Another love advice thread.

I guess some of you think I'm in the wrong here.. yeah, he's not writing too much back to his ex, but he has said some things that were innapropriate to her, and I'm mad about that. I've calmed down a bit since we fought earlier, but we're talking about this further after I'm done with classes today.

 

It's been 3 years. He needs to stop making sexy talk with a girl he's not supposed to be into anymore.

Ladies and gentlemen, may I please have your attention. The defendant presents the court with Exhibit A - a chart of Sara's happiness in her relationship with a douchebag:

 

hahaha nice chart!

 

Why do people think they have the right to tell others what they should or should not do/be into?

It's his life, if he wants to talk to some scall on his phone he can do that. No harm no foul. But if he does anything physical with her then yeah, then there's a problem.

 

So you would be ok if your girl was asking a guy if he was dreamin about her vag...ok well not most ppl are ok with this behavior when they are in a committed relationship. It is his life but he is in a relationship, relationships have boundaries and he crossed one. Physical or not this is still inappropriate, I don't see how you don't think it is.

 

She's said almost that exact thing to them many times (in a sarcastic way obviousy). Mostly to my one buddy because he thinks she's so hot.

It's so funny because he'll try to hit on her and she'll sit there laughing but he keeps trying. I know he's never gonna get her box, so I don't give a shit.

 

little bit of a different scenario bud, she isn't going behind your back in a text message to her ex

 

he needs to talk to her about leaving him alone, why is it so hard to do that?

 

date meli!

 

My girlfriends ex is another girl.

.........Trust me, I've been barkin' up this tree for almost 4 years.

 

you could show him this thread. we have known this guy only through your eyes, so how we feel (as your internet friends, and who knows what that is defined as nowadays) is a reflection of your perception of him and your situation. im high, so i hope that makes sense. i like ari's chart too. why settle for mediocre? you want a man who is willing to woo you, who makes you light up when he walks in a room, even if you are mad at him at the time. this guy should be bent over backwards to keep a catch like you, and hes not.
the way i see it, even if you don't plan to have kids or a family right now, thats what you are shopping for. you want a man you can trust to care for you when you are pregnant, who can provide for you, even if you have a career as well. someone who you can trust with your children, with your heart. not someone whos eye wanders, or who wasnt brought up withthe logic and fucking manners, the tact, to not continue his communications with an ex even though he was told that you didnt like it. he CHOSE to lie about it, repeatedly, to your face. this is not the way to keep a partner. this is not someone you can trust in the long term.
you say he wants to stay with you. do you dare to ask him why?

 

I love you Mother's Love. You're so cool.

 

Wow, just wow.

 

aww, ty Ari. i dont know if ive ever been called that before

 

We talked more yesterday, he talked to his ex and told her to knock it off. She was kinda upset I guess, and said that the only reason she kept trying to talk to him is because she thought there might be hope that they'd get back together in the future He said that there is and was never another chance, and that they shouldn't be talking anymore. She never wrote him back after that, and he deleted her phone number once again.

I'm pretty happy about it.. and we had an awesome night last night after we discussed everything. We're just gonna try to mend our relationship and make it better now.

 

congrats sara

i'm glad you're feeling better about it now

 

Ughhh so am I. He was so pissed I kept bringing it up more and I was like dude the only way to get me to shut up is to just talk to your ex.. how fuckin hard is it? Haha..
So he did, and now I think we're back on track..

 

so it ended up being his ex afterall? man, he sure did lie to you a lot

 

Well, no.. he is still saying it was that other girl.. but I made him text his ex anyway, cause ya, I'm sure it was her talking to him.