Appoaching somebody (merged with) Lonely boy. Need new knight in shining armour.

I understand where you are coming from, it's as if a great barrier stands between myself and the guys I want to be with. I find it's easier to become friends with them first, and then weigh out my next move from there.

Adib

 

I wouldn't call myself much of an authority on this subject, given that I'm a rather quiet, shy guy, but here's how I usually do it.

First, I make small talk. The best way to do this is to find a subject that I can relate to with him to. So, for example, if I'm in a class, I'll make a comment about the teacher or the homework/tests/etc. If I was at a friend's party and I met someone I liked, I'd, of course, first tell him my name and which friend of his I was acquainted with (so that we have some common grounds), then I'd ask him his name. Then I'd ask him if he planned to do anything exciting in the future. Perhaps an upcoming party, or some other fun event. Then, I'd act interested in the event and ask if perhaps he could tell me more about it. And voila. Conversation started, and there's a possibility I may get to go to this event with him.

Of course, there will be times when guys might not be so approachable. That's fine, give them their space and respect them -- if they're not interested in you after you're the one who comes trying to make friends with them, they probably won't be interested in creating a deeper relationship with you.

And for the record, every guy I've ever liked except one has been straight. Including one that I know that I will love for my entire life, even if I do get together with someone else. So I think I can kind of understand where you're coming from.

 

It's a tricky situation. Hitting on straight girls makes me feel like some sort of sketchy old man, but I just never know how to be like, "So, I like boobs. How bout you?"