Bi men and aging

In my family, both my dad and my oldest brother transitioned from jet black to pure white (with only a VERY brief stopover to salt-and-pepper).

My dad's two brothers went the same way.

Myself, I went from jet black to salt-and-pepper to all gray.

Hey, I'm NOT complaining.......no bald spots or thinning! (yet!)

 

my brother, who is only three years older than i am, started having problems with thinning hair and balding when he was only in his 20s. i'm 38 now and still have a full set of hair with no greys. funny how that works sometimes

 

Agreed.

Some fellows either to start to have thinng hair pretty early in the game; others go totally bald before they hit their mid-40s.

Still others are well into their senior years and still sport of a full head of hair......go figure!

Genetics, I guess.................

 

Just remembered this humorous bit........

I guy I once worked with had (obviously) gone totally bald, despite his "younger" years.

When one of his buddies mad a "chrome dome" remark, he came back with:

"Yeah? Well, at least I've still got hair where it counts!"

No further explanation needed.......

 

Just have to mention this........

IF a man wants to wear a toupee, fine; if it makes him feel better about himself, what's the harm?

However, I recall as couple of older guys I worked with years ago, whose choice of "rugs" was simply ridiculous.......not only it was VERY obvious they were wearing a toupee, BUT, they looked like nothing more than an animal pelt, hastily affixed with Crazy Glue!

Well, whatever floats your boat, I guess.........

 

Yeah, vanity. True enough, I didn't like losing my hair but accepted the fate that genetics was handing me - and there was no Hair Club for Men at that time and guys who wore toupees, well, I don't know how they did it because you could look at them and tell that they were wearing a wig, and it gave them a rather unnatural look and made them the butt of a lot of jokes. It still comes down to what kind of person you are beneath your hair or lack thereof, doesn't it?

 

KD23:

Agreed!

It's "what under the hood" that counts!

 

I was raised and taught to never judge a book by its cover and beauty's only skin deep.

 

KD23:

You certainly were raised the RIGHT way, my friend!

 

As a gay or bisexual man ages, does he enjoy porn as much as he did in his younger days, or, does he feel that what he is actually experiencing is enough to satisfy?

Or, does he simply enjoy both to the fullest?

Or, perhaps, use porn as an added "stimulant"?

 

I don't know; I haven't watched porn in a lot of years; I'm not counting the clips my protege loves to send me every freakin' day. I used to have one hell of a porn collection and one day, I threw it all into the dumpster. If you've seen one or two porn flicks, you've pretty much seen them all because I don't think porn has come up with something original since shemales joined the porn party. I know guys - like my protege - who indulges in porn; I've been with guys who couldn't get it up without watching some porn while waiting to get an erection.

Hopefully some of the other bi/gay men will chime in with their thoughts about porn?

 

KD23:

While a lot of porn IS hot; even I know that far too much is shamelessly cliched, and the "plots" are all pretty much predictable (dialogue coaches are certainly NOT needed, in any given porn flick.....just a lot of grunting, groaning, moaning, and repeating "Awww, fuck! Shit, fuck! Fuck that ass! Give me that big dick, man!")

Seems to me that any gay/bi guy who was about to "get on on" for real would be aroused enough in anticipation with what was to come, without relying on porn to get him "in the mood".......

 

You'd think that they'd already be hyped and aroused to know that sex was about to happen, right? I was at the home of this gay dude and we had agreed that sucking each other off would be a fun way to really get to know each other and the moment I walked into the room and sat down, he cranked up his VCR and... gay porn on the screen. He's clearly excited about what he's looking at and asking me if it was turning me on and I told him the truth: No, it isn't and he didn't seem to understand that but what had me nice and horny was thinking about being able to get my mouth on his dick so, do we have to watch this? He said he did so I just sat and waited until he was turned completely on by the porn - and it was cliched and cornier than a corn field - and, as such, it took me less than a minute to suck him off and that played into him... not being all that enthused about sucking me off and perhaps to his delight, I wound up fucking him so I could get off and even then it took "longer than necessary" to bust a nut because, in my head, having to endure him and his necessary dose of porn set this first meeting up to potentially fail.

Making me roll my eyes and sigh to remember that moment...

 

KD23:

Please pardon the following, but, as they say:

"....different strokes for different folks......" (pun intended!)

Yeah, sometimes, I am sure, it DOES get a little "freaky" sometimes, when it comes down to how certain guys "get in the mood"................

 

I've long since learned and understood what "Whatever floats your boat..." means. Me and a friend were hanging out with one of his friends when the guy goes into his bedroom and comes out with a couple of pictures. One was of a guy being fucked and the other was the same guy doing the fucking and he asks me which one of these things would I choose to do - and now I know that this guy is gay and pissed at my friend because he didn't tell me - or warn me about this guy. So I tell him that I'd rather be the one doing the fucking and the fact that I said that had this guy's dick on the rise big time. He shows me two more pics; one of a guy sucking dick and the same guy being sucked and, again, asked which would I [now] prefer to do and I say, "Both..." and it wasn't like my friend didn't know I was bi (but we'd never had sex).

The guy now knows that I'm a cocksucker and since he's been standing all up in my personal space, he's not only sporting a rather large erection, but he's got the biggest wet spot showing through his pants that I'd ever seen. He's talking to me about the joys of sucking cock - and like I didn't know that already - and he cums in his pants and I know he did because he's still in my personal space and there was no way I could miss seeing his prick twitching like crazy inside his pants and... I'm thinking this guy is way too freaky for my liking and I tell him as much when he asked if he could blow me. Which, in a way, was a shame because if he hadn't shown me those pictures and busted a nut in connection to them, I might have said yes to his offer.

I tend to bust my protege's balls because he loves to send me porn clips of (a) his type of guy (think NFL linemen) that (b) has a big dick and (c) who's Black and is (d) being fucked or (e) doing the fucking - and - then he's asking me if I'd let the guy fuck me (and like I'm a bottom) or if I'd suck the guy's dick (which I probably would) and he's telling me how hot and wet he's getting looking at the clips he's sending me and, sometimes, that's he's beating and edging his meat while watching the clips before sending them to me and even the "amateur" stuff he sends is so cliched that there's nothing exciting about it - if you've seen one gay porn flick, you've seen them all and no matter how deep the M2M sub-genre is. He finds this stuff highly exciting and... I don't.

P.S.: I forgot to mention how I've asked him how men get wet and he's not been able to explain that one to because, last I heard, women get wet when they're sexually excited but men do not get similarly wet because, um, we don't have a vagina - unless he was talking about oozing pre-cum and I've suggested to him that he says this instead of saying that some porn clip made him wet.

I wonder about him sometimes...

 

KD23:

Yeah, I hear you; indeed, more than a few gay/bi men fit the "whatever floats your boat" bill.

Funny you mentioned the big wet spot on the front of that guy's pants.

When I'm looking at porn, and am particularly horny (you already know what my tastes are!) I leak lube like a faucet; my boxers are slick and sticky as all hell........but, I digress......

Anyway, to say that most men (gay/bi/whatever) have their own personal cache of sexual "quirks" is an understatement.

Like that old saying goes:

".......one man's meat is another man's poison..........." (pun intended!)

 

"Variety" is indeed obvious "the spice of life", from what I've been reading here......

 

The "problem" I see with porn - is that guys will watch gay porn and get it into their head that whatever they're watching is the way guys have sex with each other; they often get unpleasantly surprised or disillusioned because they find that in the real world, that stuff they saw in porn ain't gonna fly. Gay porn has something for everyone with its many sub-genre and damned near covering every damned way two or more men can have sex and some of it makes me cringe... and I've seen and done some stuff. Porn's job is to excite and exaggerate, but I've seen guys use porn as a "how-to" primer. Had a guy who wanted to suck a dick for the first time try to deep throat me right off the bat - and threw up all over me and he couldn't understand why he threw up.

With another guy, I spent over an hour trying to talk a guy out of wanting to be fucked as his very first experience and tried to debunk his belief that my dick was just going to slide right on in him. I tried to explain to him that there's a lot of shit in porn that you don't see, like, how they prepare for anal sex scenes and the way they edit them can also be misleading, but he insisted on being screwed and, um, the moment I pressed the head of my dick into him, he passed out.

Yes, one guy went to kiss me and was confused and unhappy when I stopped him from doing it and he said, "But I thought all guys liked to kiss!" Of course, he'd think that if he was watching gay porn. I could tell when some guy was trying to do shit he saw in porn, like the guy who tried to slap me in the face with his dick and I said to him, "Do it and you're dead... and I mean it." He said that he thought that's how cocksuckers liked to be treated and, of course, he saw that shit watching gay porn.

He didn't get his dick sucked, either. Indeed, one man's meat can become another man's poison when taken out of context and fantasy is confused with reality.