Hi guys! I'm not a parent, but I have an issue with a friend who is that wants me to babysit. I hope you don't mind my posting in here. I didn't know where else the best place to post about this would be. This is kinda long so bear with me: First a little background about my friendship with this girl: We met in high school and have been friends for about 8 or 9 years now. She is very flaky and one of those people with really bad ... I don't know how to explain it. Bad attitude, treats people like crap, etc. Just all screwed up basically, but yet I remained her friend for this long. She's not very bright, and I've sort of "taken care of her" in some ways over the years. She was REALLY flaky in the beginning of our friendship, she would do all kinds of childish things like be my best friend one day and then my enemy the next without warning, spreading rumors about me and then my friend again the next when we were in high school. She is the type that if there is something crappy you can do to a friend, she's done it... all but steal my guy. I am not sure why I stayed friends with her. I shouldn't have. But after a couple of years I learned not to take her seriously and how to deal with her so that she doesn't hurt me or bug me. I just take her as it is... and it worked well enough that we are still friends to this day, although we would fluctuate in how much we kept in contact. Usually we were in contact a lot whenever she wanted something from me. When I got married, we became pretty distant, which didn't bother me a bit... until she became pregnant. Then all of a sudden she comes running to me and is my best friend again, and of course I let her do this because, well, she's my friend and I wanted to help. She found out she was pregnant AFTER the guy that got her pregnant dumped her. I decided to help her out as much as I could because now a child was going to be involved, and at the time I figured I better be involved in her life despite not wanting to for the sake of the child (she is pretty messed up, I was hoping to provide some normalcy for the kid.)... After she moved back in with her parents in my hometown, I went through the pregnancy with her and was there for the birth. I had agreed to baby sit if she paid me, but only if it was in the morning before my hubby got home from work, and not every day. But then after the baby was born she decided to stay home, ended up getting BACK together with the father (And this is the type of girl that has been "engaged" to 7 different men and slept around TONS, including at least 4 or 5 guys while pregnant!)... so as of right now she is back together with the father but he's living in texas and they only see each other on weekends, so he's still of no real help, except financially for her. She decided she needed some money after all, so she got a job working at a daycare for 3 hours a day 5 days a week, from 3 pm to 6 pm. Her sister ended up starting to babysit for her, but eventually they got into a fight as usual and she tried to get me to baby sit everyday for those 4 hours she would be gone or so.. I told her no because it's at an EXTREMELY inconvenient schedule for me. I have my own life, and I am not about to put a dent in it for someone that isn't even that good a friend to me. She even wants me to do it at HER house. I've done it twice for her in a pinch, but she kept asking and I kept saying no to doing it regularly. When I said I would do it while she was pregnant, that was under the condition that she would PAY me, that it would be at MY house so I could go on with my life, and that it would only be before noon, because I have to take care of hubby and everything else after that. And not every day. The way it's turned out, she wants me to do it during my prime part of the day where I get things done, and do things with hubby, the only time I really get with hubby too, with no pay, at HER house. So no, I am not going to do it. The problem is I have a hard time saying no because she always puts me through a guilt trip, and when she asked me to do it everyday the first time it took a lot to say no. This morning I get this email from her: Hey Bree,would u be able to watch the baby 2 times a week,on Tuesdays and weds.my dad will watch her mondays and my sister will watch her on Thursdays and Fridays.plz let me know by today.so i can let my boss know if i have to quit or not."even tho i cant afford to quit,cuz i cant find anyone to watch the baby,cuz ppl r idiots"cant help a person out.. As you can see, she pulled the "guilt trip" before I even said no this time. She takes advantage of people in a big way, and she's trying to do it to me again. I've not let her do it much the last few years cuz I learned my lesson. I'm not about to let her do it again, especially after that last email. To me, that seems rather rude. I guess what I want is your opinions, as parents and people experienced with this realm of life, if I am doing the wrong thing, or if I am on the right track here. I also need help with knowing what to say. I've decided that after she has tried to take advantage of me yet again, I am not going to babysit at ALL anymore, even if she met my previous requirements. Only in the direst of emergency circumstances. But the problem is I don't know how to say no, because if I say no in any form she will just be a bitch to me as usual. I feel bad for her situation, but she did bring it upon herself by being irresponsible and getting pregnant (unplanned) in the first place. I feel harsh, but she needs to learn to deal with the consequences, that other people have lives outside of her and that she is just going to have to deal with life being hard. That is what she gets for living the lifestyle that she did and still does. I've gotten her out of too many pinches and done way too much for her as it is. I know it seems bad to put a limit on friendship... but you can only let yourself be used so much before you have to put your foot down for your own good. I wanna be a good friend, but not at my personal detriment. I guess this whole post isn't JUST about the babysitting thing, but our friendship in general. But unfortunately I guess the friendship is peaking out on the babysitting issue, so I don't really know who else to ask about this. Right now I just want to get through saying no to her, I really won't mind if the friendship ends because of it.. I just hate it when people put me through guilt trips. I don't want to be the "bad guy". Opinions and advice would be very greatly appreciated.