Ashamed?

that's a pretty crazy story... but no offense, if you're going to post a post that long how 'bout checkin' your spelling and breaking out a couple of paragraphs?

 

This will not cure an alcholic child abuser, it isn't that easy.

DON'T wait until "next time." Call Child Protective Services NOW. This kid has NO ONE to protect him, obviously his mother doesn't care, and it makes no difference if this abusing SOB step dad owns the house, your freind's saftey is more important.

Call now. Your freind needs help.

 

So all you got out of that story was how fucked up his spelling and grammar was?? Wow..

I would do exactly what MaggieSugar is saying MP..tell someone. This really saddened me sweetheart. You can't beat yourself up for not doing anything to the man, I mean..I'm sure you were scared out of your mind. NOW is the time to do something, and it will make a world of difference for this boy. Nevermind the fact that the mom and son will have no place to go..ya make a way when you have to. I had to leave an abusive situation with nothing but my kids and the shirt on our backs..we made it just fine. I'm sorry you had to see such a horrid thing, and even sorrier that someone could treat another human being so badly. My heart goes out to him, and to you. Please be there for him, no matter what the circumstance..he needs somebody who cares. I am sure of it.

 

I'd like to add that most likely this mom will never do anything about it. If he's treating her son like that, no telling how bad he's treating her, and her self esteem I'm sure has been beaten down beyond belief. She's weak. If I saw someone do that to MY child, they best not go to sleep..that's all I'm sayin'. She obviously has a problem..no matter how much she was "consoling" her son. You have to call and tell the authorities babe. Of COURSE the school is going to suspend him for drugs. If they don't know what's going on, then they can't help him. He is lost right now, and something HAS to be done.

 

sugar, you are a BRAVE mama. Too many abused womyn just sit there and hope things will change on their own, or make excuses for not doing anything. I totally admire your strength and courage to do what you need to do to make your babies' lives safe.

 

Aww..thanks Maggie. *hugs* That's one thing I did gain out of that abusive situation..strength. Someone on the forums..can't remember who, had a quote I have always remembered. "A woman is like a teabag..you never know how strong she is until you put her in hot water". I love that. You HAVE to take a negative situation and make it into a positive....I saw no other choice. He took sooo so much from me, but man I sure gained a hell of a lot too.

 

Jared, seriously, call the cops.

Don't attack the father, he's probably well able to kick nine colors of crap out of ya, and that puts YOU in a legal bind, esp. when you go later to act as a witness when charges are laid.

Mom doesn't wanna rock the boat, it's safer to be in someone else's house with him paying the bills, she just smokes some dope or something to deal with the fact he's whaling on her kid. So her hand has to be forced.

Get CPS involved, get the kid out of there. Press charges. Unfortunately, you being zoned at the time means that any defence lawyer will have your testimony rendered irrelevant, but the damage will have been done in the sense that mom has to put up or shut up, the authorities KNOW what's going on with that guy. And if he spends a night or two in jail, with a jacket like that he might get attacked.

Dunno if BACA deals with kids that old or has a chapter in the area. Give this guy a call. These are guys who deal with child abuse and who aren't freakin saints and/or social workers either.

Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA)
BACA National PR
PO Box 850762
Yukon, OK 73085
E-mail: cavemanpr@cox.net
Website: http://www.bacausa.com/
Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA) exists with the intent to create a safer environment for abused children. BACA works in conjunction with local and state officials who are already in place to protect children by lending their physical and emotional support to them protect them from further abuse.

 

Heckers, I saw some woman closed fist knocking her kid around. I made a mental note of the licence plate.

I'd have given chase, but a sibling took the baby out of the carseat, and I didn't want to risk a chase.

 

See this is why in amsterdam alot of cafes alow pot but not alcohol.

Alcohol enrages alot of people and makes them act before they think.I've had situations myself where drunk adults tried beating me and my friends up and we didn't even know them nor do anything to get them going!

I can tell you for a fact when your drunk your more inclined to do things you'll later regret whether it's putting yourself in danger or other people.

The best thing you can do is be there for your friend to lend your support in his time of need.

 

BULLSHIT

the best thing you can do is get CPS involved and the guy in question in jail.

 

I have a goth friend named Kyle. But, unless your from Ohio, then I don't think you'd know him.

But yea, that's some shit. That's one reason I don't drink alcohol.

 

Call the cps on that jerk.Suppose the next time he seriously hurts your friend and puts him the hospital or worse kills him.Do your friend a favor and call the cps.

 

If it was me, and my friend didn't step in...

Well, they wouldn't be my friend anymore, put it that way.

 

It must be really tough to have seen something as screwy as that. To be fair, no matter what he's said to you about forgetting it, you need to tell someone who can do something. He might be mad at you to begin with, but he will thank you in the long run. There is no excuse for doing something like that to a fellow human being, especially not a minor who should technically be under your care.

I hope things work out for you

 

Ok I may have given some screwy advice.

Seriously though I don't know anything about these cps dudes or how long it will take them to get involved once there notified.

You could try it but if there anything like the childrens aid you can expect them to make matters worse not better.

The reason I say this is because with the ca they actually have a talk with the abused and the abuser then figure out what they will do about it after they look it over and by then it could be too late.

 

Find out how the system works and use it.

 

You can't blame yourself.. The guy was violently angry, and stepping in could have made the situation worse.. could have even made the guy beat his son worse, if he was being attacked himself. Don't beat yourself up over it.. doesn't make you a bad friend.

 

Call child services or the police, once the drugs are all gone.

And yes, schools, authority in general, aren't understanding about what goes on at home in the lives of the kids that they bust. When my parents are notified, it simply makes my life worse, without any exceptions.

 

Stepping in?

Dude, have you seen a pic of Jared?

That would have been suicidal. Please don't, Jared. It may seem like I hate you or wish you ill, but that isn't the case.

 

Thats not the point - you see a friend getting beat, you step in, no questions asked.