Another love advice thread.

another vote for date meli

:sifone: :cheers2:

 

LMFAO. It's funny because it's half-true.

You're pretty cool though most of the time. This dude sounds like he treats Sara as if she's pretty much disposable. You seem more appreciative that your girlfriend is around and still puts up with your shit. That's different than treating someone like dirt and dragging them through the mud for 3 years.

Not here to make judgments - and I think I've crossed that line.

Fuck. I'm so bad at this.

Forgive me Sara!!! PLEASE!!

It's in my nature to lecture and criticize. Ugh. I feel like a tool.

 

you're right. they've been together for three years and now that they're official he can't seem to stop talking to his ex? it's not like he's just talking as friends either.

sara, don't be stupid. get rid of him

if he loves you like he says then he will try to get you back no matter what it takes

 

^^See, that's what I see too.

Like, I'm sure his intentions may seem like they're good ones but the proof is in his actions and behaviour. Lying time after time to your face just so he can text his ex girlfriend seems EXCEPTIONALLY unlikely that is all he is doing. And sticking around to find out the truth behind it all isn't even worth the effort.

I'm just paranoid that Sara will end up with an STD, friendships torn apart and her heart broken.

I dunno. I guess it appears Sara, like it isn't a matter of how much you feel towards him, as much as it seems like it matters to you more how he feels about you in return. It's kind of like you think you need him. Especially after the long haul.

But the dude's been keeping you a secret for so long, from his parents, from his ex, from his friends, etc. he can't own up to the fact that it doesn't matter to him at all how he really feels about you - and that's what I find really sad about this whole thing.

*hugs*

 

No one wants the STDz

 

what? sara has AIDS?

or is gonorrhea from a tractor..

 

Ari your advice is really appreciated. I like hearing it!!!
I still don't know what to do. I guess he's gonna talk to his ex today and tell her to quit talking to him, but I don't know if thats gonna help me feel too much better? Ughh I just am so confused right now, I don't want to let him go

 

break his heart before he breaks yours cause that'll make you feel even worse. there are other fish in the sea, you can find another fish. i know you're feeling pretty bad right now but it's always dark before the dawn

just fucking dump him. he's been lying to you and that's the worse thing you can do in a relationship! especially when he's lying to you about another girl. quit being an idiot, don't let your feelings cloud your judgment

 

"A wise girl kisses, but doesn't love. Listens, but doesn't believe. Leaves, before she is left

 

Sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do.

 

Wait, what? I thought he promised that he wasn't going to talk to her - and now he's going to talk to her (face to face?!) so that he can tell her that he wants nothing to do with her?

What the hell?

I'm so confused. How hard is it to send an email and say "I'm not taking this any further and I need to stop having contact with you. Goodbye. I'm in love with Sara".

Why does he have to test you like this? What the fuck. Haven't you been through enough?

Grrrrrrr. I'm < close to kicking his douche-bag ass.

 

*takes a sign*
DUMP THE DOUCHE!
*joins picketing*

 

Threesome!!!!!!!!

 

Ari is Canadian, to make a Canadian mad this guy must be a douche

 

Ya he promised not to talk to her anymore, but I told him that he is gonna tell her that he is done with her for good.. but he hasn't yet. I'm gonna text him a little bit later and tell him if he doesn't I'm peacinnnn

 

can you really trust what he tells you anymore?

 

yupp

 

No, I guess not... but he even said he wanted to be with only me and he'd do anything to make me happy. He said he'd talk to her, and he said that he wants to build our trust back up because he hates that we can't trust each other. I guess I kinda believe that. I'm gonna text him now and tell him to talk to his fuckin ex nowwwwww haha

 

this guy makes me mad -_-

 

He makes me mad, too!

I wish I could message his ex myself. I'd have a lot to say haha