Are you Flirtacious ? Does it get you into trouble ?

I wasn't flirting with her. I didn't even like her or find her attractive in any way. Yuck.

 

yes i was kind of joking

 

Angel incarnate

 

If I was going to flirt with anybody, it would be you, pretty eyes.

"juicygurl" Eugh...blech.

 

I think I kind of flirt ? Or it could be just that I am easy to get along with ( have to think about that one ) but I have been accused of it !! Fucking Minefield come to think about it , If you want people to like you are you a flirt ?

 

i think there are two things, there are people who are friendly and nice and like making the people they're talking to feel good, like mel said, whether man woman or child. and if they get to know the people, it might occasionally be sexual or complimentary, to varying degrees of seriousness.

then there is flirting where people go out of their way to say something that they wouldn't say unless they were consciously thinking that they'd like to make the person want to have sex with them, the whole conversation is geared towards that aim.

which to me is always unattractive.

 

I agree that there can be different types of flirting but I think this also highlights a divide in the social norms of the genders, at least in America. It would be considered suspect behavior for men to act friendly and nice towards children in any way that could be misconstrued as flirting.

 

true. but i meant stuff that i wouldn't construe as flirting anyway. like laughing at someone's jokes.

 

Hmm. I don't think laughing at someone's jokes is flirting, necessarily. I'd consider if a guy compliments me, and then I blush...and he compliments me again, and so on. I consider flirting to be like the precursor to potentially asking someone out, or wanting to get to know someone. I had a client who used to flirt with me a lot...and I didn't know what to do because he was a client. Eventually, he started asking me to go to lunch...to ''discuss business.'' I told him no, that wouldn't be appropriate, and all of his flirtatiousness stopped. So, he had an end game in mind, I guess. To me anyway, flirting usually means a sign of interest. I guess there are people who flirt with everyone, but that might be friendliness. Chatting about life, joking around etc with someone other than your partner, isn't flirting, imo.

 

I always get into trouble.

 

i hate that this is a thing. i wonder how many women think i'm not interested because i wanted to stand in a comfortable position.

 

maybe it only feels comfortable to you because you have an unconscious defensiveness towards the world

 

I wouldn't worry too much about that. I have found that many ignored that stance either because they couldn't read the signal or they didn't want to read that signal .
I have found many guys can't read eye contact or body language anyway. I have had to resort to physically pushing one guy onto a girl in a club because he just couldn't read her eye contact and body language. I did check with him first though to make sure he liked the girl !

 

I agree with you 100% . People say that I am a natural flirt but I am not so sure I see it that way. Despite my shyness I have always found it more enjoyable speaking to a woman than a man. I think this is due to my old banking background whereby I had more female co workers who became good mates than male colleagues. I found that I could talk to these ladies about things like "baby blues" and got great advise from them. With guys you cant talk about things like bringing children up as they quickly want to change the subject to football ( which I also have a passion for) but I don't want to talk about football all of the time.

So I think this thing about me being a natural flirt stems from that .

 

I think your spot on there. Most times I "flirt" I don't realise I am doing it because I am behaving no differently than I normally would. The only difference with me flirting starts with the body language thing and some women because I have those go to bed eyes coupled with good looks. So just perhaps they are looking at something that isn't actually there but want it to be there so to speak .A good example of this is if a fireman walks into a building occupied with women . Not all, but many women will automatically stop want they are doing to have a look. Some will subconsciously give off inviting or receptive body language signals even though the fireman hasn't done anything out of the ordinary .

 

Mysteron, just curious, have you ever cheated on your wife?

 

Yeah but the fireman is holding an axe, covered in black, rough looking warrior in a big ass yellow jacket wider than the widest girl in the office... I mean of course you're going to look.

 

Never and never been tempted. I can't over emphasise that either. I have had plenty of offers . My wife is everything I want .

She accepts I have very good looks and the attraction of other women comes with the territory . I do know what it is like as I have dated a minor celebrity model in my past but you just learn to cope and accept it. My wife as adapted very well and that why she doesn't get jealous as she knows I am committed to her . Just to add it was her that chased me as I don't chase women as I have never had the need to. I appreciate its difficult sometimes to put something in words on a forum but if you were conversing with me face to face you would probably appreciate how I feel about my OH.

Without going off topic there are 3 elements of love

1) Friendship
2) Commitment
3) Intimacy

We have all those .

 

So do we and we ain't like y'all lol.

 

: )
I can tell how you feel about her even over the internet.
Happy for what you guys have.