Are you happy?

I think a lot of people are ''unhappy'' because ''happy'' is portrayed to us in a distorted way, just like beauty.

If people are aiming to be permanently happy in a linear fashion, then damn right they are going to be unhappy, because being happy in that way is simply impossible IMO. It's not feasible. There will always be some challenges. Whether it is financial issues, health issues, loss of loved ones, hating our jobs, etc... Most of those things will get worse as we get older.

As cheesy as it sounds, I think happiness is in the moments. Life is bittersweet, but there's happiness scattered here and there and the happy people just know to leave the bad things out and enjoy the moments when they are there.

 

My life is not going in any direction and I'm quite happy not thinking about that.

 

When you are trapped in your situation, whatever that may be, it's very hard to be happy.

This is a famous old quote....







That I just made up.

 

i worry for the future (after i leave university) but i'm pretty happya t the moment, studying what i love etc.

 

But isnt that were the other famous old quote that you made up comes in

Grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, power to change the things I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference?

I mean, if you've got your basics covered, there's gotta be room to find some way to be happy no?

And I'm not saying I have it figured out myself, I'm just conversing here...

 

But not all the "basics" are covered...

 

I'm happy but it's very easy for me to be. I'm healthy physically and mentally. I have a good job and great family and friends.

 

I'm very happy right now...I've found love!

 

Yes, but until you get them covered you can't go to the next level and improve your happiness. It reminds me of the Maslow pyramid, showing the hierarchy of needs. According to this theory, certain lower needs require to be satisfied before higher needs can be addressed.



To answer the topic, I'm pretty happy with my lot in life. Some traumatizing and life-changing experiences forced me to focus on the essential, making me a lot more down-to-earth in the end. My happiness now lies on some simple but essential things: living in a beautiful and comfortable place located in a nice surrounding with all the services I need nearby, love from my man, friends and pets, working on my art, meditating, biking and gardening on a daily basis, good music, good food, good clothes, good weed and good times with the people I love. I have all that and some more, so I really can't complain.

 

First - Dang...it's been a long time since I saw the Maslow pyramid. It is really neat, a lot of words and almost meaningless in helping anyone to actually achieve any of that. :sunny:

Second - LOL - you have a hell of a lot more than "essentials" covered by that list of things you gave. Kudos to you...no doubt if I had just your top 3 "done and covered" you'd never ever hear anything from me but and :2thumbsup:.

 

LOL I agree on the Maslow pyramid, it isn't really a help tool!

And my list covers the essentials for MY happiness. I don't care if I don't have designer clothes, 52 inches TV, getaway vacations or sports cars, but eating crappy food and smoking schwag are a sad, sad thing.

 

I broke up with my ex a few weeks ago, and i can tell i'm feeling more "myself" and happier cause i've been enjoying music a lot more, when while i was with him music would feel blahhh.

 

Hell no would you be happy with no job

 

I definately do not need a job to be happy. Would I like a job, yes, it is handy in certain departments. Would I accept every job? No, most jobs that are available for me at the moment (not many) would make me unhappy.

 

if i had another source of money, hell yes.

 

of course i'm happy. misery is'nt necessary, it's only optional for those who choose it.

 

Yes, deliriously, and more so every day!!! :2thumbsup: