I'm a happily married 55year old male with an active and enjoyable sex life with my wife. I am more and more enjoying the thought of bi-sex but scared of the outcome in my everyday life. Not particularly attracted to men as such-just the sex part. Any others in my predicament?
I know how you feel. You have the desire but don't want to hurt your wife. For me, it kept building until I had to do something about it. Be careful on selecting a partner. Try to find someone who wants to be discreet as well and go for it. Maybe it's something you have to get out of your system and you won't do it again. Then it's done. But, maybe it's something you like and then you can figure how it will work on your life. To be honest, I felt just like you and went ahead. I do like it and now have a friend that we meet up regularly. Also, I wasn't attracted to men either, I would think to myself that I was picky but realized that I was just attracted to certain men.
Hi, I agree with all you say, it's eating away inside and I want to release it. I guess it won't happen unless I make it, that's the hard bit as the opportunity never comes my way. Would definitely have to be discreet with a nice, clean sort.
More than likely the opportunity won't present itself. You have to do some work to make it happen. Try posting an ad or join a site. I found most guys just want to hook up quickly. You have to weed out the guys u don't want. I always post that I like to chat for a while first until I'm comfortable. Maybe exchange emails or calls for a week. Then it's more comfortable for both.
I am 51 and have been married 20 years. About 5 years ago I started fantasizing about sucking cock and after a while it seemed like thats all i could think about. I decided to tell my wife she is pretty open minded and has openly talked about sexual fantasizes.When I told her that I had been fantasizing about suckig a cock it didnt faze her at all she said I am sure 99% of men and women have had same sex fantasizes at some point in there life including her.She said dont worry about it or feel ashamed or guilty about and that she didnt have a problem with it as long as it remainsd just fantasy. I know have a few all male porns that I watch sometimes and she bought me one of them. I still would love to try sucking cock but I am not so sure it would be as good as the fantasizes I have about it. So for me and my wife its a win win situation... and I dont have to hide it from my wife.
HI, I AM A MARRIED WHO ENJOYS MEN AND WOMEN AT THE SAME TIME. I LOVE TO SWALLOW ANOTHER MAN AND CLEAN THAT ROUNS SILKY HEAD AFTER WARDS.
No. Never in your situation. I was always hetero, got divorced a long time ago. My lesbian partner and I now live together happily. If you really love your wife, you'll keep those feelings under control. Just my shit opinion.
Im 20 and im bi I love guys that are really muscular and bigger than me! I like to be submissive in bed,I have this fantasy I want to get fucked by a chick with a strap on and her to call me names like slut and bitch while she fucks me!This is what turns me on!
[SIZE=9pt]Yes it’s not always easy you have to want it and go after it. I have been with my wife 30 years, ten years ago or so I told her I thought about suck cock, she was open to it so we started looking for a 3some. Never got in to that but she has seen me suck several cocks. [/SIZE] [SIZE=9pt]I have no attraction to men at all, except for thier cock and balls. For me an uncut cock is gross. I’m quite picky about the cock I put in my mouth and the balls I lick. So it’s hard to find someone with the same interest/wants, in a smaller city.[/SIZE]
I'm 58 bi curious. I'm married lack of sex with wife.love her I would love to have mmf sex. I enjoy anal play. I would love to 69 with the female on my back legs in air. Or on the guys shoulders get penetrated. I've never been with a guy. But love to try.safe sex using condoms. I want to explore more sex.make me horny to think how I would love pumping pussy while getting pumped. Anyone feel the same way as I do. What did you do about it.
It sounds like there are a lot of married guys here not getting much sex from their wives and thinking about cocks. We should form a group here.
I was - sort of. I was single but very curious, so I did my homework, found a nice, discrete local gay guy on a dating site and gave it a try. No regrets. Been back to visit several times. Always mutual. I found that I prefer the female body, but still like giving and getting oral with a guy. As I said - much like you, it's about the sex. I'd like to receive anal at least once, but (no pun), he's not into it.
t In a similar situation. Married 18 years and am 52 years old. When my wife and I first got together we did the usual pillow talk about fantasies and sexual experiences, so she knew that in my younger days I had sucked off a few of my friends in HS and college. We both confessed to having same sex fantasies (among other kinks) and decided to fulfill some of them. A bi couple that responded to our ad, and we met them for drinks. A very attractive couple and they seemed to like us. We were all flirting and got along well. Decided to meet up again and see how things went. Unfortunately, when my wife and I were in bed that night she told me she didn't think she could handle seeing me with another woman (I had/have NO problem seeing her with another man) so we never met up with them as a couple. However, 2 weeks later when both the other husband and I were out of town, my wife hooked up with his wife for her first same sex sex! Although she said it was pleasurable, she scratched this off of her bucket list and didn't want to do it again (even thought the other wife called her often to get her back in the sack). They eventually moved away. I still had my cock fantasy and after watching some bi porn we bought a strap on and she made me suck it before she fucked me with it. I loved it! Fast forward several years and she has completely shut down sexually, while I haven't slowed a bit. I don't want to hurt her by stepping out without her, but I know there is no way I can talk to her about it (we don't even talk about sex, let alone have it). She won't watch porn anymore so it's not like I can bring it up again while watching gay videos. If she found out that I was hooking up with a guy would she divorce me and "out" me, would she be thankful that at least it wasn't another woman and I wasn't pestering her for sex all the time, or would it turn her on and bring her out of her sexless shell? I probably should have hooked up with the husband of the bi couple we met and had a suck/fuck buddy for a while. I'd sure like to find one now. Sorry this was so long.
The desire to control someone else's body has nothing to do with love (it's more about fear and jealousy), although from a m2f perspective, any arguments offered MAY have something to do with stopping the man from creating a child with another woman BESIDES the child he has in the original relationship—in any case, those arguments would not apply to same sex relationships.
Yep - only thing is I've been thinking about it for twenty or so years (maybe more as they say). I've joined a few sites now and then but the guys seem to want to get it on immediately which being quite nervous about it all doesn't click with me.
Yup, m2m relationships are a lot simpler. None of the BS you usually get with m2f relationships, if you don't want it. Sorry that makes you uncomfortable. I personally don't see a good reason to inhibit sexuality. All we need to do is make sure we are responsible in how we use it.
