Birthday (pity) Party

My birthday is Monday. I took tomorrow (Saturday) off so I could hang out with my friends or my husband and do something fun to celebrate because I'm working until 7pm on my actual birthday. I started talking to my friends and they all have other plans. One is out of state. Another has to go out of town to a family Christmas. One has something else going on. One has her son this weekend. One just didn't bother to answer. My husband has a family Christmas to go to that I stopped attending with him many years ago. They decided on the date for the Christmas after I had already taken the day off and we didn't find out about the date until Christmas day.

So now I have the entire day off and nothing to do or nobody to hang out with. My husband feels bad so he said he's going to leave the Christmas early so we can do something tomorrow night but it just sucks that I have to guilt trip him into wanting to celebrate my birthday. I'm bummed because I feel like I always go above and beyond to make myself available to my friends to celebrate with them. I'm going to have my own birthday pity party all by myself tomorrow. It's my birthday (observed) and I'll cry if I want to :bigcry:

 

Your husbands family decided on a date to celebrate Christmas, and placed it on your birthday knowing you would not attend but your husband would. Yikes, that does suck.

 

My birthday was yesterday. I didn't do anything. Its no big deal.

 

Their Christmas isn't on my actual birthday. Just the day I have available to celebrate it. It was an aunt that chose the date and I haven't attended this particular Christmas for about 7 years because some of them are not nice people. I don't think they did it on purpose. Last year they held it on my husband actual birthday. He was PISSED. I don't think it was anything they did personally to me. It was just a coincidence.

 

Happy belated birthday. arty:

I don't expect a party or anything but I have a group of friends that we all get together for each others birthdays. It's just hard since mine is so close to the holidays.

 

I always wondered if you were really born on a January night (in reference to your signature). You were! When is your actual birthday?

I'm sorry about the situation, that is tough. 35 is a significant birthday. Hopefully one of your friends will come through at the last minute.

 

I see. Well what can I say? Some years are better than others. This one obviously isn't that great and we've all had them. Its a part of getting older, not having big birthday celebrations every year.

What type of celebration are you trying to have? Didn't you take a full day off work? Just me but I usually don't take a full day off work for mine. Usually do something like dinner one night that all my friends can get together. Maybe coordinate it before scheduling off next time ?

Do something to pamper yourself.

 

A birthday and an Activity Award. Your year couldn't have started better!

 

It's my unbirthday! I'll celebrate with you.

 

Technically it was a January afternoon but I didn't write the song that came from but it fits me pretty perfect because I'm irish and all the other stuff it says. My actual birthday is January 6th.

Usually for my birthday my friends come over and hang out all day because we share the same hobby. I don't usually take a full day off either but I'm self employed and this is a slow time of year so I can take time off whenever I want but I need to know a little ways in advance. I can't take a day off last minute. They are all coming over next weekend but I have to work so it won't be a whole day of fun.

haha. I don't even know what the award thing is all about but yeah, I can be thankful I survived another year.

 

Come to Wyoming for your birthday celebration. arty:

 

its not even your birthday yet

 

Screw that. Meet me somewhere warmer!!! Birthday vacay with Mama!

 

Well you could work, or do something else and celebrate your birthday on some other day, especially since it's not your real b-day anyway.

Do you think that this might have worked out better if you had planned things with your friends further in advance?

Were some of them just being shits and not coming to your party?

If it's a genuine busyness issue, you could just plan better. Otherwise, you might want to work things out with mostly worthwhile friends, or get some better friends.

If your husband really wants to stay at the Christmas party, I'd say just let him stay and celebrate with him on some other day.

 

Happy B-Day Ruby From GLEN In OZ...arty:



Cheers Glen.

 

At this point I can't work. I work by appointment only and I purposely didn't make appointments for tomorrow. I wasn't really planning a "party" per say. I have an awesome group of friends. Normally its not that difficult to get them all together. It just didn't work out this time. I'll admit I should have planned better. I just got busy with the holidays and forgot to mention it to them. It's my fault. I'll deal with it. My friends are pretty amazing. It's not their fault that I didn't plan ahead. My husband doesn't want to go to the family Christmas. He feels obligated to go. (It's extended family, not immediate family) He's going to go for a few hours then leave to spend the evening with me. We've decided to go to dinner and ice skating which could be a total disaster since neither of us ice skate It will be fine in the end. I'll be happy.

Thank you very much Glen!!!

 

Well you are spending it with hubby and that is a good thing.

Happy Birthday, I can not be there but I hope you have a wonderful celebration of you!

 

Thank you Heather!

Next year for New Years we have decided to go somewhere warm with another couple. I might just extend that trip a few extra days and celebrate 36 somewhere nice and warm!!!

 

That would be a really good way to celebrate and to treat you to a nice Birthday mark!

I say go for it!

 

Blame you parents for giving you a birthday too soon after xmas