Any Other Bisexual Guys Actually Prefer Intimacy With Another Man, Not Just The Sex ?

Discussion in 'Bisexual' started by DaveTheBiGuy, Jul 28, 2019.

  1. DaveTheBiGuy

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    Just wondering if any other bisexual guys here feel the same way that I do.
    Although I'm married to my wife I love her very much, and we have a pretty adventurous and quite active sex life, that DOESN'T change the fact that I can honestly say that I totally enjoy sex AND intimacy with another man just as much as I do with a woman (this includes my wife). I'd say my sexual attraction to men and women is about as close to 50/50 as it gets.
    I've heard and read that a lot of "bisexual" guys state that they're only interested in the sex with another man... And even claim to be "straight". I personally don't understand how a guy can admit to enjoying sex with other guys and still insist he's straight, regardless of his relationship status.
    What's even more mind boggling to me is how any guy can readily admit to liking cock in either his mouth or ass, or enjoy receiving blowjobs or topping other men... Yet find the idea of showing intimacy (kissing, making out, cuddling, holding hands, showering etc.) towards another guy to be "too gay", or even repulsive. Like yeah you're engaging in homosexual activities, so IMO, you might as well enjoy it to the fullest... It's NOT gonna make them any more bisexual or gay than they were before. Any man that enjoys sex with another man has homosexual tendencies, even if it happened to be in a MMF bisexual 3some situations, or one on one gay sex... So yeah, neither guy is technically "straight", no matter how they try to spin their logic.

    As a proud bisexual man, I can truthfully admit that I'd never take the cock of another man in my mouth or ass that I wouldn't be willing to be intimate with, and in fact if the other guy wasn't into the idea of at least kissing and making out, then I probably wouldn't want his cock in me anyways. I love making eye contact with my sexual partners as well, wether it's a man or a woman.
    One of the most erotic and romantic things I've ever done is showering with another guy. Being soaped up and having that other guy slide his cock up and down my ass crack while nibbling on my ear, kissing my neck while also stroking my cock was pure bliss, and nothing I've done since then has even been as comparable to that experience. It also led to maybe the best sex I've ever had... With a man, or a woman.
    So I'm wondering guys... Are there any other bisexual men out there that enjoy/crave the intimacy (NOT just the sex) with another man as much as I do ?? Come on men... Tell me I'm not the only one who wants the FULL gay experience when I'm with a man.
     
  2. bigredinmass

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    I find kissing to be an important part of the sex act. It's not always out love and affection and more of lust with two tongues wrestling in each other's mouth in the heat of passion.
    I've met certain guys into getting fucked by me good but won't kiss at all.
    I did get this one guy I was fucking, who had a girlfriend, to kiss. At first he wouldn't and I said c'mon man I got my dick deep in your ass and you won't kiss? So he did and it added to the lust.
    Guys who won't puts a barrier of the sex heat and it's a bummer.
    I am ok if there is no kissing if I'm just orally servicing their cock, but still would prefer it.
     
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  3. LowHangers

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    I will say that in my early days the thought of kissing another man was repulsive to me. I could/would eagerly suck their cocks and swallow their cum but would never kiss them. I guess because all the guys I'd been with were married to women and we both just wanted to suck cock the subject never crossed our minds. Then one evening I hooked up with a gay man (Craigslist) who enjoyed getting head from married men. His preview picture of his cock had me answering his ad...he looked to be 10" and I'd never experienced a cock that big and so wanted to do so. I arrived at his apartment and he was very handsome and sexy. We immediately go to his bedroom and strip naked. He sits on the bed with his back resting on the headboard as I crawl between his legs and begin sucking his big, sexy cock. I was sucking his cock for almost an hour when he asked me to kiss him and for some reason I just made my way up to him and passionately began kissing him and I was totally aroused as our tongues were swirling around one another. We made out kissing for about 20 minutes before I returned to sucking that big cock again. He was the only man I ever kissed until recently I found myself doing so with our lover Tom. You are correct that it intensifies the sexual experience. I guess for me it just had to be the right man. For decades I founds cocks to be sexy, not the man it's hanging from. Today I feel differently and want the full experience of love making...My wife and I have a couple (m/f) we share our bed with and we're all quite passionate with each other as we've evolved into a relationship like we're all married to each other. Total trust, high passion, total submission...
     
  4. Si69

    Si69 Senior Member Lifetime Supporter

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    sure .. it's part of sex isn't it?

    simon :)
     
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  5. lion1978

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    Hell yeah
     
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  6. i completely agree w/all you said.
     
  7. Shopfloor1

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    Depends what you are looking for. Some are looking for relationships and some are looking for pure sex.
     
  8. soulpoker

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    I tend to think like you do. I have the fantasies where the man is dominant over me. But when I picture having sex with a man, I want us to be kissing, a lot! I do picture the act of kissing intensifying the sexual experience. I think it would bring the experience to a deeper level, make it more personal, bring him and me closer together emotionally. I can't imagine much of a happy sexual experience without it. I would even like my lover to be kissing me as he would be penetrating me. Even if I were ever fortunate enough to get gangbanged, I would want there to be lots of kissing among everyone, bonding all of us together.
     
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  9. Sachs68

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    Ok. I’ll fess up. The thought of kissing another dude does absolutely nothing for me. That’s not to say my outlook won’t evolve but as of now, I have no interest whatsoever in kissing.
     
  10. lookingtotry

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    I would say if the person checked ALL my boxes but as a weird brained bisexual a lot of boxes and attracted to cock first i think it be hard for me. I will never say never and I do find myself wanting to explore some new things with a males body ...
     
  11. soulpoker

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    Sounds like just about the best time two people can have!
     
  12. Perfectpex

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    Yes kiss, definitely, but I have to be attracted to a guy. I’m not interested in just sex. He has to be my type physically (not one type but various with common denominators) and there has to be a connection. I always think the ability to string a full sentence together is a good starting point?
     
  13. soulpoker

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    Same for me. I have to be honest and admit physical attraction is important. But as I get to know the person it becomes less important and the connection more.
    And yes, it helps to be able to say more than "what's up?" Brains are important with me, especially with someone like me who could use all he could get lol!
     
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  14. Perfectpex

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    That’s so shallow.
    Love it lol
     
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  15. LuvCubs

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    I long for the intimacy from a man more than a woman these days. I've been the masculine part of a relationship my entire adult life, it's time for me to be soft and sensual with a man. I want to be able to hangout, watch some sports and drink cold ones with a guy but also completely give in to our desires in the bedroom (or anywhere else). I want to feel the touch from a man, I want our hot bodies together, kissing, embracing, doing whatever drives us. Afterwards I want to hold and be held... so yes, I think I will prefer the intimacy with the right guy over women.
     
  16. Perfectpex

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    Have to agree 100/100 with all that. Cuddle me!
     
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  17. Lovnflman

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    Amen brother!
     
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