Bi men and aging

Good luck to you friend---------here's hoping you find what you want-a solid relationship with another guy---------

 

Thanks friend

 

Single bi guys have their reputation at risk, too; they're not immune from being outed and I know many a single bi guy who (a) doesn't ever want to hook up because it's said to be too dangerous and (b) sitting on their asses waiting for a Mr. Right to come along and something that all guys looking for an FWB wind up facing. Just my opinion but what makes it difficult is being afraid to hook up with a guy for a one-night stand or even a blow and go because there are an untold number of like-minded men out there who are also looking for someone they can have sex with.

And I know it's just me but being older now tells me that if I'm still going to have sex with men - or with anyone - I might want to get it in while I can and sitting around praying for an FWB... ain't gonna cut it because when I want to suck cock, I want to do it now and not months from now or maybe never because I can't find what amounts to be a boyfriend, for all intents and purposes. And I figure that since I'm 68, no one gets to tell me who I can have sex with so it's not all that difficult for me to hook up with a guy and enjoy a nice 69 session with him and without any drama at all.

 

KDaddy23--------good points to bring up-for certain------there is not a ONE of us (regardless of orientation) that is out of the way of "risk" until we pass on; NOTHING in this life is without risk; and HOT guy/guy action can easily be enjoyed to the hilt-------with no strings attached------if that is what is wanted----------

 

There's no such thing as a sure thing; even when looking for Mr. Right, you must assume some risk and beginning with outing yourself to someone you may - or may not - know. You cannot and should not assume that just because you want a boyfriend that all other guys want one and having said that, learn to keep all options open, don't be so damned picky, and take it from me: Life is seriously too short not to do this if it's something you really want and need to do.

And if you risk nothing, you get nothing and no matter how old you are. It's like I once told thepapasmurph: If you're not willing to get your ass out there and interview guys for the job of your FWB, why aren't you? The FWBs that I have had were found because I hooked up with them first. Shit, sometimes, all I have time for is a blow and go; I don't want to fall in love with you - I want to suck your dick and get you to suck mine...

 

KDaddy23: I would guess with all the "hands on" (pardon the pun!) experiences you had in enjoying sex with both guys and ladies in sixty-odd years that it is no wonder that you "speak" quite intelligently and honesty-----and indeed "go deep" (again-pardon the pun!) into just what sex with both gents and gals is all about-----------------

 

KDaddy23: If we indeed do "learn" through our experiences-----you indeed possess quite a few "degrees" ("Bi-ology 101?) Certainly you learned QUITE a bit about sex (ALL sex) through the decades------and your relating your highly-erotic "escapades" through the years tells us that you are QUITE adept at your "craft"!

 

KDaddy23: They often say that: "experience and knowledge go hand-in-hand"; well- if this is so-then you are indeed quite highlyEXPERIENCED and KNOWLEDGEABLE-regarding sex with both the guys and the ladies--------

 

I'm not the best ever but I am good at what I do... and I know stuff about having sex and what it takes for a guy to get off his ass and experience sex in a way that will make him kick his own ass for taking so long to experience it. Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us so, um, if you're not going to do it now, when do you think you'll get around to it? When you're no longer able to have sex? This is an easier "bucket list" thing than climbing a mountain and less expensive than going to Hawaii. Stop wasting time and do what you gotta do and in whatever way you need to do it. I wouldn't be sitting on my ass waiting for Mr. Right FWB; there are way too many safe dicks out there for me to slake my lust upon.

I'm a nerd and all about the sex, from how to do it to why we do it; how do I manage to have so much sex? Bold, daring, unafraid, and determined to never let anyone get in the way of me being able to have sex... and everyone is fair game until they prove that they aren't.

 

KDaddy23: Now that is an EXCELLENT "life philosophy" to follow-----you are your OWN boss------do WHAT you want---with WHO you want------WHEN you want------period! What I REALLY think is sad is all the "straight" guys who are PETRIFIED of being labeled as "gay" if they were to dare to acknowledge their deep-seated desires to "get it on" with another guy; then there those guys (but NOT all-of course) who fantasize about another GUY fucking their ass with his hard shaft-when they are getting pegged by a lady-all because they do not want to be labeled as"gay"------ALL of these labels should be thrown into the trash can-along with all the other garbage-----------------

 

We should let the social stupidity stop making the labels a bad thing. The labels are what they are; society gives them meaning and society has always had it wrong when it comes to sex and sexuality - but we are a country of prudes. Calling me gay doesn't make me gay and if I tell you that I'm bi and go both ways and you still want to call me gay, well, how fucking stupid are you? Sure, I know guys who say that if a woman pegs them, it isn't gay when, in fact, it wasn't gay to begin with since, duh, men aren't the only ones who like to be fucked in the ass - men just have that thing of our butts being the only other option for intercourse.

I just choose not to be a sexual prude because sex is way too much fun not to enjoy it in every way you can. I don't need a guy to be into me or being into him; I just gotta like him enough to want to suck his dick and, yeah, to watch him suck mine because, um, why the fuck not? And since society ain't a fan, they can kiss my sweaty ass - they have no control or responsibility for my sexual pleasure because that one is all on me to take care of - and I take care of it and will until I die and stay dead.

 

Though none (thankfully) was directed towards this fellow-there was a lot of anti-gay feelings-courtesy of "straight" guys who thought two lesbians getting it on was HOT (they GAY was OK)-but they'd get nauseated at the thought of two "degenerate" GUYS nailing each other; bisexual guys were heard about only in off-color jokes-----hearing "half fag" to describe a bisexual guy was beyond ignorant-------tasteless gay jokes abounded-----I would totally tune these ignorant assholes out when I would hear the guffawing when they were getting into this tasteless crap-------talk about "ignorance is bliss"---------

 

"Gay sex"----"straight sex"------bi sex"-------doesn't the redundant labeling and pigeonholing get ridiculous after a while? "SEX" is "SEX"------PERIOD---------regardless WHO is taking part-------

 

You got that right grayguy57

 

Yes, it is redundant but this is how humans are: We make differences where none are needed. It's all sex, of course, but we make differences based upon the participants and get it wrong; just because two guys are getting it on with each other doesn't mean that either of them is gay, does it? Two straight women indulging in a 69 would be having lesbian sex... but neither is lesbian; they just had one bottle of wine too many. We're still losing our shit over the notion that a straight guy can want to suck cock or get his rectum flooded with cum and he'll tell you that he's still straight.

As Mr. Spock said in a book I read, "A difference which makes no difference is no difference..." but it's a lesson that we haven't learned yet.

 

KDaddy23: Well said once again---------again-I truly think that a lot of "straight" guys would really get into hot sweaty sex with another guy with wild abandon IF he was not so terrified of being labeled as "gay"---------

 

I think so to

 

That boys get "the ONLY sex that is RIGHT is with GIRLS" lesson continually drilled into their skulls growing up-it is no wonder why "straight" guys think that sex with another guy is so gross and disgusting-------if they only knew-----how about young teen boys who "play" with one another----and then suddenly stop-as in their heads-they are hearing that tired old song: "sex with other boys is WRONG" No wonder gay and bi teen guys grow up battling with what they FEEL and how they are SUPPOSED to feel (as society dictates)-------------

 

You'd think that more men, as they get older, figure out that the "girls only" rule is fine and dandy... but not the only way to have sex since, um, duh, there are gay folks every-fucking-where and they all cannot be wrong about things and even if they were, um, duh, they don't much care. Sure, sex with girls is fun but I had fun with my male buddy sucking each other off before I got to having sex with her... because the social norms, while serving a purpose, cannot allow or accept guys having sex with each other as just another way to have sex and... no unwanted children, by the way.

If you can't trust your feelings, I don't know what to tell you. If you haven't had sex with a guy yet, allow me to point out that society... won; it keeps you sitting on the bench and only dreaming of what it would be like or watching porn that doesn't tell the whole story - it just tells the part of it that will get your dick hard and jerking off with a fake dick in your ass when, um, ahem, you could have a guy sucking your dick or fucking you and about to fill you up with cum and the question I ask is how old do you have to be before you get into the game? How long are you going to remain a slave to a set of rules and beliefs that are designed to control your sexual pleasures and confine them to a single source and a source that, one day, is going to be taken away?

If you're content for this to be just a fantasy, you're well within your rights to... but fantasy can't match the reality of taking a guy's cum or having a guy taking yours or being face down/ass up and there's a guy giving it to you good and hard and has you waiting for him to unload his balls into you. Or you're the one looking down and you see your hardness protruding from his ass and he's waiting for you to breed him...and then you do.

Do you have any idea what that feels like?