When I was with my ex, she really messed with my head. I was able to get erect, but I was unable to orgasm with her due to the time pressure she put on me. ( basically, I was on a 'shot clock' - if I didn't orgasm within five minutes, she was done with me) While our marriage was collapsing, I had an affair and had no issues for the most part. With my current bride, I find myself getting frustrated when it doesn't happen within 15 minutes or so. I have talked with a therapist who reminded me I am no longer with my ex, but this issue keeps cropping up. I usually have to finish myself off. I keep trying meditation, positive affirmations, the works, but that conditioning keeps coming back. If anyone has any suggestions on how to overcome this, I am all ears.
Interesting. One would expect a problem of going off too soon. It's easy to get all inside your head when you're over thinking it, too, especially being shell shocked from wife 1.0 ... Can you turn up the foreplay? Like a warm up bj? Can you turn down the lube a bit so you get more traction? How about a different position? I find doggy very stimulating and I never last long. How about porn? 15 minutes is not overly long, I'd think she'd want 15 minutes of action. Is it any different solo? Have a few drinks, or some edibles...they make me horny as shit and it's hard to hold back. As one ages, your sensitivity naturally decreases, especially if you're circumcised. I've seen that myself.
