We've done the spread eagle play too. She swore that she didn't like anything like that. But was dripping before I got her spread and tied up properly. Licked her off in less than a minute. Now my friends know what they like for BDSM. Or put another way, what they like and what they want to try. There's so much variety in this genre. And I love how many women like a whole lot more than they are willing to talk about.
Search online for a "Beginner's Guide to Consensual Adult Spanking". Start with with wise words and go from there . . .