I met a guy at the gym over a year ago. He is married with kids. I am gay and in a long term relationship ( closeted to most everyone outside of my circle due to my career). Although, we have never said more than two words to one another, we have some pretty hot make out sessions and groping over the past couple of years ( in a private place at the gym). When we see each other we pretend we do not know each other. I can tell he struggles with what he is doing ( he is hot and cold...avoids me some times and rarely makes eye contact). I want very badly to talk to him to let him know he is safe with me. I understand how he feels. I struggle with it too. However, I am not sure if I should talk to him. Afraid of making him feel worse. Thoughts?
Perhaps, you should try talking to him in a more comfortable setting such as in a small cafe. Don't come on too strong. Strike up a general conversation, then explain to him how you empathize with him and then let him know that you can be trusted. I think this will help to ease some of the tension....
Thanks. I have been thinking about trying to time our departures and talk while we are walking to our cars. I am not sure why this is weighing so heavily on me. I can tell he is struggling with guilt after our "encounters". I know that is on him and he has to reconcile that with himself. But, for some reason I feel like a conversation may help.................or totally freak him out.
I travel a lot and when traveling I try and stay fit by using the exercise room and equipment. For 55 years old I look and feel like I'm 35 so when you travel over seas for work your sleep patterns get all messed up. Most of my man to man sexual encounters happened during my workouts. Last Saturday morning London time I got up and went for a run of 2 miles then I hit the gym for some iron work and noticed a guy who was about my age eying me. I made eye contact and continued working. After an hour of my routine I retired to the steam room, in England steam rooms are very common in gyms. This lad was from Scottland here on Business and he too came into the steam room. What pissed me off was he was drinking Scotch and when I asked him if he had one for me he accommodated me and made me a stiff drink, when he reentered the sauna, he removed his towel and was now buck ass naked. He sat and we talked for about an hour when it was decided we needed more drinks. However his flask was empty and he would have to go to his room for more and asked me if I would come along. I gathered my things and followed him to his room, he then called me a heathen and said damn it man be free, let your boys breath. So I ripped off my towel and there we were staring at each others cocks. So here is me and this Scot sitting naked drinking Scotch and he pulls out 2 Al Fuenta cigars and oh my god it was so relaxing. While we smoked our cigars and stroked our dicks, he asked if I would mind if he brought up some company and said sure lets party. Within an 1/2 hour there was 3 other guys there ready to play. Within moments all were naked and ready to play, With out a lot of boring details, it was a hell of a night and I was used in ways that I didn't even think existed.
