Are you comfortable talking about your other lovers with your bf or gf?

Just wondering, are you comfortable talking about your other lovers with your bf or gf? is it awkward? I am bi. I have found it easier to talk about my other lovers and how they were sexually to my gf, guys, not so much. Guys like to think they are the center of the universe. I'm open about my love of sex, I don't care.
Are you open or is it hard to share.

 

why would I need to talk about other lovers?, seems kinda moot. I know they fucked other people in the past, what matters is: they only have sex with me now..

 

Obviously you are one of the people who take offense to talking about such things. That's ok. I like being open and talking and sharing. This isn't rubbing in someone's face.

 

we've talked about some in the last 25 years. Living in a small town we run into her exhubby a lot and a few other ex BF. Sometimes I wish she didn't let it slip about some of the things about them LoL

 

I think it depends on the relationship. What do you mean really? What level of detail are we talking about? In a pretty long-term relationship, after like 3-4 years I think some talk happened, some detailed information was shared...but really I don't see the point.

The problem with me is if you get me going I don't know how to stop talking...I don't have much of a TMI filter, but I'd have to be interested in the topic and I'm guessing and hoping in a relationship I probably wouldn't be very interested in old sex stories with other people.

 

well, i don't have a significant other. but if i did, and i was cheating on her, i suppose it would be pretty awkward to talk about it with her.

 

That's a whole other topic. Should you or shouldn't you tell your SO what happened if you cheated? Some people want to know, others don't. Some want to know while the partner doesn't want to talk about it../endhijack

 

my boyfriend doesn't like to hear much about my past relationships so I don't talk about them much. I wouldn't mind sharing information if he was interested but he's not.

I'm the opposite. I like to know about a person's past because i think you truly know someone when you know where they came from.

 

My husband knows pretty much everything. Not that there was a lot to tell. In the past week I shared something with him that he didn't know about me from my past. i wasn't trying to keep it a secret. I guess I thought he knew but he didn't. He doesnt care what happened in the past. In his words "I dont care what you did with who. I won" I guess that is a good way of looking at it. My dad is "married" to my ex boyfriends mom so now my ex is my step brother. My husband knows we dated. He doesn't care. He even knows details about certain things that we did. The 2 of them get along very well. They like opposing football teams so for holidays they wear their own team colors on purpose to give the other one a hard time. I figure that was 19 years ago. Any feelings I had for him are long gone. Actually on thanksgiving we had our picture taken together with our arms around each other. I dont know many exes that do that on holidays.

 

me offended,, youre funny dude..

 

No. My sexual past is my past

 

At one time my then g.f. asked about a couple of my former g.f. I knew it was a jealous issue, so refused to comment. Because they were part of our circle of friends, and she didn't like seeing me talk to them.

Later when we had an open relationship, that was part of the agreement, that we told each other everything.

 

My GF and I frequently talk about ex's. It's our version of the kardashians and we get our fill of talk about others that way. For instance, when i was opening a cd (yeah, i bought an ACTUAL CD) she commented on how her ex had this really weird OCD way of opening a cd so the tape all came off evenly, etc. This extended to the bedroom. When appropriate, she and I trade comments about ex's and how they were in that realm, also.

I'm a pretty confident guy so I think it's entertaining. She's dated a guy with "like a 10 inch dong" so she says, among other things. Pretty funny. (the way she explains it, of course, is fun because it did hurt her mostly). She asks about how varying girls feel to me, etc. blah blah blah. In a nutshell, for us nothing is off limits and it's fun. That's all.

 

I like that. I don't care if a lover talks about another. It gives me insight into them and what they like and dislike. Things often come out when we watch porn. I can say "oh, I loved doing that" and they respond. BTW, watching porn together is a great way to break the ice on what we like.

 

If, by "other lovers", exes also counted(just because I'm monogamous type guy), then I'm comfortable talking about them with my current girlfriend. For instance, my last ex and I are still friends, so sometimes my current girl and I might talk about my ex in terms of what what kind of conversations I had with her provided I had the freedom to disclose such information. I do, however, try to control how much information I share with my partner when it comes to the information about my past relationships, just so I don't come off like I'm doing too much comparing and not enough appreciating her simply for the person she is.

But my girlfriend knows I'm not the type to flat out disregard what was special and beautiful about each of my past relationships, anyway. Through heart-to-heart communication, she has been able to learn what kind of person I am: that I'm thankful toward my exes in one way or another, and that I'm still honoured that I was once their romantic partner. It's just that I'm no longer interested in them romantically speaking, which she also understands of course.

 

It doesn't bother me or her. We're both pretty strong people and we have great discussions.

 

It is what it is. Every experience shapes who you are, and sexual experiences are no different. My current boy and I share stories all the time. And thats that.

 

That sounds like an amazing relationship that is extremely secure and healthy.


My answer here is that I share whatever my partner is willing to accept without freaking out on me.

And obviously I am not going to go describe in detail specific traumatic information my ex's might have disclosed to me in confidence when we were together....in that case I might speak using pronouns without specific identifiers but enough to carry a deep conversation should it be applicable.

 

There's an old saying - Less history, more mystery.

 

Not a problem. Hearing about my wife's past and current sex partners is a turn on. We also live in a very small town and over the years there have been a ton of guys between her legs, both married and single. I love hearing all the juicy details of....

How a senior popped her cherry on her first date when she was a freshman.

How a couple weeks later she got fucked in a backseat while another guy drove and then they switched.

How, at 20, she got pregnant and didn't know who the father was.

How she spread her legs for her boyfriends father the whole time the boyfriend was in jail.

I love all her stories.