Are desires selfish? Where is the line drawn in a relationship on hall passes?

My wife did not ask for or even hint that she wanted a hall pass. She had several sex partners in college, and after marriage, she was being hit on a lot at work. I asked her if she missed the variety, and she said she wasn't sure. So I gave her permission to have sex with others with certain conditions: condoms required, no friends, one "date" per partner, and complete honesty with me about what she was doing. She had a few sex dates in her 30's, mostly with younger men, and then decided that was all she needed. I don't recommend it for other couples, but it worked for us.

 

It worked lots of couples, just have to know difference between love and sex . Easy for men some women have a problem with that.

 

Whenever my fwb has fucked someone I have either been in the room or the house or nearby. With my fb she has had both women and men. I posted recently but that guy never panned out. Last night she went out with an old friend and I am waiting to hear from her if anything happened. Hard now thinking about it.

 

Draw the line, and they will cross it.

 

Hall passes involve the emotions between both people in a relationship. It’s totally separate from individual desires. Hall passes are a open agreement. Do not confuse the two.

 

My fb and I have an agreement because she knows I am married and have an fwb. She is bi and if she has an encounter with a female it is a major turn on for me. As for me she has two fb who she tells me about but they don’t see her often. One is an old friend who has a coke bottle cock who actually pains her. He will insert for an inch but cums quickly so she does it for him and then maybe he will finger her. The other guy is extremely tiny so she will do it just to get fucked for a bit. Generally if she has relations it will be with a female. She sucks cock in a major way and we have been friends for about twenty years so it works out well but I am able to make her cum orally and vaginally and we love each other’s company.

 

I have compersion but my partner does not. She and I adopted ground rules that have worked for us since 1985, that is she never wants to know who, what, when or where. There are three special friends I see that have also become friends of Jill. Most of the time they visit us Jill will leave to run errands for a couple of hours. Jill on the other hand has nearly all of her hook ups are while attending medical conferences out of state we are now 70 and not as active as we once were

 

Emotions can become problematic. My wife fell in love with a man she saw one a year at a conference. There were a lot of tears in both our parts and we became Polyamorous. They saw each other annually for nearly 30 years.

 

My wife never fell in love with the man, but loved the sex with him. For one thing he was not a one woman man. He always had live in girlfriends, but not for any length of time. She told me sex with him was great, at first I might have felt a bit inferior , I never felt I was the worlds greatest lover. And if she could reach new sexual heights, then I was happy for her. As she didn't mind me experiencing, my own sexual quests.
Sounds like you worked things out, and had fun in the process.