Anus or Vagina?

haha im just skilled.

 

I hate anal sex. It hurts so bad. The first time i tried it was this saturday and i made my boyfriend quit because it hurt so bad. I promised him we can try it again oneday but only when im ready. I dont see why guys think girls like anal so much because from what ive heard alot of us dont like it at all.

 

There is a lot of girls that actually prefer anal sex rather than vaginal sex. I am really sry to hear that ur first anal sex experience was a bad one but I think it has to do with the technique u guys used.

If you look around in the forum, there are a lot of posts that tell you the proper way to have anal sex. First of all u gotta use lots of lubricant & u gotta start slow... If you're like most girls ur anus is not stretchy enough to have an average size penis go through it without hurting so u gotta use small toys or fingers.

Am not sure but it sounds like u guys went all da way right away, that's probably why it hurted so much. Look around the forum 2 get more tips/opinions on anal sex. It shouldn't be painful @ all... I hope ur next experience is a lot more pleasurable

 

Well I bet am more skilled than u!
What chu say about that huh?
lol

 

Cudos to Mr Berguh, for he is exactly right. How many posts must one read before they understand that anal sex never ever, and should never, begin with anal intercourse. There are gobs of info on this site, and the web, about how to do it right! Girls that hate it usually are the ones who go ahead and let their dumbass boyfriends try to stick their dicks up their girl's asses, because they want to do it. Why don't you tell him to bend the hell over and let you shove a cucumber up his ass, cause you want to....I mean ,you know what you're doing...right?
Then you tell your girlfriends how much it hurt and how you hated it. Now they believe you! So, when they get the oppurtunity they either won't even try, or think it is gonna hurt so that they get tense, can't relax, and guess what..... it hurts. You just help to perpetuate a huge myth and misinformation. Maybe that's why sixteen yeara olds shouldn't be having sex.
Your boyfriend needs a louisville slugger shoved up his ass, cause he is more to blame than you!
You learn how to drive before you get behind the wheel don't you? Why don't you do the same with your body. Of course i'm sure y' all know best right! Can't get preggers the first time either right! You do what you want, but don't ruin it for others cause you didn't take the time to do it right!

 

Anal Play 101

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Essential Tips for Exploring Anal Play

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While it still remains a taboo subject in public, privately more and more men and women are interested in exploring anal play in one form or another. While it is by no means a required part of healthy sexual expression (as with any other sexual behavior, anal play should be a choice, not a pressure) this increased interest is good news for at least two reasons. The Benefits of Anal Eroticism

Firstly, more interest means more of us can get clear and accurate information about a part of the body often shrouded in mystery.

Secondly, this whole area of our body has been largely ignored for its sexual potential. The bum, the anus, and the rectum are all sites of enormous potential pleasure. They respond to feelings of touch, pressure, movement, and can be incredibly pleasurable.

That said, there is still a pervasive taboo about anal play, and perhaps because of this, sharing this sort of forbidden activity can also be a way of increasing the intimacy between partners.

Dispelling fear and combating ignorance is the first step to enjoying anal sex. Here are five important steps to exploring anal play.

1. Learn about the anus. These are some of the pleasure points: The opening of the anus contains the highest concentration of nerve endings. Thereafter, the anus responds mostly to feelings of fullness or pressure. Putting pressure on the ventral wall of the anus a couple of inches in will stimulate the (male) prostate gland. The tip of the (internal) clitoral body in women can also be stimulated through the anus.
2. Relax and take the time to explore your anal opening (sphincter muscles), anal canal, (male) prostate gland. Be conscious of what feels good, what does not. Stop if you are overwhelmed by difficult or negative emotions. Breathe, relax, continue if you choose. If it hurts, do not force it. Pain is an indication that something is not quite right.
3. Open your mind to all the possibilities of anal play. These include touching with fingers or other body parts or objects, licking or oral-anal contact (popularly known as rimming), pulling open the buttocks thereby stretching the anal opening, and penetration with fingers, toys, penis. Do not forget fantasy and dirty talking to augment anal play -- or during another type of play entirely!
4. Play safely. Because the lining of the anus is very sensitive to damage, special precautions should be taken. Anything near or in the anus should be smooth or free of jagged edges; cut fingernails short and round the edges with an emery board. Dildos with a flared base are advised - anything that slips out of your grasp may not be easily retrievable! Lubricant is essential for anal penetration as the anus does not produce its own lubrication.
5. Keep clean. Do not put anything from the anus to vagina -- bacteria that live quite happily in the anus with cause havoc in the vagina. Use a fresh condom on penis or toys and a fresh latex glove on hands, or wash very thoroughly. If there is risk of hepatitis, use a dental dam or slice open a condom to use as a barrier for oral-anal contact.

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Yes ....I am off the hook about this. I really enjoy both giving and receiving. It is the myths, misinfo, and just plain thoughtlessness that turn women off to something that truly can rock their world.

It's dirty: no ..it doesn't have to be....thats on you
It hurts: NO....NO....NO, IF it hurts you, YOU, are doing it WRONG!!!!
I can use spit or my own natural luve: NOO....YOU CAN'T. You HAVE to use some kind of lube intended for the purpose.
I have to let him to show him I love him, If you buy this then you derserve to have a pain in the ass, cause you lsure have one for a boyfriend.
I don't need a condom: Wrong again! Diseases can be spread, and you can get pregnant if any semen, any, come anywhere near the vagina. Condoms, lubricated, also hlp with deeping things clean.

Hey man! LOVE the one your with, but show her you love her by doing things the right way....It ain't all about you it's all about the both of you. DO it right or don't do it at all!

Nuf said...peace out!

 

No we used lots of lubricant and he didnt even go in all the way and it still hurt. But thanks for the advice.

 

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Hey no prob.

 

i decided that anal is wierd.

 

What's so weird about it?

 

Probably the thought of it being the wrong hole?
That's my calculation...

 

Well, it's only the wrong hole for those who don't enjoy it. But there are plenty who love to receive it, so it's not the wrong hole for them. Hell, look at the poll. Over 26% prefer anal to vaginal and another 14% like it equally to vag sex. And that doesn't even take into consideration those who might prefer vag, but still enjoy anal on occasion. So you're probably looking at around half of the non-virgins here who like anal to some degree. Wrong hole? Doubt it. Weird? Not in this day and age. Is it for you? Perhaps not, and there's nothing wrong with that. But ya gotta admit that with a ratio like we have here, it's hard to label it as wrong.

 

Well my friend then the guys down at the lab will have a accurate accounting of the populous that has been damaged within this community now won't they?

 

Damaged? How?

 

I think you have literally no clue what your talking about. How has anybody been damaged?

 

Ok so i just had anal and if i could revote i would have to say anal is better. Once your try it your thoughts on it will change. At first i hated it but now i love it. But i think if i would have done it with just some random guy it wouldnt have been that good but i think if you do it with someone you love and trust then it makes things feel a lot better.

 

Congrats Casie. It is always good to hear about people good experiences .

 

Im a virgin still... but pretty much everything turns me on lol. Id love to do a girl in the ass or the vagina. But i want to try anal.