Being a guy who doesn't get girls

There have been cowards who women have found especially attractive and brave men who couldn't get any if their lives depended on it. And to say there's no such thing as "real woman" but there is such a thing as "real man" is bullshit anyway.

Should I start a list of all the qualities that make one a "real woman"? Who would appreciate that? Anyone? That's what I thought. It's bullshit.

 

I wish your guarantee came with some money because you're wrong. They notice all my friends, and every other guy. But not me. They see me as what I am - an undesirable. And that's how it should be I guess.

 

You can keep saying this, but I'm still not a real man. I've already given you my definition of what constitutes a real man. I don't qualify.

 

Fine, you're not a real man. That solves my issue with giving a damn quite succinctly.

 

There are exercises I've found under pectus excavatus to help improve and balance your appearance. I am sure your parents would help you buy an inexpensie weights set so you can build yourself up and achieve strength and better balance for your body. Exercise would help you feel better about yourself and life in general. Your attitude that the world has done something wrong to you isn't going to work for you. Read some books on positivity and mindfulness. There are good people in the city as well as the country and an equal number of bad ones. Humans are good and bad no matter where they live. You may prefer the quiet life. Farmersonly.com is a country dating site for those who are in the country or prefer the country lifestyle. Work on your body to make it as attractive as you can: Make sure your teeth and skin and hair are well cared for; wear clothes that flatter your build. Be the best you can be of yourself, exude positivity and people will repond to that. If you avoid people, say you hate them, of course you will not attract anyone. Desire is the human condition. You cannot extinguish it. Hope for connection is also the human condition. If you have neither, you are trying to extinguish your humanity. Embrace the possibility of love, joy and friendship. Smile. Feel better a little every day. People are attracted to someone exhibiting joy and confidence. If you wallow in what you don't have, you will never develop what you could have. Good luck.

 

You also sound like you're clinically depressed and need counseling, psychiatric care. Talk to your parents about getting you this kind of help. Until you ACT nothing will change. You have to help yourself and reach out for help. Get to it.

 

He won't do it. I'd be pleasantly surprised if he did. He sounds like he's made up his mind about this. So the next step is for him to leave us. Maybe he won't do that either, though, because he's a whiner who just keeps going on and on about how undesirable he is. He never actually takes any of our fantastic pieces of advice(which makes him an ungrateful SOB as far as I'm concerned), and never tries to be a better version of himself. He only whines, and never puts any effort into self improvement. How can we help someone who doesn't want help? I think we've done all we could.

 

They never do take advice, they just continue on each time with a new chapter to add that keeps the novel going, or until they read what they want to hear.

 

Welcome back K̶o̶t̶t̶e̶r̶ Slasher

You just need a few self help YouTube's
I recommend these to get you started. All these guys on these vids are what you describe about yourself. If you watch carefully a few times and take notes. You'll be more ahead than you are now.

 

I read somewhere on a pornhub advert that 1 in every 10 women say yes if you ask them to fuck and they seem pretty positive that hot milfs are in your area too.

 

OP-- I think the problem with you and others like you is that you see women as something that you must 'get'. In my experience, the mindset that suggests women are something to be acquired tends to be really off-putting to most women... especially when you are projecting a sense of urgency and impatience about it.

I wouldn't call myself a playa but here are some things that have worked really well for me:

1. Be yourself first and stop thinking that you need a woman to be 'complete'.
2. Don't try to purge your desires, become bitter, or blame women or society-- these paths will lead you to uglier and uglier places.
3. Have at least one hobby that gives you an opportunity to meet people.
4. Learn to deal with rejection and don't let it make you feel like less of a person.
5. Approach each woman as a person first, not as an object that exists for your own sexual gratification and can be 'unlocked' if you say and do the right things.
6. Learn to recognize signs that you are in the friendzone, and if that happens, make sure that you can really be friends with this person and aren't just doing what you're doing because you really want them to like you. If you feel like you're putting in a lot of effort and it's not moving forward, know when to give up.
7. Actually THINK about what's important to you in a woman-- a lot of this will actually have to do with personal qualities and not superficialities like charm, appearance or the halo effect.

 

AT, maybe you've been clinically depressed. This guy appears to fit that bill. When you're down, you do not think rationally about rational offers of help. Unfortunately, only HE can start the ball rolling. I don't think it's whining. He's clearly in pain and is stuck. Reaching out, even in this small way, may mean some part of him wants to get better. It only takes a small match to light a big fire. You are probably right, however. If he does nothing IRL, talking here is useless.

 

There's a subtile difference between reaching out in desperation and being a whiner who throws every piece of good advice away by default. OP is a whiner.

I just hope he keeps it in one thread (this one )

 

Well, I don't think I have been clinically depressed........ Or maybe I have, I mean, I have enough reasons to have been officially depressed. Hell, I'm a mess from time to time. But that's really a side note here. The OP actively came on here with an attitude where he wanted to change his situation(his first thread was called "Looking To Change Things Once And For All", or something similar, I'm too lazy to look it up now) but changed his mind half way. Ever since then, he has been nothing but a whiny lazy ass. If he wants to be taken seriously around here, he needs to do his part. That's basically what I'm saying.

 

I think real change is quite daunting to people in situations like his. He has a physical deformity thought it can be improved upon... he dislikes work in the city, he dislikes people and wonders why he can't have friends and woman friends.... when all of the things are pointed out to him and shown that he really had to do A LOT of work to improve his situation.... that is fairly scary... He's still a young man and seems severely sheltered. .... Either he takes the reins... or he doesn't. Change is hard. Misery might be the easier path...

 

Well, trust me, I was more sympathetic toward his situation in the beginning. I even shared my own physical inadequacies of crooked teeth, weight gain over the years, my small penis, and added that I've been able to find myself in a relationship for the past five years with a beautiful girl who is half my age despite my "disadvantages". But that was like two months ago, and the OP never found it helpful. He chooses not to pay attention to pretty much any advice given. He may be depressed and is in that state of mind where he can't believe anything that is offered by total strangers, but he's also acted disrespectfully toward a number of us. And thus he has now been placed in the same category as a troll.