Barefooter Dating Protocol

For those of you doing the online dating thing or thinking of getting back into it as the pandemic winds down, do you mention your barefooting in your profile or wait until you meet in person or sometime after?

I wrote in my profile that I like to walk and hike barefoot and even shop and run errands barefoot sometimes. I feel like that might scare off some women and some may assume I'm a liberal/tree hugger/lefty type which is not the case. Although for casual dating/hook ups, that probably doesn't matter (at the moment, I'm not sure what I'm looking for, having not dated for quite some time after my last relationship).

Depending on the date type/location and our online interaction prior to first meeting, I may or may not show up barefoot. If not, I would wear my Xeros barefoot sandals. In eitehr case, I would be wearing my anklets and probably my 2 toe rings, too.

My last girlfriend was okay with my barefoot hiking, but didn't like me going barefoot into stores, although she gave up trying to talk me out of it. But I wasn't as avid a barefooter when we first met. I didn't start wearing foot jewelry until after we split up.

Anyway, just curious what others thought.
Obviously for most of us on this forum, someone mentioning in their dating profile that they like going barefoot would be a plus.

 

It's in my profile that I like going barefoot whenever possible, and am seeking a woman who feels the same way. I'm not interested in hanging out with a woman who is uptight about feet. Period.

 

very interesting topic.....when I was using online sites for dating (a bi dating site) i always made a point of mentioning my personal "stuff" - social drinker and smoker, plus always said openly "I go barefoot everywhere and enjoy it".
I didnt want any surprises to come up later on, and by saying I enjoyed it, i certainly didnt want them to try and "change" my lifestyle decision

 

Thanks for the comments. I'm going to leave that info up on my profile. I'd rather be barefoot and single than with someone who would be opposed, embarrassed or nag me about it. I wear shoes to work and when needed for protection but can't imagine going back to the days of wearing shoes 16 hours a day, 7 days a week. When I retire in 5 years or so, I hope to be barefoot 95% of the time.

 

I'm retired and am barefoot 95% of the time (in summer, winters get cold where I live.)

 

i like what was said up there about not even wanting to date someone who was uptight about feet. i feel the same way. their the hands of the legs. like come on.

 

I thought about this too.

"I'm not interested in hanging out with a woman who is uptight about feet. Period."

Exactly.

I get that. This is an excellent topic. Wrote a whole bunch of stuff then deleted it. I need to sleep on it. I want a real girlfriend too.

For now I will say in the real offline world I was always making "footsie friends" with the ladies before this stupid pandemic and honesty was the way to go.

I would just say it, wow you got some nice feet and I give the best foot rubs ever. Not that blunt but almost. And more often then not they are like sure ok and they love my 'foot rub' make cool sensation sessions. I put effort into making it feel good.

But this online dating thing, I got to give this some thought.

 

Bottom line is I hate online dating sites. That's why I got stuck and did not know how to comment.

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I did not fully read the above link before posting but it seems well written. Graphs and trends.

Its was just my fault only messaging the most attractive women who get 100s of messages a day then getting pissed about how few replies I got. Haven't messed with a dating site in maybe 5 years.

I did give this some thought cause I want to get started too. So many of the women I flirt with in the real world I would most likely not message if all I saw of them was a face pic and some stupid profile on how they are "down to earth"

I guess I could message are you down to earth or into earthing ?? Just thought of that. And it sucks.

I like that. Like I said first post honesty works.

Maybe if I sign up for a site again I will say after moving to Florida I discovered I like going barefoot whenever possible or some variation of yours including I'm not interested in hanging out with a woman who is uptight about feet. In my own words.

I mean thats all thats needed, tell em you likebarefooting and more important avoid those uptight about feet. Period.

My tendency already is to make it longer. That would screw it up.

 

plus, i have to admit i like getting foot rubs too much. maybe i was spoiled in the past. but damn.
do you guys feet the same?

 

I think you should mention it but don’t over explain it, you might have to compromise a bit. Maybe just say you like barefoot hiking and if it’s brought up in messages you can go further. You could put a full body photo of you barefoot in a forest etc.
Thing is there’s plenty of women that like being barefoot at home but if you make a big deal of it they’ll think it’s weird and most would never consider going shopping with bare feet. There won’t be many wanting a barefoot boyfriend either but tree hugger types would surely be more open to it.

 

Very good points. I removed mention of shopping barefoot. Don't have to tell everything up front. If I started seeing someone, they would find out at some point and could decide then if its a dealbreaker or not. At least at that point I wouldn't be a complete stranger.

 

My first girlfreind when I came to Florida liked going barefoot and doing mutual footrubs. Its really not rubbing its a sensation session. I learned from getting them from her what felt good and what was lame totally improved my own technique. Its important especially making just footsie friends with the ladies to get them hooked on it.

But ya I feel the same, if a woman goes eww I dont like feet its a deal breaker.

 

Been here I think 13 years my second Florida girlfriend got self conscience I guess with me going into stores barefoot and said something once. Walgreens 4 blocks from the beach who cares.

First one too much of an age gap, the second she was just really selfish and it ended over that, nothing to do with barefooting.

 

I got many women into barefooting over the years, try it its fun lets see if you can keep up with me...

That parts easy but these dating sites, yuck I hate playing those.

 

I don't have many options besides online dating. I agree, it sucks but better than nothing.
Just got messaged by one gal who said she has started to go barefoot more for comfort.
And this was while I still had mention of shopping barefoot in my profile so I guess that didn't scare her off.
So we'll see. Maybe she'll be my first "footsie friend", lol.
My last GF hated going BF and would put slippers on as soon as she got out of bed.
And as I mentioned above, she was okay with me hiking BF, but hated when I went in stores.

 

Footsie friends are those just friends girls with the benefit they let you mess with their feet.

Anyway what are you going to do on a first date?

Also does the dating site have a keyword search, if so ever type in barefoot ?

 

I'd be lucky to find a girlfriend that will let me play with her feet, let alone just a platonic friend. Women must be more laid back in Florida.

Short hike on Saturday afternoon. I plan to do it barefoot if the ground isn't too hot.

I'm disappointed in the site. You can't search for anything or browse profiles. Only like or pass on the profiles presented. I didn't know that when I signed up.

 

They are more laid back here. Plus they are already barefoot in flip flops. I wouldn't even know where to begin the conversation, admitting I like girl feet and offering a foot rub to a woman wearing shoes and socks. Or If I would even want too. I like pretty feet not all feet maybe one in 4 women qualify.

That would be the ultimate awkward, can you take your shoes off so I can see if I like your feet or not ? Never ever happening.

I don't know what the world thinks of dudes who like girl feet but just like, faces, boobs and butts just like everyone else. I don't like ALL off them.

This goes back to the dating profile. Faces, boobs and butts all over those profiles but you can't see their feet. The right combination of face boobs and butt, body style I like will overcome average or below average in my liking of girl feet for sure.

Just seems like average looking with real pretty feet is a better bet and easier task. Like I said above the dating site trap only messaging the most attractive ones who get 50 messages a day and getting discouraged so few replies.

I have dated very attractive women in the past and its pain in the ass anyway other dudes always trying to flirt with your GF. Little older now figured out what I like.


This is the idea I had recently. Sign up for one of these sites and message women up north asking them would they consider moving to Florida. I could send out endless messages compared to just my local area.

I want long term anyway.

Something like "I hated the north east and moved to Florida and now I go barefoot all the time looking for someone to join me"

Of course now I am over thinking it. I will never know till I try.

 

All else being equal, I would much rather date an average or below average looking gal with cute feet vs a beauty with ugly dogs.
Just a personal preference. I haven't gone on a date in 11 years, so can't be too choosy at this point.
This Saturday will reset that clock at least

I would pick a dating site you like and buy a short membership.
All of these sites send fake "likes" to get you to pay up, so you might as well pay and see if you can get some real responses.

 

When I had a dating profile, I just mentioned that i dont wear shoes and left it at that. Most guys I met never read the profiles anyway.