Okay, I know this is an odd post, but I have a certain situation. I CANNOT go #2 in a bathroom that is anywhere in public, or near people. Try as I might, I cannot physically go. I understand that some people have a similar problem with urination, and that there is even a medical name for it. I would greatly appreciate it if anyone could offer any advice for my unusual situation.
umm.... when i gotta go shit i just put toilet paper on the rim... as long as there's some measure of 'sanitation' it puts me at rest... physically and mentally...
Yeah, I used to be like that when it came to urination (so polite) I think it was after a traumatic experience when I was young at Hyde park in London - I didn't lock the toilet door properly and someone barged in on me with a crowd of staring people behind her. Euucchhh. Anyways, took me years to get over it but I started by sticking my fingers in my ears so not only could no-one hear me, I couldn't hear anyone either! It became as if no-one else existed, and eventually I got to the point of not caring Don't give yourself such a hard time, more people have this problem than we realise, and at the end of the day, we all have to shit at some point!!! May the force be with you!
Yeah I get that too, I actually thought thats what 'anal retentive' meant when I was a kid lol. Oh the days of being young and naive and ignorant. I wish one of my ex's had of had that problem too. I still remember waking up one morning to sounds of "oooh, aaah, aaaaah, aaaah, uggggh, sigh" coming from his bathroom. I thought he was jerking off but turns out he as just having a shit and clearly really enjoying the experience. Still I'd rather he'd not shared the session with me through being so vocal. I think the experience has only made me worse about going to the loo in public places.
Thank you all for your suggestions! I found them to be quite helpful and will be sure to try them out.
I don’t like to go in public bathrooms either any more. It didn’t use to bother me but now I prefer to find a private bathroom so I can relax and let my body take his time to relieve himself. I have more than thirty years of type 1 diabetes and it’s taken its toll on my aging body. I have periodic bladder and bowel issues from it so I really need to be able to relax on the toilet or I have issues so I truly understand anyone who’s bladder shy or bowel shy…
Us being intelligent humans, when we are out we try to plan our bathroom visits. As a result our brain starts our bodies preparation, regardless of whether the visit is necessary. Therefore, with stool motions too early, nothing happens because our small intestine is not producing pressure at the start of the rectum. The downside is, that when the time actually comes, we can get about 10 seconds warning. A situation can arise, where our brain gets so confused that we almost literally don't know when we are going. Stop and think about it. We can mostly spend the night, travel for several hours, work a shift and everything times in. Consciously thinking about it is mostly where the problem lies. However, during bacterial infection and when our renal system detects toxins, they take over, giving us as little as 5 seconds warning. Too much tea or coffee is also a bladder irritant, which is why we don't drink them before going to bed.
