Hi everyone! I'm new to this forum, looks like a nice place. I'm facing a lot of stress right now about my sexuality and don't know who to talk to about it. I'm a 21 year old guy in a relationship with a girl for a month and a half. We actually live in the same apartment (with 4 other roomates) 'cause we've been friends for several years. I've known all my life that I've been turned on sexually by men. But I've always had relationships with girls, and had no problem having sex with them. I'd be ok with being bi, but here's my problem. I only get aroused by fantasies of men (usually sucking dick), not women. I can get turned on seeing hot guys walk down the street, but not girls. When watching porn, I often find myself turned on by the dicks in the scene. (maybe I would describe myself as a 7 on the Kinsey Scale?) BUT, when it comes to having sex with my girlfriend, once we're in bed touching and kissing, I have no issue getting hard. How do I know if I'm bi or gay? Wouldn't a bi guy be able to fantasize about girls, not just guys? What signals or flags should I look for to indicate my sexuality to me? I feel totally in the dark, afraid to hurt my girlfriend if I find out I'm gay. But I really care about her and love spending time with her. Just need help understanding bisexuality, and whether or not that's where I land... Thank you for any help
^^^ Not sure you need to worry about the labels. Perhaps you are bi closer to gay. You have a girlfriend, you like her and enjoy spending time with her. If she cares for you, talk about your fantasies with her. Get her input. Make sure she's in the loop of what you're thinking and feeling. Hope it helps. Take care,
I posted this in the bisexual forum but this seemed like a more fitting place... Hi everyone! I'm new to this forum, looks like a nice place. I'm facing a lot of stress right now about my sexuality and don't know who to talk to about it. I'm a 21 year old guy in a relationship with a girl for a month and a half. We actually live in the same apartment (with 4 other roomates) 'cause we've been friends for several years. I've known all my life that I've been turned on sexually by men. But I've always had relationships with girls, and had no problem having sex with them. I'd be ok with being bi, but here's my problem. I only get aroused by fantasies of men (usually sucking dick), not women. I can get turned on seeing hot guys walk down the street, but not girls. When watching porn, I often find myself turned on by the dicks in the scene. (maybe I would describe myself as a 7 on the Kinsey Scale?) BUT, when it comes to having sex with my girlfriend, once we're in bed touching and kissing, I have no issue getting hard. How do I know if I'm bi or gay? Wouldn't a bi guy be able to fantasize about girls, not just guys? What signals or flags should I look for to indicate my sexuality to me? I feel totally in the dark, afraid to hurt my girlfriend if I find out I'm gay. But I really care about her and love spending time with her. Just need help understanding bisexuality, and whether or not that's where I land... Thank you for any help
Very interesting. I had sex with guys and only got turned on my their dicks, not walking down the street. Different level all together.
I disagree unless your relationship is going someplace. One month in is no place to drop bombs unless you feel you can survive
