i thought this was all hypothetical. i don't think the origional poster believed they were seperate-he just wanted to know which one of these overlapping spectrums was most important to each of us. i think intelligence is the most permanent trait of the three, so i have to go with that one. an intelligent person can change their personality any time they please, and can learn how to take good care of themselves. someone who is born with an IQ of 87 (though i really don't trust that system entirely) has certain limitations that probably can't be changed a whole lot.
I voted Great Personality, although in real life I'd prefer if she had all three. I'm not saying intelligence is not important to me because I can be impatient with unintelligent people. But intelligence in itself is cold and unfeeling. The guys who build weapons of mass destruction, who plan terrorist attacks, who run drug cartels, who sit in government positions: they are intelligent, but look at what they're using that intelligence for. A person can be smart, but that doesn't necessarily mean he/she is a good person. Sexual Appeal? Sexual appeal is important, but if I'm going to spend the rest of my life with a girl, not all of our moments together will be spent fucking our brains out. There will be bills to pay, children to raise, arguments to be settled... I need a mate I can live with, not just have sex with. Great Personality? A person with great personality can be smart, but he/she will not use intelligence for anything but good. A person with great personality can have massive sexual appeal, but a huge part of that will depend on his/her having a great personality.
This question is flawed, if you have a great personality, intelligence will follow it, and so will sex appeal. So you pick choice A, you are also picking choice B and C. Besides great personality is needed in a relationship for it to last. Now, if you pick B, then you are being redundant, because sex appeal has to exist in a relationship, if you are not sexually attracted to a person, then that person is just a friend, not girlfriend. Then , if you pick C, then too you have a problem, because how do you define intelligence? intelligence is a concept that differs from person to person. If a girl is a great mathematician, she is intelligent in math, and lets say she sucks at relationships, she is not so intelligent in relationships... so intelligence differs from person to person. Also, if you see the girl as intelligent , then you will be certainly be attracted to her, so sex appeal follows intelligence. Now, if you think she is intelligent in the field you value the most (personal/professional), you also think she has a great personality, because if you don't think she has a great personality, you think something along the lines of "She thinks she is smart, but she is really just opinionated and dumb" . So basically, all are needed in a relationship for that relationship to continue to be a happy and satisfying relationship . Your question therefore is flawed.
Your husband is smart to you because he says things that seem smart to you. The "loser choice" of this post reflects this , because women like smart men, you can argue that man seeks a dumber woman because she will love him for being smarter than her. Its all about the love. If the girl is smarter than him, then he is afraid that she might not love and respect him.
I'd pick a great personality because their personality is what I fall in love with. Looks fade, even intelligence fades... So when I'm an old granny in my rocking chair, I want my old hubby by my side, to make me laugh and smile... make our relationship worthwhile.
I chose "very intelligent" as I do not like women who are idiots or vain. My current girlfriend is a research assistant and is a scientist of genetic studies. I tried going out with a girl that was really very attractive but ultimately extremely boring after a while because she wasnt interested in anything academic whatsoever, sure, sex was fantastic and then endless parties is great, but what about the other 50% of the time. I mean I tried my best to maintain conversation but she was just interested in gossip about who we know and what theyre doing. I like women to know something about advancements in all the areas of human life that people are struggling to understand so that we can continue our survival as a race. Dumb women are the biggest turnoff ever, theres never anything to talk about at dinner
Yeah, I'm lucky(apparently)cause when thinking of my lady, i couldn't decipher between any of the three..she has them all, i guess thats what happens when youre in love/love your partner... hopefully we can all find the tri-fecta of all three in our soul mates, increasingly I see those around me finding their matches, new energies in the universe and progression of time may prove to be the best of times here on this planet... love love, its great to live it all.... lovin'light adam
IME, personality and intelligence don't always go hand in hand. I dated a guy who was extremely smart. Of course there are varying opinions of intelligence, but to simplify, he was book smart and knew lots of random and interesting trivia. The guy was bland. He had no personality of his own, so he absorbed information like crazy to try and create a personality through that. He was like a computer and I admit that I enjoyed his random trivia and ability to quote philosophers, historians, physicists, etc. But he just couldn't fully grasp some social concepts within relationships. It's hard to bond with a machine. Then there is my cousin. I love her to death, but man. I'm sorry to say that the poor girl is as dumb as a box of rocks. She makes all the wrong decisions in life and doesn't understand why she gets hurt. again. and again. But I have to say... I've never had more fun with any person in my life. There is never a dull moment. Soooo in conclusion... The smart guy got boring when his trivia ran out and I realized there was just an empty void inside his head. The personality + girl frustrates me to tears with her sometimes shocking lack of intelligence. And the hot guys? I get my fill and their beauty grows common. I'm not sure how this poll can be answered without a 4th option. Dying cold and alone because you won't settle. Yep! I've resigned myself to the fate of an old maid! haha well not really. If I meet a guy with all 3 traits and love comes of it, then that's great! But I have too many goals to be met in this life to sulk for more than a few seconds about the possibility of never finding my special someone.
I realize "personality" probably includes this for most people, but I find it very sad that simply being a good person isn't a choice. How about the ability to love someone, to be caring and selfless? There's a big difference in being suave, a great conversationalist, funny, and lively and being a good person. If someone isn't a good person, then intelligence, personality, and looks are meaningless.
I agree. If they aren't a good person deep down then their looks and personality aren't even apparent because all you can see is their ugly soul.
I would say I have to have all three to be in a relationship and I would add loyalty and a lack of vanity.
No, I'm not going to become a wifebeatter by any chance. Where the hell are you coming from? What did I say to make you think that of me? Nothing, atleast nothing that even at its most tenuous would enter the realm of wifebeatter, so fuck you. Yes, I wanted to know what people thought was the most important in a relationship, but I didn't define relationship. I DID NOT define relationship. I didn't say good relationship or bad relationship or purely sexual relationship. You defined relationship on your own, and then you took that definition and assumed that because I said sex was important to me at the time that I don't respect women. Your assumption was wrong and insulting, because I did not say that sex appeal was the most important thing for me in a relationship, and even if I did that still is nowhere near wifebeatter. The most important thing for myself in a relationship is personality, which does include that person being a good person, and I would take a good social relationship with a good person and no sex over a bad social relationship with someone who would do anything I wanted in reguards to sex.
Surely it depends on what type of relationship you want right? Horses for courses and all that. And maybe if you think you want a particular type of relationship with a one dimensional character perhaps it says more about what's lacking in your life than about your preferences? Anyway, I'm a woman so I'll leave.
