Going the bi way was better a better choice than cheating, according to my wife. I dont have the time, money or patience to cheat. My wife knew I still had needs and her suggestion was to have a bi experience with our old gay friend who is an older lonely gay man. He had offered to help me satisfy my sexual needs.. It seemed like a logical choice. No baggage, No hastles, just a great orgasm from a skilled cock sucker. My needs outweighed my reluctance. I tried it, no hastle. If I didn't like it, I would never have to do it again. Being on the recieving end of a bj seemed like an OK deal. When my wife asked me if I gave him one in return, I told her I still felt a little uptight and didn't. She insisted I should try it, at least once, which I did next time. I was hooked the moment his cock hit my lips. My eyes were opened. For over 2 years, I have had the pleasure of receiving and giving mutual bjs, with no hastles or ill thoughts. Even tried fucking. I think my wife was more excited that I did it, than I was, at first. She loves hearing and even watching us. I thank her for helping me shed my anxiety about it. Have you taken the big step and at least tried it once. Would your wife be so open to the idea?
I told my wife about my 1 experience from my past. She was very excited, and admitted she was bi as well. She insisted we find a guy, so she could watch me with him. She did make it easier for me to accept, and enjoy. Things are to an extreme now, and she is every bit as involved as she ever was.
Topper, you are a lucky man to have a wife who encourages your happiness and sexual gratification could be met with someone else... My wife did not share this same feeling. She expected me to be in a monogamous relationship with her but that meant that I was also to become celibate. My mistake was to not have the balls to say that will not work and I am bi, and I will be pursuing the companionship of a man to meet my needs. I had no interest in seeking sex with another woman. I wanted that with her. Cheating is cheating, however... Once she realized what I was doing behind her back, she felt I had violated a most precious vow. She did not understand that her loss of interest in sex was a violation of that same vow. Yes, indeed... you are a lucky guy
Yes my wife was open to the idea for the same reasons. She wasn't happy with me havin ga woman on the side, and I had stage fright and guilt, but with a bi guy, she knew, and would let me do it now if I could find someone just for that. I did visit an old cock-sucker. A nice old guy and yes, I did reciprocate and loved it. No cum, haven't taken any of that yet, but a good lustful suck off was just what the doctor ordered. I just wishe she'd let me have a friend here at home but that ain't happening.
We were in the NYC Garment and Textile trade together ages ago. We were both surrounded by the Gay Lifestyle, which prompted my wifes interest in Gay/Bi sex. Cheating is doing something behind someones back and we both are honest about our needs and desires. My wife knew that I couldn't be celibate and jerking off didn't offer any kind of excitement, when she couldn't have sex anymore and was bold enough to offer some great alternatives. We started with Strapon fun, which opened the door to being a natural for my Bi experience with our dear friend. Things just graduated from there. I feel very Lucky to be the old slut around here. If my wife wasn't so intrigued with my bi adventures, I would never have gone there.
Well, I wanted to be completely open and honest so to see if she was just yuck about it, I told her everything. I described how he sucks me off and described his little cock and how I suck it and the other visitor. She was quite OK with it. I even visited a gay guy a few times. I told her we 69'd on his bed mostly but I did his anus a few times to please him. She said she thought he was in me as well. Perfectly OK with it.
My wife would never be ok with it. But she has left me with no other option, she has completely lost interest in sex.
I was bi long before I met my present wife, and she thinks it's very sexy to be married to a man who has sex with other men. She's been involved many, many times.
Some real positive experiences for some of you. I am in the same boat and have been exploring my bisexual side. She would never understand. She turned off sex 10+ years ago and finally in April I started to do something about it
You found a great partner who understands your desires and needs and helps you fulfill them. That's sadly a rarity in many cases.
It’s an interesting situation as you have experiences with guys. A lot of people say it’s just sex or a blowjob. If you are into the other person on some level and care they feel good as well, it’s huge. Makes all the difference in my opinion. Have had a few experiences where the other person was all about them. Had a situation where I didn’t get hard because I was so turned off. Definitely an experience and experiment
