Before you ask 'how do I send private messages?' please read the conversation message I sent you when you joined the site. Before you ask 'when can I post an avatar?' please read the conversation message I sent you when you joined the site. Can't find it? Read it here... I send the same message to ALL newbies upon joining our site Hi there! We have been waiting for you. We have been here many years getting ready for you to arrive. Now you are here you can go to the Introduce Yourself thread and say hello. After you make ten public posts, and are with us a week we can grant you member status which gives you a lot more. When you get member status you can post an avatar, use the private conversation feature and truly enjoy the site. You could also jump right into a thread that interests you. There is a lot of talk about many things here at the HipForums.com...and you can always upgrade to supporter status for all site privileges including the Adults Only Love and Sex Forums. We do have some rules to follow, but basically just remember to not insult the other site members and respect the moderators. If you have questions you can answer this conversation message and I will reply. Have fun! ~Zen~ Link to the site rules: Forum Posting Guidelines / Terms Of Service