Are some women just shy in bed?

My wife never lets me cum near her. \

 

With this post, thanks.

 

You gonna' keep trying to put a square peg in a round hole? Or Move on?

 

Well now you edited it and my joke isn't funny anymore.

 

Yes, some are possibly shy - mine wont normally touch my penis during foreplay unless I place her hand on it & sometimes she doesn't want to at all. Is that too much to ask of her to do or is she just wanting me to seduce her ? Some woman possibly are very shy of letting a boyfriend see them nude for the 1st time or partly in case the guy may dislike her body & decides he doesn't like her sexually ?

 

I'm just wondering how you didn't know what she was like sexually BEFORE marriage?!?
Because now you are stuck with what you have and you aren't happy.

If you don't like what's going on, you should have a talk with her or you'll be driven to have an affair or divorce.

 

Up to you to bring out the inner freak

 

He might have known in the beginning and thought with time she'd adjust...
Having said that many are shy to touch it at first. Time should change that and getting to know him more and becoming more comfortable with it. I was shy with my first in the beginning. Some men are shy with the V in the beginning too.

 

She wanted to wait till our wedding night to loose her virginity. She was bought up in a religious family & that's one rule she made when we first started dating. She did allow me to touch her breasts, vagina but not to see them - just to feel them.

 

See that's inconsistent with the Christian faith, and is part of the reason when it comes to the faith regarding sexual things it's an all or nothing approach to it. If you allow feel-ups, you might as well go all the way because you already violated the principles of the faith on that matter, BUT if it's earthly consequences (STD/STI, pregnancy) then those are still valid reasons.

 

Nah, even if she wanted to 'wait' - he would get a feel of her sexual compatibility just by talking with her about sex. Sexual chemistry starts with the mind, anyhow.

And then the other point SallySmart mentioned, if he 'thought' she'd warm up to him at a later point -- I can see a possibility in that, but still a mistake -- that's like us women getting a man and thinking he will 'change' for us down the line - a person is who a person is. Just like his current wife, she is what she is in bed.

 

Did you really mean "cum"? If that's the problem, it could be she just dislikes sperm. There are plenty you can do. Just don't cum where she can see it. You could always ejaculate in her vagina.

Ask her if the problem is sperm.

 

Yes women are shy in bed. Women are still perceived as virgins or whores. Us "good" girls sometimes want to be more bold but are afraid we will be seen as "whores." I dated only my husband, married him (only had sex with him), then had a child with him and my family STILL called me a "slut." Needless to say, I cut those people out of my life. (Hubby heard about it and he went over to "defend" my honor. My respect for him soared.)

You need to talk to her and help her overcome her shyness. Perhaps spend more time on the romance and ensures she has pleasure. (Some women are offended by porn. I watched it once with hubby when we were dating and couldn't stop laughing. The second time was after we were married and it was "classic" 70s porn and the music was a riot!)

I wanted to enjoy sex with my husband but didn't until we worked on it together. We are happily married at 8+ years and enjoy an active sex life when we can ditch the kids
She also needs to know how to pleasure herself. She probably won't want to do this in front of you. But she needs to know how to please herself so that she can show you where to touch her. Perhaps you trade off- you massage a certain part while she massages your part.

You could get her in the mood with a romantic atmosphere or encourage her to read romance/erotica. There are a TON of freebies out there, so you don't have to spend any money on it, and she doesn't have to worry anyone will know. Literotica.com is a good website that has all kinds of sex stories. Some are poorly edited, but the goal is to get in the mood, so it's easy to overlook those errors, especially since it's FREE.

 

This last post was one of the more intelligent I've seen on getting people to enjoy sex. I'd just like to add, have her (or you both together), read the posts on this site, google information about sex, positions, sex toys and erotica, and even write your own. The more she reads, the more comfortable she will become. I was much like her, only the missionary position, no oral sex, self image problems about my body. Now I'm just the opposite and a lot of that came from reading and learning and re-thinking my feelings about sex.