Are married men specifically seeking a “bromance” with other married men? (in Los Angeles):

This thread post will be a place specifically for married men (in Los Angeles) to gather to discuss the desire to have a bromance type friendship with “another married man” who is somewhat similar to themselves.

Are you overall a “happily married man” who walks around with an almost constant “sexual buzz”?

I “don’t” mean the kind of sexual buzz where you desire to put on leather, whips and chains, but rather a more mild sexual buzz to which you simply enjoy sharing and experiencing “sexual vibrations” with other people... (where of course as married man, this type of behavior is not often allowed).

Lets face it... common men are inherently “sexually charged” beings which usually makes it very difficult to navigate sexual situations as a married man who’s wife does not have the same constant “sexual buzz”.

What can often happen is that although married men “truly enjoy women sexually”... after marriage, sexual interaction with other “women have now become off limits” permanently.

Over a period of time, the frustration of the “women are now off limits” rule eventually builds up and and begins to set in as truth (psychologically) and married men will tend to begin to explore “other ways” of satisfying that always present “sexual buzz”.

It typically begins with the discovery of areas like “shemale” porn videos and “male masturbation” porn videos which can become a strongly sexual stimulating “alternative” to the married man’s (women are now off limits) rule.

The eventual interest in the “shemale” and “male masturbating” attraction is likely due to the fact of married men now being able to “highly relate” to the sexual frustration of other “sexually charged” men (along with their relationship of masturbating their own penis themselves) which grows a relationship with “penis” and keeping it satisfied.

Could it then become a possible ideal situation for a married man in this position to have a life long “bromance” type friendship with another married man who’s in a very similar situation? Where two male friends could share (as life long buddy’s) all of their similar outlooks and opinions (sexual and non-sexual). Or who could even possibly go above and beyond to help each other out “physically” to relieve some of those constant sexual tensions that are building up over the years (for example as jerk-off buddies).

Although married men who continue to be “highly sexually attracted to women”, they do NOT feel (gay/homosexual) emotionally. They are NOT attracted to other men in general. The position would just serve as a “sexual release” shared between two “sexually charged” men that unfortunately cannot always be sexually fulfilled by women who do not desire the same amount of sexual attention.

“Only you know” how you happened upon the topic of this thread post... but none the less, please share (your age) and your thoughts on this particular subject.

[IMPORTANT]: It’s very likely that the first people to reply to this subject will be the very opinionated “Gay Bashing Trolls”... but simply “DO NOT” fuel their “highly opinionated” comments about who they “think” you are (or what they believe the rules are).

Simply and politely post and share your “truths about yourself”.

 

That describes me fairly well. I’m a 60 yo married guy that need more sexual attention than my wife is willing to give. Friends exchanging blow jobs is the progression that is taking place for me but even that has been uncommon. It’s something that works for both of us. Ironic as it is I will be meeting a friend tomorrow. It’s been a long time for me and the potential for a bro job has me eagerly anticipating a hike in the morning.

 

I guess that’s what I have Papa. A closed loop, at least that’s what I’m counting on. It takes a while to come to grips with but I think ours is best described as a friends with bennies kind of thing.

 

Hey Hollywood life, you’ve described me and my desire to perfection. I love my wife but also find guys attractive. On the occasional time I’ve been with a guy sexually I find it’s one way, I want him to worship and satisfy me but when it actually comes to the reverse I just don’t feel it generally or if I do the guilt is overwhelming. So to summarise a cool, successful, attractive guy....like me (and modest haha) who is married and wants to be a unique fwb is my goal. Interestingly gay guys seem to get this but more difficult to ‘take one home’ and introduce to your wife? I’m South UK based btw.

 

Yes Papa, that would surely be a difficult situation... BUT... if you knew someone who was also married and “straight” (who was in a very similar situation as yourself), and everyone got to know each other well, it would appear to the wives that you two guys are just good friends who have a normal “straight” relationship (which would basically be true, up to a certain point).

The relationship will “not” work if the two guys have an “emotional relationship”, because it will become immediately obvious to the wives.

It would be much easier to pull off (no pun intended LOL) if the relationship between the two guys was only “physical” and “somewhat occasional” (but of course “not” in front of the wives). Genuinely treating the friendship as being good “straight” friends rather than sneaky “f*** buddies”.

As PerfectPex mentioned in his post (“fwb” - friends with benefits).

 

That’s true.
Straight friends with the benefit of the mutual desire for sex.
Emotional attachment is where it would go wrong.
Maybe ‘take home’ wasn’t a suitable expression but a friend of yours she’s aware of with mutual interests like cycling or gym.

 

Logically, it is absolutely “not” a good idea to introduce your wife to the “guy” friend that you’re also fucking.

It would be very similar to her introducing you the “guy” friend that she’s fucking.

A married guy fucking another guy doesn’t eliminate the fact that he’s married and fucking someone else. In fact, it’s twice as bad. That’s a double whammie slap in the wife’s face.

If a married man has an “emotional“ relationship (or connection) sexually with another man, the chances of the marriage quickly falling apart are very high. Even if he kept the “male” relationship a secret, she would quickly sense the marriage disconnect and would suspect that something is very wrong.

 

In my personal opinion (and my experience) Papa, women do “not” often think and feel the same way that men do.

Women usually have “most” of the sexual power over men which is what makes it such an “unfair playing field” for straight men.

Taking that sexual power away from a wife by having sex with “other people” makes them feel absolutely worthless (or no longer desired)... especially if she’s not very sexual.

As for “her being with another woman is ok with you”... it’s “not” the same rule for women. I can promise you that wives do “not” sit around imagining that their husband fucking other men is super hot and sexy to them... (“unless” she happens to be into some kinky shit).

(But, when a wife is “not” into kinky sexual shit), trust me when I say that a wife seeing the husband with another “woman” is very bad... but her seeing the husband with another “man” would be extremely worse.

That’s why I said “it would be like the wife introducing the husband to the (guy) friend that she’s fucking”. That’s how the wife would surely feel in both situations (with the “other man” situation being worse).

Unfortunately, the way us men think and feel often does not line up with actually reality... which is likely why we secretly turn to forums such as this.

Although Papa, there are surely a few lucky husbands somewhere out there who are extremely blessed with having kinky wives.

 

As you know Papa. Been there done that. I catch hell just mentioning his name around her.

 

I was hoping more guys would answer up on this subject.