Are you Conveniently Bi?

Your older and your wife is done with sex for herself. You have never had any desires towards guys, but a good blowjob sounds good.Even returning the favor and sucking cock sounds Interesting, to say the least. My wife had always encouraged trying bi, with a very close old friend, which I did. For a couple of years I shared good times with him, then later, my old best friend who was in the same situation. We haven't done anything in a long time and it may never happen again.(stroke).. They we enjoyable sharing experiences, but I have no desires to go searching out other guys. My experiences happened because they both basicly fell into my lap. It was better than just getting fucked with my wifes old toys. I would probably do it again, if the situation clicked. but I still dont have any desires for guys. I feel like Im just an old fart who wants to get his rocks off while Im alive.
Anyone else in a similar situation?

 

In my mid 30s I went through that with my wife. At the time I had not ever even thought about sex with a guy. Started going to adult arcades to watch straight porn, but guys kept knocking on the door. Took awhile but finally let a guy in and he gave me head. I ran for my life after and thought WTF! Well curiosity got me and I would go back to the arcades and started watching gay porn and let more guys give me head.
Well I wanted more but not in a Arcade and then found CL. This is how I fully explored with men. 15 years later I now question my sexuality. So before I thought I was conveniently bi and just getting my rocks off and my ego fed as men seemed to really worship my body compared to how any woman ever did. But now I’ve learned and excepted how good the sex has been with men and really wonder if I’m gay.

 

Haven't crossed the line but conveniently Bi sounds good.

If a guy wants to blow me that's convenient. If I try But sex it will be out of curiosity or just to try so if a random opportunity came up to have sex then yeah call it conveniently Bi and give it a go.

 

I think most of us have found ourselves in this situation. Blowjobs are a quick and convenient way to be satisfied. After being provided several from guys it wasn't long before I found myself wanting to be on the giving side of that convenience.

 

For a long long time before I caved into the desires I had I wanted to suck a guy. I’m a masculine man, not feminine at all. But for some reason I wanted cock. For years, even decades I suppressed the urge until I wasn't getting sex at home anymore. Still it took a long time to come to grips with what I wanted. Once I caved into it it has more and more become a natural part of me.

 

You and me both. I've had a regular guy for 13 years now. Over that period of time we;ve sucked each other off an average of 10 times a month. Yep, sucking cock is natural for the two of us.

 

Yes it would be more convenient and easier to handle than having another woman on the side. Trouble is, I'm not attracted to men, certainly not romantically. Just playful friendly cock play. Such an overwhelming percentage of bi's want a lot more than that.

 

The reason I've known for a long time that I'm not "conveniently bi" is that my most memorable sexual relationships have been with men and women who did not want to immediately run off after they orgasmed. And I did not want them to run off, either.

 

Not quite understanding your meaning, but for me, I found in a safe non-threatening environment, (slow and friendly, no pressure, no anal) I liked cock sucking but I didn't want to go deeper into it. It was a convenient release, beginning out of desperation, being happily sucked off again and again. A long-standing liking for cocks saw me do some sucking and pulling too and I really enjoyed it. It was a frustration safety valve.

 

WE all see things differently. I do like it non rushed and I wish it were that way for me with women. Females mostly stop when I come, but bi play mates are just getting started and want more. Still I consider myself hetro but unsatisfied. Only one woman couldn't get enough with me. We were 20. I should have married her.

 

That actually sounds muh like my scenario, except I was more enthusiastic in sucking one myself in that situation and I didn't need porn. The lust of the two or three of us happily getting off had its own momentum. For me, I avoid categories...There are too many variables.

 

I did find friendship with the old guy who sucked me off and taught me to suck cocks. Friendship was key or I probably wouldn't have 'stuck it out'. I liked his company so I just let him enjoy me as much s he wanted. He died 12 years ago or I'd still see him regularly. I've known some who wanted it but just came across as use and abuse or push their own desires. The first I ever interacted with a long time ago, became that way so I avoid that.

 

What you're describing here is the best situation for a true bisexual who loves interesting people and wants to be around them before and after sex. I met one guy who was very eros and affectionate, but masculine at the same time. He was a very low-keyed and soft-spoken construction worker in the mountains of Colorado, He spoke as much with his body as he did with his spoken words. He was a joy to embrace and be around. Bi guys like that are rare, because our culture is so homophobic. I lost touch with him but always remember when I got to spend several days with him at Valley View Hot Springs.

My longest relationship with another male is with a guy I've known since grade school. He is less eros and affectionate but is an intellectual powerhouse. He is so well read, funny, and interesting to talk with. A great listener, also, And, I think as he's getting older, he's much more open to the idea of being physically affectionate with men and women. Lately I can even tell him that I love him without causing a fuss. I know he loves me, even though he's still a bit skiddish about being physically affectionate.

You know how a lot of people come from families that are not affectionate for one reason or another? I used to be that way until a therapist taught me that it was a suppressed need that I was trying to fill with casual sex. Once I learned that, a whole new world opened up for me. I am less driven to have casual sex and much more interested in long term loving relationships. If you and your closest friends don't equate love with "possession", you can have a lot of deep friendships.

 

You just described why being "conveniently bi" can eventually lead to thinking about the difference between a consumer and whole person.

Consumers are always looking for the next purchase, or the next titillation, or the next hit of a drug, or the next session of over-eating, or the next power conquest.

Whole people slow down and appreciate each moment with another whole person, until it leads to a long-term bond and a sense of belonging.

 

That's nice, but who has time for that?