Bi men if you had a chance to do it all over would you still went to your bi side ?

Guys if you looked back and had to do it all over do you believe you would have still went to the bi side?

For me I often wonder. I was always a horn dog and had many hetro affairs on my wife. Then it came a time where it wasn’t as easy and or the woman wanted a relationship or escorts got to expensive.

Had my sex life with the wife not diminished I would have never went to the Adult bookstore and end up getting a Bj from a man that has started this bi journey for me. Men were like fish in a barrel to find and select who I would hook up with.

Before that time I had never really had any sexual thoughts about men.

Now I sit here thinking what am I? bi, gay, desperate or just stupid.

 

I'm myself and proud to be pansexual ..... imho that is the natural way of all human beings if it wasn't for religion and conditioning.

I have, and had, no desire to live a lie.

Simon

 

Yes. Why wouldn't I?

 

For me it’s more about I wasn’t faithful to my wife and it’s caused a lot of problems.
On the selfish side of me I have no regrets it’s been some of the greatest sexual pleasure I’ve had and I do miss it .

 

I didn't experiment until after my wife and I separated and ten rough years together. Although there was a lot of temptation, I doubt I would change anything.

 

Absolutely, and I'd have got a much earlier start.

 

I would have explored it more, and with a bi woman at my side doing it if I could do it over.
Still vast majority into women,but would have liked to become more relaxed and at ease with that side of myself - and enjoyed the pleasures of it! Being with a wife with zero interest in sex is an awful situation I never could have imagined!

 

For you choose to be bi or is it just a realization?

 

Well thanks for your very knowledgeable advice.
Very insightful yet I’m still confused. Lol I need therapy or a nice hard cock. All jokes aside I guess my point was had I never sucked that first cock i would home never know this side of me. So it just makes me wonder

 

yes I would

 

I was Bi as long as I can remember. Gals were always after me, and always the aggressor, but I also enjoyed guys.
Now, I'm no longer interested women for sex. I enjoy men.

 

I agree with Papa Smurf that you are definitely not stupid: stop thinking that. I also don't think that you were desperate for sex and because your wife was not into that anymore, you sought out that barrel of bi and gay men just to have some sex. I think unconsciously your gay side appearing was a long time coming, and just needed that excuse to let your conscious mind handle it. And there's nothing wrong with you questioning your sexuality. Only you can decide whether you are straight, bi, gay, or none of the above. You don't necessarily need a label, unless it's important to you.

From what you've written, I would say that first arcade experience, though it's true it led you down the road of engaging in sex with men, perhaps lots of sex with men, certainly didn't make you bi--not that you said that. But I suspect as you got older and not finding the satisfaction with your wife or other women in your affairs, your desires for men would have arisen one way or another. I have come to wonder whether our gay side has always been there, but just deeply repressed.

I also never had a gay thought in my mind until all of a sudden it appeared, while I was on a road trip for 5 months trying to heal my broken heart, after my 3-year girlfriend broke up with me (for the third time) at 30. I don't know whether it was the pain in my heart, or finally coming to terms with that pain, which I had by that point, 3 months into my journey, that allowed my repressed desires for guys to come to the surface. I believe we all have a tremendous amount of internalized homophobia, drilled into us by society, that affects our conscious thoughts, feelings and behaviour tremendously.

I always question guys who remain married to a woman unwilling or unable to share the sexual bond with her husband, especially when this "forces" the man to have extramarital affairs with either women or men, risking conflict and great suffering in his wife and family. Even if the wife knows you cannot deny that it causes her suffering. I can't begin to understand the complexity of marriage or divorce, since I've never been married. I'm just throwing that out there for you to also consider, to possibly free yourself to totally explore your sexuality.

As to your question, I myself actually do have some regret about going the bi route, but not in the way you think. I did have what others consider same-sex exploration as a child, which scientists consider not necessarily homosexual. But my best male friend from across the street and I had sex, and I enjoyed it very much. That's of course a long time for it to be "experimentation". But I never considered it "gay" for some reason. But we had a bad falling out and I never had another gay thought until 30. Throughout grade school, elementary school, and high school, all girls that I asked out to a school dance or on a date said No, thus rejecting me. And throughout my adulthood before and after that first girlfriend (who took my virginity at 27), women just constantly rejected me after 1-3 dates and not even a kiss, let alone sex--until my second girlfriend at 54. That relationship, like my first relationship, was filled with many breakups and a very turbulent time for 3 years, again (we broke up when I was 57).

So what I regret is my straight side of bisexuality. I of course never made a choice; it's just how things unfolded. But I wish I had never repressed my gay side, and just lived the gay life. I wonder whether my love life and my sex life would've been much better throughout my life (instead of sex and love with only two women, and tons of anonymous sex and no love with men). Only now, at 60, am I ready to fully embrace my gay side exclusively, and find close friendship, loving sex, and even love with a gay man. I'm no longer interested in sex or love with women. But that's just me.

You will of course have to find your own path, and be okay with that exploration, internally and externally. Good luck my friend!

Gary

 

I would ABSOLUTELY do this again if I had to do this all over again. I do not regret one bit what I have done. I enjoyed every moment. Id be lying if I said I didn't because I kept going for more.

When I was young and I used to masturbate, I wanted more out of my orgasm. So I started experimenting with anal masturbation. I realized it wasn't bad and I liked it.

Fast forward to my mid 20's I had already had sex with women. But then in between my escapades with women I would hit dry spells at times, so when I got bored I would go into the yahoo chats - the bisexual chats in my city (sad this no longer exists) and would chat with different men an in a attempt to get laid. I was nervous as I had never done this and I would be meeting up with strangers.

The first person I met, was a kind heavyset man, didn't work out. He couldn't function. so I left. DRY.

The second "persons" was a couple of guys (never knew if they were a couple) drove to their apartment and for my very first experience I was the bottom in the threesome. this is where I discovered I was 100% bottom! Never saw these guys again.

Third experience was what would become my regular lay when I was horny and I wasn't involved with a woman. I enjoyed every second with him and because if this I would totally live this out again if I could go back.

 

I wouldn't change a thing, I love pussy and I love cock, can't change that. But as I grow older ii find that cock really is my turn on now.

 

Same here, I love having sex with my wife and his but honestly now I crave his cock the most.

 

If I could do it all over I would hope I could be less inhibited. Perhaps that was just built in to me. From 20-32 while I never said no to a situation I dealt with a lot of shyness and inhibitions. Good thing I had some bold girlfriends and my wife.

 

I absolutely would embrace my bi side, if I had to do it all over again. I would have preferred to start earlier.

 

I wished i had started eariler in life also I enjoy it so much