Then she slowly slid her hand between my legs (over my panties). She just held her hand there sort of cupping me. I was so shocked that I couldn’t move. My heart was pounding and I could feel a burning feeling. Unfortunately I was too scared to move or say anything. After a minute or so she jerked her hand back and turned over like it was an accident. I laid there wanting her but again was too scared and shy to make a move. Eventually we fell asleep and never spoke of it. Then shortly after I got married, my husband and I went out on a double date with her and one of my husband’s friends (we were trying to set them up). His friend ended up needing to leave early and we drove my friend home. I don’t know how it started but my friend started talking about threesomes. I said that I had always wondered how it would feel to kiss a girl. My husband and I were in the front seats and my friend was in the back. She suddenly reached up and started grapping my breasts. I let her. My husband pulled the car over on a gravel road. Her and I started kissing and took off our shirts and bras. We played with and kissed each other’s breasts. My husband was silently watching the whole time. That’s as far as it went and we kind of chalked it up to being young and crazy. That was about 14 years ago. What does this mean? Am I bisexual or just bicurious?
I’d say bi curious. I’ve geard that to be truely bisexual one would be attracted equally to both sexes and be able to fall in love with either or equally. Are you like that? I personally prefer women but am attracted to men as well but physically/sexually only. I couldn’t have feelings for a guy the way I do/can for women. For me it’s all about the sex and only that with men. I’m not sure I want to wear a label. It’s really no big deal but I guess I’d just consider myself sexually adventurous and very open minded.
I would say we are bi curious until we act on it. If we want to do it going forward then we are bisexual. But like Topher I’d rather not have a label.
Thank you! The label really isn’t important to me, I guess. I think I was just wondering because my husband has asked me if I thought I was bi and I’ve always denied it but wasn’t sure. I’ll just go with curious or sexually adventurous! Thanks again!
You sound to me to be bi-curious as you've teased around but have yet to fully engage in sex but I'm no expert and don't place labels on people unless the person has already labelled themselves. I've called myself orally bisexual because I enjoy orally pleasuring another mans cock from time to time. People here say "No, you're a fag, or you're gay because you sucked a dick". I personally don't care what people think or say. I've been married to two different women over the past 33 years and was/am in love with them, I couldn't do that with a man, I love a nice cock, not the man its attached to. I wouldn't get worried about a "label". If you do act on what you feel, enjoy it, embrace it and just do for yourself what feels good for you and whomever you do it with.
This sounds like a beautiful experience and like one that meant a lot to you. Myself, I’ve never really understood a distinction between ‘bisexual’ and ‘bicurious.’ Does bicurious mean having once tried the experience it’s then rejected and labeled ‘distasteful?’ Curiosity solved? If the experience stuck with you as fulfilling and leaving you wanting more it seems that identifying as bisexual would be appropriate. We live in a monogamous world, but for many of us monogamy limits our feelings that we have towards both sexes and we question our very natural feelings that let us see people as people, intimacy as intimacy, attraction as attraction, irregardless of gender, which is as much a social construct as it is a biological reality. I hope for you, and all of us, that we can find healthy and generous ways to navigate the world being who we are as sexual beings. Also, if you haven’t found the site Shybi.com, you should. It’s a discussion site mostly for Bi women. We men lost our site Shy-biguys when it shut down. But do take advantage of it and other sites.
I guess I'm bicurious, because I've never actually been with another guy. But I see that most of the discussions here are about sucking. I want to receive anal sex. Always been curious about what it would feel like. Also a bit of an exhibitionist, and like to show off my ass.
6 of one half a dozen of the other. I find my bi-side comes and goes. When it thier my desires range from a mild desire to be a sex obsessed slut, to just wanting to be with a trans gurl. Other times those desires go away and I wounder why that is even a thing. Hard to find environments where my bi-side can come out.
